Husband having a go when I touch up make up on holiday

Yeah this might be the best idea. Rather than him hurrying her and her thinking he should play on his phone whilst she touches up, maybe the best thing would be Option C. He agrees he's going to the pub next door/gallery across the road/beach to get on with his holiday, and she can see him there when she's ready.

I get that but it does impact on the person just have to sit and wait
I think I can just relate to when your partner smokes and your having to hang about waiting whilst they nip off for 5 minutes

Sounds like my hairdresser! Except she was complaining that the girls (her word) she holidays with always fall out with her because she takes ages messing around.
Do like she does, tell him/them to meet you.

💯 mumsnet has a huge issue with makeup and any other silly girl things.

Pick me girls are the worst flavour of misogyny.

I want to say YANBU and you should be able to get ready how you want etc etc and
Anyone can in theory should be able to take ANY length of time to get ready if they want and touch up their hair, make up, sit on the loo etc for as long as they want but I would find this insufferable

He only gets up 10 mins before leaving, and that's your only opportunity??

Whats he normally like towards you?

Put the fucking light on!

Forbids🤬

Yes, specifics needed. He might BU. It's also possible based on what you've written that it's you being the irritating one if you want to fuck about for 10 minutes several times throughout the day.

You ask why he couldn't go on his phone, but that's not the only option. Would you be ok with him going and doing something else until such a time as you've finished your touch ups?

This is too complex. “What time we going out tonight?” “Let’s aim for 7:30”

me, shower at 6:30, washes hair, bit of make up, ready for 7:10 when I lay on the bed and a scroll until leave time.

DH, shower at 7:15, shave, bit of hair gel, quick check of work emails, ready at 7:28.

I don’t get the issue OP.

Putting make up on everyday and wanting to touch it up is an obsession to me.

And how on earth does cleaning up lip liner/mascara or brushing hair and reapplying deodorant take 10 mins? Those are 60 second jobs... unless you're obsessed.

If my husband is ready in the evening and I’m still getting ready, he takes the kids down to the bar and leaves me to it.
He doesn’t need to be in the room, bored waiting for you.
I have a full shower, hair wash, dry, straighten and make up in the evenings on holiday, I get it done in about 30 minutes which I think is fair.

So, at no point during her day is she allowed to do anything for herself? She has to follow him around because he has decided that he wants to do things at specific times? Why does he get to set the schedule every day?

Also, if he allowed her to turn on the light when she gets up, rather than only letting her turn on a light 10 minutes before they’re due to leave, he wouldn’t have to wait for her.

I swear to god that if the OP had said “My DH forbids me from reading / popping into a shop to buy some postcards / stopping to take a couple of photos on holiday” nobody would be taking his side. But because it’s makeup and hair she likes, suddenly it’s OK to shit on her for it. Pure misogyny.

I can safely say I have never touched up my make up or put a few curls in my hair, if anything I’m usually waiting on him to do his ablutions in the bathroom.

This is what I was going to say.

A quick touch up is fine, but how long and how often is DH actually being made to sit there? It's supposed to be a holiday, do you really need to retouch multiple times?

I take at least an hour and half to get ready even on holiday, my partner 10 minutes max! He has never commented and just does something while I'm getting ready, like pouring me a glass of wine! Its my routine and has been for well before I met him. He's never made a comment. Tell him to get lost, I'm sure he has lots of habits that irritate you too.

Does he do the same when you're on the loo?

When / how often are your touch ups, OP?

On hols I would get ready in the morning, brush hair / deodorant / teeth / suncream. Hair up if it’s beach or pool day or hat on. I get a brow tint and LVL now before hols so no need for mascara or anything during the day. It wouldn’t occur to me to brush hair or reapply deodorant unless we were out sightseeing all day and even then it would be when I popped to the loo.

I would go and “get ready” in the early evening, shower and smarten myself up.

If this is similar to you OP he’s completely unreasonable. If you’re needing to go back to the room (not just pop to the ladies) more than once a day to reapply full makeup including lip liner and do your hair I could see why he would be a bit eye-roll-y.

Just glad Im low maintenance

I wouldn't even think about make up on holiday , until the evening out and we would both be up in the room from around 4pm anyways , rest, cuppa, shower, chill, drink on the balcony - so Id have as much time as I need to make myself look halfway decent

As for forbidding me to do anything? ............

However we do respect each others ways and needs . On holiday I would easily be up at 4am and he likes to sleep till 9. Not a bother to me, I take a coffee, read, watch the sunrise, go for a walk, get fresh bread, go for a swim , go for a small early breakfast, but come 8am , all bets are off - and I use the facilities as and how I wish

I can’t even imagine this, what an arsehole. My husband will sit there doing whatever till I’m close to ready, then I usually say something like you going to get ready and he’s done ten mins later whilst I potter. If he gave me ten mins and whinged I’d put a stop to thay the first time.

tell him straight, to shut it or fuck off to the bar and you will meet him there.

It doesn’t matter whether you wear makeup and think it’s all a silly faff, because you aren’t the OP.

It also doesn’t matter why she chooses to wear makeup. It’s up to her. Going bare-faced isn’t some morally superior choice.

What matters is that her husband is telling her what she can and can’t do, and is controlling her to the extent that she isn’t allowed to put a light on until he deems it acceptable and she is nervous and on edge around him whenever they’re in the room.

If you think it’s the woman’s makeup that’s the problem here, rather than the abusive man, your internalised misogyny’s showing.

She doesn’t need to be available to him 24 hours a day. It doesn’t matter if she was doing her makeup, having a shower, taking a nap or reading a book. She was busy and she’s allowed to not centre herself on his husband for every waking minute of her holiday.

Exactly, I'd be a complete petty fucker and really take my time 😂 tell him that pissing and whinging about it is stopping you so he's actually making it longer. Though tbh if my DH tried this he'd be swiftly told to fuck off 😁

Don't bring him back up to the room in afternoon? Agree to meet him outside somewhere, at an agreed time, stick to it. Maybe forbid him from moaning? What's he rushing about for? Is it to walk 20 feet in front of you everywhere? Or taking you on a lovely surprise tour and they are leaving at a stated time is probably what I would be looking at. If it's just about ordering you about all day, that's not a holiday

I would tell him to go to the bar and wait for you.

Having to constantly sit waiting for someone can be extremely frustrating
irrespective if it’s in the room or downstairs in bar he’s still hanging about waiting I think it would start to piss me off