AIBU - Not allowing school to film my child?

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This. You are not unreasonable to not want your child filmed, but equally other parents are not unreasonable in wanting to see videos of their children.

Why do they all need to be filmed anyway? Can’t they just enjoy the club without having to perform for the camera. Maybe a few photos where they can be left out or face covered for social media advertising, but filming is unnecessary

Then don’t film. Unless the OP’s contract included the right to film then the club should not be pulling children out of paid for activities because they cannot be photographed.

As @YourOliveBalonz says up thread - either do the job properly, blurring out and masking children without photo consent or don’t do it at all.

Emotionally blackmailing parents who don’t want their children on SM with comments about “the poor other parents” or “they will have to miss the activity” is poor practice.

This boils my blood. My husband is very ill in hospital and cannot be with his kids, I would be very pissed off if one person stopped photo's being taken at Summer club instead of getting their children to step out.

Well I'll know if I see them online myself. I'd like to think they'd use photos of a child who's parents have actually consented over mine though. Both school and nursery have split the consent down into categories when they were asking for photo permissions. Some children would be at risk if they ignore that so they should be respecting it.

How do they manage the security of the feed and the privacy of the children? And presumably the feed is only in the communal areas which might create a sense of security but won’t actually provide any.

Have you tried to do this? It’s incredibly hard when you have a few children who can’t be filmed. Children move around and want to get in the shot! Trying to distract with other activities doesn’t work unless the children are tiny either. What basically happens is that schools or activities stop taking photos and videos to share as it’s too stressful and leads to endless complaints.

What resolution are you looking for from the holiday club?

I think it makes a difference whether it’s for their social media / advertising or just to send to parents

No. Likely 60 seconds!

Exactly.
Exactly this.
Move the child to the side FOR A FEW seconds while you take the picture.
Or, if it's a video of song/ activity do it twice. Once with everyone and once without children who can't be filmed.
The kids don't complain, it's the adults like OP looking for reasons to kick off

No, it will likely be for a few seconds to get a quick video and a couple of photos. How long do you think it would be? Of course they aren’t going to be filming all day long. It would be sporadic. I’ve seen it myself.

It's up to you if you don't want your kid filmed - but well done for spoiling other kids/parents enjoyment. You should not have whinged about your kid being pulled out.

You are absolutely not unreasonable to not want your child to be filmed and photographed.

But other parents do. So you’re being unreasonable in not understanding that your child may have to sit out for a minute or two while they do it for the others. You can’t expect every other family to miss out on photos/videos because of your decisions. Your wishes don’t trump everyone else’s.

Theres no way you’ll know if those photos are not shared externally

It won’t be 5 mins though will it?

Agree with this. It’s all so unnecessarily dramatic. The ‘sitting out’ would literally be a couple of seconds per activity they wish to photograph, so the child absolutely wouldn’t be missing out.

I feel exactly the opposite. Many years ago our local paper published a photo of my nine year old daughter - parental permission wasn't a thing then- and her friends at a local activity during school holidays.
She's right at the front with a big smile, surrounded by about six friends.
It comes up on FB memories and it always makes me smile. She's married now, works full-time and isn't in contact with any of her old friends but we both love this photo.

I haven’t ever posted pictures of my children in any way on social media. This is because I don't really 'get' social media or the competitive parenting it inspires. And I am properly perimenopausal and just a bit tired , life is hard enough to live without photographing it and then posting it up online. And children cannot of course consent to all of this so it seems just a bad idea.
It has never occurred to me to say no to school or other activities taking pictures of or filming activities. Even when I was a kid that happened. For perfectly good and innocent reasons .I do understand that in certain circumstances any pictures of a child circulating may not be safe or appropriate however.

I think OP if you need or want to avoid your child being photographed / filmed you have to accept the measures taken to stop this.
You sound a bit unreasonable otherwise.

I think it depends what they're filming for. I don't mind photos or videos of my DS as long as it's not shared externally. I don't want him appearing on social media, adverts or brochures as I myself don't put him on social media but I don't mind him being included on displays within the setting and on the app. Have you asked what it's for?

I went to a meeting not long ago where around 100 adults were shown photos and videos from a current reception child's tapestry account. I absolutely don't want my child used for things like that, hope that parent consented!

YANBU to not want your child filmed, but YABVU to kick off so that all the other parents miss out on seeing photos and videos of their own children. I think you already know this, that’s why you’ve come here for validation. I feel like there’s others who understandably might not want their children filmed, but you seem like the minority to cause this much fuss so that it’s a blanket ‘no’ for all parents.

Funnily enough I feel videos and photos can serve a safeguarding purpose. It’s surely a good thing that the venue/ organisation is open and transparent for everyone to see. Makes it much more unlikely something untoward would be going on with the camera at the ready?

I think it’s fine to ask that photos aren’t shared widely but honestly abuse happens when things are ‘secret’ and ‘hidden’. I love that my GCs’ nursery/ childminder has a live feed accessible at any time.

They were out of line to suggest your child sit out. If they expect you to pay full price then your child should be able to fully participate.

Nobody has a “right” to photos of your child.

Ive always denied my kids having pics and videos at school clubs or anything you have no idea where they can end up and it's not fair on your kids when they get older they won't want their images out there forever more the world is changing and my kids are now on their mid 20s and they are happy I chose this !! U have to think about their future permission ! X