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Husband having a go when I touch up make up on holiday

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Geoleo · 22/07/2026 17:35

Does your husband have patience with you touching up your make up/putting in a few curls in your hair when you’re on holiday. Obviously in the morning we usually agree a time to leave the room so that’s less an issue. Although he does insist I do my hair / makeup in the bathroom and forbids putting on the light in the room which can be awkward when I need to look for items.

But if we go to the room for a freshen up he is completely on me and moaning if I decide I want to touch up my make up. Just saying “come on hurry up” “we’re wasting time” the entire time etc. Im definitely not putting on a full face just cleaning up lip liner/mascara or brushing my hair and reapplying deodorant. 10 mins at most. I don’t know his moaning has absolutely annoyed me. 10 mins either way should not make a difference to anything. Why can’t he just sit on his phone and not nag me for 10 mins. Is this normal?

i enjoy looking my best. I know not everyone cares for make up but I do

he nags non stop even if we have agreed I can have 10 mins.

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EmeraldShamrock000 · 22/07/2026 17:54

Tell him to go sit in the lounge and stop moaning or you’ll move very slowly to piss him off more. He’s impatient, he needs to be impatient elsewhere.

AImportantMermaid · 22/07/2026 17:51

Is it really 10 minutes though? ‘A few curls’ will easily take 10 minutes and probably closer to 20 minutes - on its own. My mother is like this - always primping herself. What she thinks is 10 minutes is actually closer to 40 minutes. Luckily she gets up at 5am to start prettifying herself, and all her equipment is in a special cupboard in her bathroom.

Just tell your DH to go down without you and he can have a drink while he’s waiting.

Geoleo · 22/07/2026 17:44

it put me on edge every time we went back to the room. Bloody annoying

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palorina · 22/07/2026 17:43

I thought DH was having a go at putting on make up there.

Overtheatlantic · 22/07/2026 17:42

“Compose yourself, child!” and continue with your lipliner.

GrantMyWishes · 22/07/2026 17:41

Tell him to stop bugging you, making sure you look your best gives you confidence and makes you feel good about yourself, and maybe he should be making a bit more of an effort himself, if of course that's appropriate, but whatever you do, don't give into his demands. What a prick!

Geoleo · 22/07/2026 17:41

Forbid maybe be overstating but I don’t use the light in the main room until he is up. Which is only ever 10 mins before we agree to leave. He only needs to shower and dress in the morning. Whereas I do tend to do make up and hair.

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AggroPotato · 22/07/2026 17:40

Why does he need to wait in the room for you? Why can't he just go down to the bar or something, or read on his phone?

This is strange behaviour.

campista · 22/07/2026 17:40

He needs training. Get him started, cheeky, selfish sod!

Wednesdaytoday · 22/07/2026 17:39

I rarely wear makeup during the day on holiday. I don't see the point if it's a resort/beach holiday. I never touch up my makeup at home never mind go to the effort on holiday. For the evening I wear makeup but don't bother touching up.

DH pays no attention let alone tells me what to do or harasses me.

SilenceInside · 22/07/2026 17:39

My DP doesn’t “forbid” me from doing anything. I don’t understand why he objects to turning the bedroom light on - is he still asleep whilst you’re getting ready? Surely not.

Anyway, nagging and moaning at you is not on. If you say you’ll be 10 mins then he should leave you be for that time and then just check if you’re ready. Or go ahead and you can catch up with him.

PinkNailPolish2026 · 22/07/2026 17:39

canthavetoomanylights · 22/07/2026 17:37

You lost me at ‘forbids’. No man would forbid me from doing what I wanted.

Exactly this. He’d not be forbidding me to do anything!

Feelinghothothothot · 22/07/2026 17:38

Ten minutes seems a long time just to retouch eyeliner and brush your hair but he shouldn’t be angry about it. What is his problem?

canthavetoomanylights · 22/07/2026 17:37

You lost me at ‘forbids’. No man would forbid me from doing what I wanted.

BeardOToots · 22/07/2026 17:36

10 minutes! He doesn’t know how lucky he is 😂

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