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AIBU to wonder why a pensioner struggling financially would not use housing equity?

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Powerbungalow · 22/07/2026 10:29

I'm not being unsympathetic

Theres a lady on the news at the moment, saying how times are tough and shes only cooking one meal a week - imagine she's eating cold food.

One thing that stood out though "I own my own house and it costs in maintenance" Depending on where she is, would you not get a life time mortgage or sell and rent? She has a big asset, why not use it to have a better life? I know I would.

She may be holding on to it for inheritance, but she didn't say - if so, then can her family help. It just seems totally crazy

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Differentforgirls · 24/07/2026 19:38

Well when people imagine you pay tax on 16 hours a week minimum wage and use that as an argument, look at what you’re replying to.

A person who’s not the brightest button in the box.

StealMySunshining · 24/07/2026 19:35

panfrydish · 24/07/2026 18:21

@StealMySunshiningThe user base is older on MNs so I guess that explains some of it but many older people do recognise the issues.

It’s weird how all pension-related threads go the same way. No focused discussion but full of individuals justifying their own situations. I’d love more fact-based discussions on MN about topics like this but it won’t happen.

Differentforgirls · 24/07/2026 19:33

Powerbungalow · 24/07/2026 17:37

Surely the single parent has a harder time than the student? Because of all the other stuff they need to deal with

On 16 hours a week minimum wage you pay zero tax.

StealMySunshining · 24/07/2026 19:33

Owninterpreter · 24/07/2026 18:41

Im not sure what people are arguing now - is it people in houses with unprecedented gains shouldnt get the state pension or just that they shouldnt moan about thier lot because they can do something about it.

Yeah the thread has jumped the shark a bit but I’d say it’s the latter.

Differentforgirls · 24/07/2026 19:22

StealMySunshining · 24/07/2026 17:43

Did you not search for me to see if I was a new poster or not? And from that you have concocted this wild narrative that I am somehow on a mission to destroy you. Again, get a grip. I don’t care about you. I am contributing to a discussion about pension policy.

While lying about me moaning “how little I get”.

Grow a backbone.

Owninterpreter · 24/07/2026 18:41

Im not sure what people are arguing now - is it people in houses with unprecedented gains shouldnt get the state pension or just that they shouldnt moan about thier lot because they can do something about it.

panfrydish · 24/07/2026 18:21

@StealMySunshiningThe user base is older on MNs so I guess that explains some of it but many older people do recognise the issues.

StealMySunshining · 24/07/2026 18:13

panfrydish · 24/07/2026 18:05

@StealMySunshiningits a very narrow experience on MNs!

Everything is taken as a personal attack on MN, it’s so bizarre. I think it comes from generations of viewing and treating pensioners like they need extra care and support. Which, prior to the current cohort of pensioners, was absolutely true. However, we are now in a position where this cohort of pensioners hold the most wealth out of any other age demographic in the country.

So why are we still giving the highest levels of support to the wealthiest demographic? It makes no sense.

Differentforgirls · 24/07/2026 18:10

StealMySunshining · 24/07/2026 17:30

Oh my god what are you talking about? This is an anonymous, online forum. Get a grip. Stop quoting nonsense at me and stop stalking me across Mumsnet, it’s pathetic.

Please post the other threads I have replied to you on.

Differentforgirls · 24/07/2026 18:08

StealMySunshining · 24/07/2026 17:43

Did you not search for me to see if I was a new poster or not? And from that you have concocted this wild narrative that I am somehow on a mission to destroy you. Again, get a grip. I don’t care about you. I am contributing to a discussion about pension policy.

Then stop replying and also stop lying that I moan about what little I ‘get’ as I get SFA. Any money I have as income is money from private pensions.

You are basically a liar.

If you’re not, link to me moaning about how little I “get”.

panfrydish · 24/07/2026 18:05

@StealMySunshiningits a very narrow experience on MNs!

panfrydish · 24/07/2026 18:04

@Katyppyou genuinely want to know why I think your post is nonsense?

Why does questioning whether someone with an asset should contribute towards their costs mean you are envious and spiteful?

Younger generations are disadvantaged when it comes to housing costs, 5.5m used to live in council homes, what is that figure today?

Every generation does have its struggles but the ones facing today’s young are unprecedented. And many of those you call entitled won’t be living in a house worth more because they won’t get out of renting and they won’t have children either.

StealMySunshining · 24/07/2026 17:56

panfrydish · 24/07/2026 17:50

@StealMySunshiningIt will get ignored, I also read recently that in the 90s about 1.6m paid higher rate tax, today it’s nearly 6m largely driven by fiscal drag…

It’s crazy! It will get ignored because everyone focuses on their own experiences and anecdotal data. We are talking about a country as a whole: we can’t create fiscal policy based on the experiences of Anne down the road.

But yeah, of that cohort of pensioners (who will currently be between the ages of 80-89), 64% of them did not work FT for at least 75% of their working lives. So what were they doing? Because the way posters on here are talking, everyone was down the pit or on the front line or something.

panfrydish · 24/07/2026 17:52

Also back to the OP equity release has changed & you can ring fence, can’t owe more than your home etc. It’s not the product it was, some are even using it as a means of avoiding IHT.

panfrydish · 24/07/2026 17:50

@StealMySunshiningIt will get ignored, I also read recently that in the 90s about 1.6m paid higher rate tax, today it’s nearly 6m largely driven by fiscal drag…

StealMySunshining · 24/07/2026 17:48

Powerbungalow · 24/07/2026 17:37

Surely the single parent has a harder time than the student? Because of all the other stuff they need to deal with

But you see I don’t think that’s relevant. Both individuals are working the same number of hours and contributing the same NI and taxes. Why should their individual circumstances matter? Because if we are saying that they do, then we start making moral judgements about who “deserves” more or who has worked “harder”, which is where the current cohort of pensioners fall down.

panfrydish · 24/07/2026 17:46

Katypp · 24/07/2026 17:35

But you don't know that any more than I do.
Posters on here are very keen on hyperbole to prove their point - no house growth, no pensions, working until you drop - when the fact is no one knows how things will pan out.
If someone had told me when I was 30 I would be living in a house worth £350,000 I would probably have reacted the same.

You have confused me, we don’t know what?

The changing demographics? We know we have an ageing population, there are more over 60s than over 20s now.

We know that lending criteria has changed, you can’t get 95% interest only mortgages, you can’t self certify without any proof.

We know that wages have stagnated and economic growth has eluded us for nearly 20 years.

Affordability is a factor because interest rates of 5/6% with today’s actual prices have the same squeeze on incomes like the higher interest rates of the past.

Of course a house you buy today should be worth more in 10 years, due to inflation but decades ago we had huge above inflationary gains and today many properties aren’t even keeping pace with inflation.

What do you think is going to drive huge property price growth like we saw in the 80s and 90s?

Powerbungalow · 24/07/2026 17:45

PullingOutHair123 · 24/07/2026 08:14

Of course it’s compounding. Giving it a name doesn’t make it ethical. It just gives the family a spiralling debt.

It's not a debt in the way a family would need to pay back, they wouldn't be inheriting the house

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StealMySunshining · 24/07/2026 17:45

panfrydish · 24/07/2026 17:38

Stats I have provided earlier on in this thread from the DWP shows that of the 1937-1946 cohort of people in the UK, only 36% of them were in FT work for more than 75% of the time. So who are all these people working from dusk til dawn from the age of 15-65?

Quite

None of the posters who are up in arms have said anything about those statistics yet. But I guess the DWP is also out to get the poor pensioners. I knew the figure was lower than people would think but even I was surprised by how low it actually is! Only 36%!

GasPanic · 24/07/2026 17:44

Katypp · 24/07/2026 17:15

House price growth isn't measured in just 10 years but over the course of, say, 40 years, it is pretty much unheard of for house prices not to rise substantially.
If you want to cherry pick a decade, I'll give you 1988-98, when interest rates rose steeply and house prices slumped into negative equity in some cases.
Prices recovered then and they will in the future.

My house was bought for x in 2005. To keep place with inflation it should be worth about 1.8x now.

It's actually worth about 1.5x. So it hasn't even kept up with inflation over the 20 year time period. What it will do over the next 20 years or so I don't know, but I doubt it will "rise substantially".

There are flats around my area that are struggling to keep up with their 2005 purchase price.

It's only certain types of houses and certain parts of the country where prices have risen by large amounts.

StealMySunshining · 24/07/2026 17:43

Differentforgirls · 24/07/2026 17:38

Across mumsnet? One thread. Is lying a habit?

Did you not search for me to see if I was a new poster or not? And from that you have concocted this wild narrative that I am somehow on a mission to destroy you. Again, get a grip. I don’t care about you. I am contributing to a discussion about pension policy.

Powerbungalow · 24/07/2026 17:41

FaceIt · 23/07/2026 19:27

YABVU

After all the blood sweat and tears to have a beautiful and warm comfortable home, I would rather starve than be ripped off by an equity release company or sell up and pay ridiculous amounts in rent.

Do you actually know anyone that’s done it? Because I do, and it was definitely not a happy way out for them.

So they can starve and freeze in their beautiful house that is run down because they can't afford to maintain it

Cool

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Differentforgirls · 24/07/2026 17:38

StealMySunshining · 24/07/2026 17:30

Oh my god what are you talking about? This is an anonymous, online forum. Get a grip. Stop quoting nonsense at me and stop stalking me across Mumsnet, it’s pathetic.

Across mumsnet? One thread. Is lying a habit?

panfrydish · 24/07/2026 17:38

Stats I have provided earlier on in this thread from the DWP shows that of the 1937-1946 cohort of people in the UK, only 36% of them were in FT work for more than 75% of the time. So who are all these people working from dusk til dawn from the age of 15-65?

Quite

Powerbungalow · 24/07/2026 17:37

StealMySunshining · 23/07/2026 16:42

That still doesn’t answer my question.

What is the difference between an 18 year old working 16 hours a week and a parent working 16 hours a week? Both are work. Both are liable for the same rate of NI and taxes. Both will pay in to the system at the same rate. So what’s the difference? Is one more valuable or important than the other? Because I can’t see it.

Surely the single parent has a harder time than the student? Because of all the other stuff they need to deal with

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