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Husband having a go when I touch up make up on holiday

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Geoleo · 22/07/2026 17:35

Does your husband have patience with you touching up your make up/putting in a few curls in your hair when you’re on holiday. Obviously in the morning we usually agree a time to leave the room so that’s less an issue. Although he does insist I do my hair / makeup in the bathroom and forbids putting on the light in the room which can be awkward when I need to look for items.

But if we go to the room for a freshen up he is completely on me and moaning if I decide I want to touch up my make up. Just saying “come on hurry up” “we’re wasting time” the entire time etc. Im definitely not putting on a full face just cleaning up lip liner/mascara or brushing my hair and reapplying deodorant. 10 mins at most. I don’t know his moaning has absolutely annoyed me. 10 mins either way should not make a difference to anything. Why can’t he just sit on his phone and not nag me for 10 mins. Is this normal?

i enjoy looking my best. I know not everyone cares for make up but I do

he nags non stop even if we have agreed I can have 10 mins.

OP posts:
ClayPotaLot · 22/07/2026 19:39

He doesn’t have much patience or flexibility. But maybe you’re just not that compatible?

It seems odd if it’s just when you’re on holiday. I could see finding an obsession like this annoying if it’s a constant and important focus, to be honest. And I find an obsession with looks unattractive anyway. But I don’t know why it would only show up on holiday.

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 22/07/2026 19:38

I think it's weird wearing that much make up

Honeyhonayboo · 22/07/2026 19:37

Highlandschmiland · 22/07/2026 19:14

This won’t be popular and while it’s unreasonable for him to nag you. It would annoy me hanging about while someone did their face every verse end. Wear your make up but I wouldn’t expect anyone to hang about while it perfected myself and I would see it as wasting time while I was sat waiting g for you to do curls and eye liner. May be have a few days without it and see how things change, you might even prefer it not having to ‘redo’ yourself after every swim!

Oh get over yourself, she obviously isn’t making him accompany her to the room to wait on her reapplying makeup after every swim 🙄

Andshesoffatatrot · 22/07/2026 19:34

Can’t he go down to the bar or whatever if he’s that impatient.

Id tell him fuck off

ScarlettOYara · 22/07/2026 19:32

Highlandschmiland · 22/07/2026 19:14

This won’t be popular and while it’s unreasonable for him to nag you. It would annoy me hanging about while someone did their face every verse end. Wear your make up but I wouldn’t expect anyone to hang about while it perfected myself and I would see it as wasting time while I was sat waiting g for you to do curls and eye liner. May be have a few days without it and see how things change, you might even prefer it not having to ‘redo’ yourself after every swim!

What? It's her face and hair. Her choice. He doesn't need to "hang around". Heaven forfend a grown man can either occupy himself for 10 mins or go down to the pool or wherever.
He's rude and controlling.

mondaytosunday · 22/07/2026 19:31

What’s the rush? You’re on holiday! He needs to chill out.

ScarlettOYara · 22/07/2026 19:29

PS5Gamer · 22/07/2026 19:27

Another day on Mumsnet, another Dickhead husband. Switch the light on, and tell him to get up and shut the fuck up.

Absolutely. Why on earth do some women put up with men like this? The first time would be the last for me.

Flyingdolphins · 22/07/2026 19:28

Any man who 'forbids' would not be my husband in the first place.

username2185 · 22/07/2026 19:27

Why can’t he go back down to sunbathe or whatever himself? Why does he need to wait.

also if this was my husband I’d tell him to FO 😂

CoralDreamer · 22/07/2026 19:27

Could he not go back down to the pool and wait for you? Could you go up to the room 10 mins earlier so he isn’t waiting? I take longer than DH to get ready of an evening so I go up to the room 30 mins before everyone else. He’s normally still waiting for me but he’ll sit on the balcony with a beer and isn’t bothered about it. Holidays should be a chilled out time, not bickering over the time it takes to get ready.

PS5Gamer · 22/07/2026 19:27

Another day on Mumsnet, another Dickhead husband. Switch the light on, and tell him to get up and shut the fuck up.

gamerchick · 22/07/2026 19:23

Highlandschmiland · 22/07/2026 19:14

This won’t be popular and while it’s unreasonable for him to nag you. It would annoy me hanging about while someone did their face every verse end. Wear your make up but I wouldn’t expect anyone to hang about while it perfected myself and I would see it as wasting time while I was sat waiting g for you to do curls and eye liner. May be have a few days without it and see how things change, you might even prefer it not having to ‘redo’ yourself after every swim!

Why do you need to be hanging about? What's it got to do with you if someone you're away with wants to pop back to their room for any reason?

Besidemyselfwithworry · 22/07/2026 19:23

canthavetoomanylights · 22/07/2026 17:37

You lost me at ‘forbids’. No man would forbid me from doing what I wanted.

This
he sounds a control freak and no doubt this is the tip of the iceberg and the least of your problems!
get rid of this man!

Fiftyandnotsonifty · 22/07/2026 19:23

I’d be telling him to fuck off!

hourspassed · 22/07/2026 19:23

I'd encourage him to go without you and say 'see you in the bar' or 'meet you by the pool' or whatever. He can go and get himself a drink while he's waiting. I would also not put the light on in the bedroom while my DH is asleep. I almost always get up before him and sort my clothes out in our spare room so I can get ready in the morning without waking him up. Just respecting our differences really!

Megifer · 22/07/2026 19:23

arethereanyleftatall · 22/07/2026 19:18

Does he gave expectations that you look made up? If he does, then he can swivel. If he’s the kind of bloke that would be quite happy with you with no make up, no nails done, hair in a pony, then, yes, that’s quite an incompatibility.

Dont you mean if hes the kind of bloke that doesnt like op wanting to feel good about herself then they're incompatible?

icingonmycupcake · 22/07/2026 19:22

If you can brave it go out with him make up free, sporting bed head hair and an old trackie. He'll never complain about how long you take to get ready again.

FinallyHere · 22/07/2026 19:22

canthavetoomanylights · 22/07/2026 17:37

You lost me at ‘forbids’. No man would forbid me from doing what I wanted.

This. Sorry.

gamerchick · 22/07/2026 19:21

Sorry dude. Forbids and husband is enough for me.

He has absolutely no right to forbid you to do anything.

Have you tried throwing swears at him? I can think of a few.

Rosegard · 22/07/2026 19:21

Why are you tolerating it?
Move out to another bedroom is my answer.
He sounds like and arsehole.

Jazz7 · 22/07/2026 19:20

And if you didn’t next thing he’d complain you’d let yourself go. You are who he married re I d him of that and stand up for yourself don’t seethe in silence

TB23 · 22/07/2026 19:19

Cooshawn · 22/07/2026 18:53

I'm a bit confused here so I've assumed he doesn't want you to put the big light on in the morning as he's still in bed sleeping.

I don't really know what you're freshening up for or when, but it would get on my tits having to go back to the room for someone to re-do their makeup, except if it's to actually chill, shower and change to go out in the evening.

Genuinely, it's exhausting being with someone who's very uptight about how they look.

Why does he even have to come along during the day if she wants to pop back to the room? For whatever reason. Surely they are not surgically attached to each other. If she wants to take more time getting ready in the morning and doesn't turn the main room light on, then surely that's fine. Each to their own. I don't need lots of time to get ready, but it's her holiday too. And they must know this about each other...

arethereanyleftatall · 22/07/2026 19:18

Does he gave expectations that you look made up? If he does, then he can swivel. If he’s the kind of bloke that would be quite happy with you with no make up, no nails done, hair in a pony, then, yes, that’s quite an incompatibility.

Highlandschmiland · 22/07/2026 19:14

This won’t be popular and while it’s unreasonable for him to nag you. It would annoy me hanging about while someone did their face every verse end. Wear your make up but I wouldn’t expect anyone to hang about while it perfected myself and I would see it as wasting time while I was sat waiting g for you to do curls and eye liner. May be have a few days without it and see how things change, you might even prefer it not having to ‘redo’ yourself after every swim!

TB23 · 22/07/2026 19:13

Sorry, what?! He forbids you? That's not how this works. It's your holiday too, so a compromise is necessary. You are getting ready in the morning without turning the light on in the room for him, he can surely wait 10 minutes during the day. To be honest, he sounds somewhat controlling.