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AIBU to wonder why a pensioner struggling financially would not use housing equity?

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Powerbungalow · 22/07/2026 10:29

I'm not being unsympathetic

Theres a lady on the news at the moment, saying how times are tough and shes only cooking one meal a week - imagine she's eating cold food.

One thing that stood out though "I own my own house and it costs in maintenance" Depending on where she is, would you not get a life time mortgage or sell and rent? She has a big asset, why not use it to have a better life? I know I would.

She may be holding on to it for inheritance, but she didn't say - if so, then can her family help. It just seems totally crazy

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StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 12:10

BIossomtoes · 25/07/2026 12:07

only 36% of the cohort born between 1937-1946 were in FT work for more than 75% of their adult lives.

That will be because a lot of them are dead, particularly those who were miners (remember them?) and other manual workers and women live longer than men so are over represented in that cohort. Women frequently worked part time

Current pensioners were predominantly born between 1945 and 1960, do you have corresponding figures covering that age group?

Edited

Tell me you don’t understand how statistics work without telling me you don’t understand.

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 12:09

TheyGrewUp · 25/07/2026 12:03

Is that an inference that we have never supported society.

Come on why don't you tell us how old you are, what you earn, how much tax you pay and how much you have had in UC/free childcare/tax credits, etc. How much you are paying into your pension and how old you were when you started.

I am paying the appropriate, proportional rate of tax for my income. Just like you should be. Except I don’t moan about paying it.

BIossomtoes · 25/07/2026 12:07

only 36% of the cohort born between 1937-1946 were in FT work for more than 75% of their adult lives.

That will be because a lot of them are dead, particularly those who were miners (remember them?) and other manual workers and women live longer than men so are over represented in that cohort. Women frequently worked part time

Current pensioners were predominantly born between 1945 and 1960, do you have corresponding figures covering that age group?

TheyGrewUp · 25/07/2026 12:03

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 11:59

Just pull up the ladder behind you and be done with it.

Is that an inference that we have never supported society.

Come on why don't you tell us how old you are, what you earn, how much tax you pay and how much you have had in UC/free childcare/tax credits, etc. How much you are paying into your pension and how old you were when you started.

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 11:59

TheyGrewUp · 25/07/2026 11:55

Respectfully, our tax bill last year exceedes £100k, from about 2009 to 2016 it exceeded £250k. I think we have more than paid our way. We certainly have nothing to be ashamed of.

Just pull up the ladder behind you and be done with it.

TheyGrewUp · 25/07/2026 11:55

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 11:49

And that’s where you fall down: the assumption that I’m that selfish.

You want the taxpayer to prop you up so that you can hoard as much wealth as possible so that your children benefit? That says it all, and I think the previous generations would be ashamed of that viewpoint, just as the generations that come after you are. I’m certainly ashamed.

Respectfully, our tax bill last year exceedes £100k, from about 2009 to 2016 it exceeded £250k. I think we have more than paid our way. We certainly have nothing to be ashamed of.

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 11:49

TheyGrewUp · 25/07/2026 11:37

But I bet if you were our child, you'd be pissed off. Mum and dad, bloody boomers, having loads more luxury and comfort.

And that’s where you fall down: the assumption that I’m that selfish.

You want the taxpayer to prop you up so that you can hoard as much wealth as possible so that your children benefit? That says it all, and I think the previous generations would be ashamed of that viewpoint, just as the generations that come after you are. I’m certainly ashamed.

Pepperlee · 25/07/2026 11:40

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 10:46

IHT on unused pensions: does not affect pensioners, it affects their beneficiaries.

IHT thresholds frozen: as above

Tax allowances frozen: welcome to the world the rest of us inhabit

House sale funds: what do you mean by “effectively”? It either is or it isn’t, where’s your evidence?

Proposed council tax changes: “proposed” is the operative word here, and again, welcome to the world the rest of us inhabit

PPT or LTV: again, “mooted”, and again, that would affect everybody

Retirement ages change: I doubt the current cohort of pensioners need to worry about that, do you?

Is the above literally all you could come up with? Some policies that make absolutely no difference to pensioners, but affect their beneficiaries. Policies that do and will affect us all, and a change in retirement age that will have absolutely no impact on the current cohort of pensioners?

Give me a break. Was perpetual victim hood taught in schools or something?

The only statistical fact that has so far been provided on this thread was by me: only 36% of the cohort born between 1937-1946 were in FT work for more than 75% of their adult lives. That’s it. So all this guff about current pensioners having worked all hours and poured blood, sweat and tears is nonsense. As a cohort, you most certainly didn’t. And seeing as we can’t make policy decisions based on Sally next door, we need to make them based on trends.

Now I appreciate that is difficult to swallow because for some reason so many of today’s pensioners act like they were on the front line or something, but these are the facts.

The ones claiming that they're victims on here aren't the pensioners. The perpetual moaning isn't coming from them. It's coming from others endlessly griping about them but with no answers and not likely to be any seeing as none of you who're unhappy with the older generation have any suggestions. Is it means testing as soon as retirement hits that you want to see who gets SP? Is it selling up or equity release you want to force as soon as retirement hits? Give us a clue

TheyGrewUp · 25/07/2026 11:37

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 11:33

Good. That’s the whole point of it.

But I bet if you were our child, you'd be pissed off. Mum and dad, bloody boomers, having loads more luxury and comfort.

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 11:34

Pepperlee · 25/07/2026 11:16

Care to tell us what you think the solution is?

No. Because you don’t want a solution. Why change a system that vastly benefits you, eh?

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 11:33

Ginmonkeyagain · 25/07/2026 11:15

I mean... you should be spending your pension pot, that is literally what it is for, not hoarding money for your children.

Exactly. I would love to not spend my money on my living expenses but them’s the breaks.

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 11:33

TheyGrewUp · 25/07/2026 11:05

@StealMySunshining the IHT levy on pensions is going to affect us dramatically. We are going to spend it - and that's the purpose of it.

Good. That’s the whole point of it.

Pepperlee · 25/07/2026 11:16

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 10:46

IHT on unused pensions: does not affect pensioners, it affects their beneficiaries.

IHT thresholds frozen: as above

Tax allowances frozen: welcome to the world the rest of us inhabit

House sale funds: what do you mean by “effectively”? It either is or it isn’t, where’s your evidence?

Proposed council tax changes: “proposed” is the operative word here, and again, welcome to the world the rest of us inhabit

PPT or LTV: again, “mooted”, and again, that would affect everybody

Retirement ages change: I doubt the current cohort of pensioners need to worry about that, do you?

Is the above literally all you could come up with? Some policies that make absolutely no difference to pensioners, but affect their beneficiaries. Policies that do and will affect us all, and a change in retirement age that will have absolutely no impact on the current cohort of pensioners?

Give me a break. Was perpetual victim hood taught in schools or something?

The only statistical fact that has so far been provided on this thread was by me: only 36% of the cohort born between 1937-1946 were in FT work for more than 75% of their adult lives. That’s it. So all this guff about current pensioners having worked all hours and poured blood, sweat and tears is nonsense. As a cohort, you most certainly didn’t. And seeing as we can’t make policy decisions based on Sally next door, we need to make them based on trends.

Now I appreciate that is difficult to swallow because for some reason so many of today’s pensioners act like they were on the front line or something, but these are the facts.

Care to tell us what you think the solution is?

Ginmonkeyagain · 25/07/2026 11:15

I mean... you should be spending your pension pot, that is literally what it is for, not hoarding money for your children.

TheyGrewUp · 25/07/2026 11:05

@StealMySunshining the IHT levy on pensions is going to affect us dramatically. We are going to spend it - and that's the purpose of it.

Powerbungalow · 25/07/2026 10:57

Somersetbaker · 25/07/2026 08:52

In case people have forgotten. The original point of this thread was that a person was claiming to be living in poverty and unable to have a hot meal while spending £50 a week on petrol to take friends and neighbours on shopping trips. It later turned out that the person is a media regular with a different story every time.

Agree.

And my point/question was towards those pensioners living as she claimed to be.

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StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 10:46

NorthXNorthWest · 25/07/2026 01:15

IHT on unused pensions
IHT thresholds frozen
Tax allowances frozen
House sale funds being used to effectively cross subsidise the care costs of those without a house of savings. What are we paying tax, NI and council tax for?
Proposed council tax changes
Mooted PPT or LVT changes
Mooted changes to retirement ages

Who are the "old" and do they all equally benefit?

Of course we need growth

And yet it does not seem a priory.

Edited

IHT on unused pensions: does not affect pensioners, it affects their beneficiaries.

IHT thresholds frozen: as above

Tax allowances frozen: welcome to the world the rest of us inhabit

House sale funds: what do you mean by “effectively”? It either is or it isn’t, where’s your evidence?

Proposed council tax changes: “proposed” is the operative word here, and again, welcome to the world the rest of us inhabit

PPT or LTV: again, “mooted”, and again, that would affect everybody

Retirement ages change: I doubt the current cohort of pensioners need to worry about that, do you?

Is the above literally all you could come up with? Some policies that make absolutely no difference to pensioners, but affect their beneficiaries. Policies that do and will affect us all, and a change in retirement age that will have absolutely no impact on the current cohort of pensioners?

Give me a break. Was perpetual victim hood taught in schools or something?

The only statistical fact that has so far been provided on this thread was by me: only 36% of the cohort born between 1937-1946 were in FT work for more than 75% of their adult lives. That’s it. So all this guff about current pensioners having worked all hours and poured blood, sweat and tears is nonsense. As a cohort, you most certainly didn’t. And seeing as we can’t make policy decisions based on Sally next door, we need to make them based on trends.

Now I appreciate that is difficult to swallow because for some reason so many of today’s pensioners act like they were on the front line or something, but these are the facts.

BIossomtoes · 25/07/2026 09:49

Pepperlee · 25/07/2026 09:44

About 10 years older.

I don’t think so, she looks late 70s to me.

Pepperlee · 25/07/2026 09:44

BIossomtoes · 25/07/2026 09:41

How old do you think she is?

About 10 years older.

BIossomtoes · 25/07/2026 09:41

Pepperlee · 25/07/2026 09:26

Exactly. She was on Good Morning a few years back. She was called Elsie then. She was filmed stirring a pan of soup and was saying that because she couldn't afford to heat her home she spent all day travelling on buses in the winter. Starmer even talked about it. It was a load of bollox and did no favours to other pensioners and if she's 77 I'll eat my hat.

How old do you think she is?

BIossomtoes · 25/07/2026 09:39

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 00:37

I can’t direct quote sections of your post on the app, but the bit where you say if someone’s home needs to be sold to pay for their care (or indeed anything else, in my view), the proceeds should be used exclusively for them - yes, that’s exactly what I think should happen.

No supplementary benefits until personal assets are used for personal needs. I’m not talking about redistribution at all, I’m talking about personal responsibility. So we appear to be in agreement.

Supplementary benefits? Where have you been since the 1970s?

NorthXNorthWest · 25/07/2026 09:30

Somersetbaker · 25/07/2026 08:52

In case people have forgotten. The original point of this thread was that a person was claiming to be living in poverty and unable to have a hot meal while spending £50 a week on petrol to take friends and neighbours on shopping trips. It later turned out that the person is a media regular with a different story every time.

She is being used by some to put the boot into all pensioners.

Pepperlee · 25/07/2026 09:26

Somersetbaker · 25/07/2026 08:52

In case people have forgotten. The original point of this thread was that a person was claiming to be living in poverty and unable to have a hot meal while spending £50 a week on petrol to take friends and neighbours on shopping trips. It later turned out that the person is a media regular with a different story every time.

Exactly. She was on Good Morning a few years back. She was called Elsie then. She was filmed stirring a pan of soup and was saying that because she couldn't afford to heat her home she spent all day travelling on buses in the winter. Starmer even talked about it. It was a load of bollox and did no favours to other pensioners and if she's 77 I'll eat my hat.

Somersetbaker · 25/07/2026 08:52

In case people have forgotten. The original point of this thread was that a person was claiming to be living in poverty and unable to have a hot meal while spending £50 a week on petrol to take friends and neighbours on shopping trips. It later turned out that the person is a media regular with a different story every time.

Pepperlee · 25/07/2026 08:48

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 01:00

The emotive language is just constant on these threads isn’t it? As if we are big, bad wolves for suggesting we’d rather more of taxpayers’ money went to support children than pensioners.

It’s so boring, yet another thread about pensions that could have been an interesting discussion and it descends into this.

That's because you make statements and can't back them up so you get arsey. Yet again you talk about support for pensioners ....SP is the only support for many. Upthread you mentioned supplementary benefits...which are what? You're not being clear enough. Just say what you think should happen to pensioners on retirement if you think they should get no support e.g. SP.