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AIBU to wonder why a pensioner struggling financially would not use housing equity?

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Powerbungalow · 22/07/2026 10:29

I'm not being unsympathetic

Theres a lady on the news at the moment, saying how times are tough and shes only cooking one meal a week - imagine she's eating cold food.

One thing that stood out though "I own my own house and it costs in maintenance" Depending on where she is, would you not get a life time mortgage or sell and rent? She has a big asset, why not use it to have a better life? I know I would.

She may be holding on to it for inheritance, but she didn't say - if so, then can her family help. It just seems totally crazy

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ByTheSeas · 27/07/2026 09:57

TheyGrewUp · 27/07/2026 08:45

@ByTheSeas I'm stating a fact. Many people didn't have those things until later back then although I admit the ILs were a bit quirky. It wasn't about money although they'd have had others think it was.

MIL thought TVs were a negative thing that stopped dc from playing and reading (old fashioned teacher)
FIL didn't much like the telephone and never used it.
FIL onlyn learnt to drive when the bus route changed.

In the 60s it was fairly common for people not to have telephones, cars, tvs. I accept the ILs were outliers.

I thought you meant it was about money.

I was working (post-uni) at almost the time your in laws got their TV so I know what was going on then, as an adult.

TheyGrewUp · 27/07/2026 08:45

@ByTheSeas I'm stating a fact. Many people didn't have those things until later back then although I admit the ILs were a bit quirky. It wasn't about money although they'd have had others think it was.

MIL thought TVs were a negative thing that stopped dc from playing and reading (old fashioned teacher)
FIL didn't much like the telephone and never used it.
FIL onlyn learnt to drive when the bus route changed.

In the 60s it was fairly common for people not to have telephones, cars, tvs. I accept the ILs were outliers.

ByTheSeas · 27/07/2026 08:37

TheyGrewUp · 26/07/2026 21:29

Also often forgotten is that women had few rights. MIL became pg in 1960, DH born Aug 61. MIL was a teacher. She had to leave her job Easter 1961, before she looked "unseemly". No mat pay, no mat leave, no entitlement to her job back. No TV until 1974, no phone until 1978, no family car until 1970. She was evacuated from her family during WW2.

@TheyGrewUp Sorry what are you talking about saying no TV till 1974?
Presumably you mean lack of money and the same for a car.

My parents were born in the 1920s. They are older than your MIL. We had a TV in the early 1960s and a phone. They also had a very small, cheap car.

sittingonabeach · 26/07/2026 21:37

@TheyGrewUp my MIL is slightly younger but worked at a department store, she was allowed to stay on whilst pregnant but wasn’t allowed on the shop floor unless customers saw her. She wasn’t encouraged to come back after having the baby

TheyGrewUp · 26/07/2026 21:29

Also often forgotten is that women had few rights. MIL became pg in 1960, DH born Aug 61. MIL was a teacher. She had to leave her job Easter 1961, before she looked "unseemly". No mat pay, no mat leave, no entitlement to her job back. No TV until 1974, no phone until 1978, no family car until 1970. She was evacuated from her family during WW2.

NorthXNorthWest · 26/07/2026 21:19

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 10:46

IHT on unused pensions: does not affect pensioners, it affects their beneficiaries.

IHT thresholds frozen: as above

Tax allowances frozen: welcome to the world the rest of us inhabit

House sale funds: what do you mean by “effectively”? It either is or it isn’t, where’s your evidence?

Proposed council tax changes: “proposed” is the operative word here, and again, welcome to the world the rest of us inhabit

PPT or LTV: again, “mooted”, and again, that would affect everybody

Retirement ages change: I doubt the current cohort of pensioners need to worry about that, do you?

Is the above literally all you could come up with? Some policies that make absolutely no difference to pensioners, but affect their beneficiaries. Policies that do and will affect us all, and a change in retirement age that will have absolutely no impact on the current cohort of pensioners?

Give me a break. Was perpetual victim hood taught in schools or something?

The only statistical fact that has so far been provided on this thread was by me: only 36% of the cohort born between 1937-1946 were in FT work for more than 75% of their adult lives. That’s it. So all this guff about current pensioners having worked all hours and poured blood, sweat and tears is nonsense. As a cohort, you most certainly didn’t. And seeing as we can’t make policy decisions based on Sally next door, we need to make them based on trends.

Now I appreciate that is difficult to swallow because for some reason so many of today’s pensioners act like they were on the front line or something, but these are the facts.

Your ignorance on the above is a "you" problem. You seem determined to sit in judgement while claiming to have all the answers.

You' are out of your depth. Perhaps you should consider the old saying: "It is better to keep one's mouth shut and be thought a fool than to open it and remove all doubt."

HTH

Differentforgirls · 25/07/2026 16:57

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 12:09

I am paying the appropriate, proportional rate of tax for my income. Just like you should be. Except I don’t moan about paying it.

🤣

Somersetbaker · 25/07/2026 16:51

Ginmonkeyagain · 25/07/2026 13:10

The invlusion of pension pots in tje eatate for IHT was to close a tax avoidance loophole that opened up after the pension freedoms brought in by George Osbourne. Previously you had to use a DC pension pot to buy an annuity, but that was changed to allow people more freedom, so they could leave money in the pot or draw out lump sums from the age of 55 to spend on what they liked. As they were not counted in the estate for IHT purposes but could be used to store money (and there are great tax breaks for lutting money in to them), they became a great tax dodge for high earners.

It still won't affect that many people as you woild have to be pretty well off to have a DC pension pot that you a. don't need to use to fund your retirement and b. that is large enough to tip your estate in to IHT.

It's actually not quite that simple, the tax free transfer to another beneficiary could only happen if the original beneficiary died before the age of 75, after that the transfer was/is taxed at the receivers marginal tax rate. I'm not quite clear how the changes to IHT affect this. As previous poster it does encourage spending the pot, which is after all what it is for and not to over invest ( I know not a problem for most people). This does affect me, and I'm wondering about drawing the tax free lump sum, gifting it and hoping I live another 7 years, luckily I'm in good health, so deprivation of assets won't apply, in any case I have other funds available.

Pepperlee · 25/07/2026 15:57

Seymour5 · 25/07/2026 15:41

Have you considered that the reason why a smaller proportion of people born1937-46 were in full time work? I would think those were mainly women, as many men of that age were very much of the ‘breadwinner’ mentality.

Looking after a home and family has certainly changed in my lifetime, born in ‘46, and even more so for those older than us. No fridge, no freezer, no washing machine, no microwave, no car, no supermarkets, no convenience foods. Few homes had central heating, many had no bathrooms or indoor lavatories. Clothes were often hand sewn, or knitted. Women often looked after older relatives who lived with them.

Life has become much easier in those respects, far less labour intensive, allowing younger generations of women to use childcare and develop careers, and therefore work for a bigger % of their lives.

They haven't considered anything because they jump on the bash the boomer bandwagon. Most of the moaners haven't got a clue what life and money was like back then and don't want to know. Our 1st house had no bathroom and the toilet was down the yard and up the street and was shared with a neighbour. This was late 1960s. We lived there for 5 years with 2 small children. I'm sick of these nasty people. I'm thankful my own children, and my eldest grandchild, have a standard of living far beyond what we had and I'm thankful they're not full of bitterness because I get a SP.

Seymour5 · 25/07/2026 15:41

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 10:46

IHT on unused pensions: does not affect pensioners, it affects their beneficiaries.

IHT thresholds frozen: as above

Tax allowances frozen: welcome to the world the rest of us inhabit

House sale funds: what do you mean by “effectively”? It either is or it isn’t, where’s your evidence?

Proposed council tax changes: “proposed” is the operative word here, and again, welcome to the world the rest of us inhabit

PPT or LTV: again, “mooted”, and again, that would affect everybody

Retirement ages change: I doubt the current cohort of pensioners need to worry about that, do you?

Is the above literally all you could come up with? Some policies that make absolutely no difference to pensioners, but affect their beneficiaries. Policies that do and will affect us all, and a change in retirement age that will have absolutely no impact on the current cohort of pensioners?

Give me a break. Was perpetual victim hood taught in schools or something?

The only statistical fact that has so far been provided on this thread was by me: only 36% of the cohort born between 1937-1946 were in FT work for more than 75% of their adult lives. That’s it. So all this guff about current pensioners having worked all hours and poured blood, sweat and tears is nonsense. As a cohort, you most certainly didn’t. And seeing as we can’t make policy decisions based on Sally next door, we need to make them based on trends.

Now I appreciate that is difficult to swallow because for some reason so many of today’s pensioners act like they were on the front line or something, but these are the facts.

Have you considered that the reason why a smaller proportion of people born1937-46 were in full time work? I would think those were mainly women, as many men of that age were very much of the ‘breadwinner’ mentality.

Looking after a home and family has certainly changed in my lifetime, born in ‘46, and even more so for those older than us. No fridge, no freezer, no washing machine, no microwave, no car, no supermarkets, no convenience foods. Few homes had central heating, many had no bathrooms or indoor lavatories. Clothes were often hand sewn, or knitted. Women often looked after older relatives who lived with them.

Life has become much easier in those respects, far less labour intensive, allowing younger generations of women to use childcare and develop careers, and therefore work for a bigger % of their lives.

Katypp · 25/07/2026 14:56

Pepperlee · 25/07/2026 13:26

How does it vastly benefit me? I get SP. I have a PP and 50% of my late husband's PP. I pay the right amount of tax. FFS explain how I'm vastly benefiting ? And I do want you to tell us what your solution would be.

The irony is some of the loudest moaners on here are the ones who are taking a lot from the state themselves.
I realise that pps might not have children, but the ever-suffering young families who are utterly convinced that no one has ever had life as hard as them and they are unique in paying for pensions for the older generations are themselves recipients of maternity pay, child benefit, free childcare, UC top-ups worth thousands every year.

Pepperlee · 25/07/2026 13:35

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 12:09

I am paying the appropriate, proportional rate of tax for my income. Just like you should be. Except I don’t moan about paying it.

But you certainly moan about everything else. Who on here has moaned about paying tax? It's a fact of life. Death and taxes. You're making stuff up to suit your agenda.

Pepperlee · 25/07/2026 13:26

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 11:34

No. Because you don’t want a solution. Why change a system that vastly benefits you, eh?

How does it vastly benefit me? I get SP. I have a PP and 50% of my late husband's PP. I pay the right amount of tax. FFS explain how I'm vastly benefiting ? And I do want you to tell us what your solution would be.

Ginmonkeyagain · 25/07/2026 13:10

The invlusion of pension pots in tje eatate for IHT was to close a tax avoidance loophole that opened up after the pension freedoms brought in by George Osbourne. Previously you had to use a DC pension pot to buy an annuity, but that was changed to allow people more freedom, so they could leave money in the pot or draw out lump sums from the age of 55 to spend on what they liked. As they were not counted in the estate for IHT purposes but could be used to store money (and there are great tax breaks for lutting money in to them), they became a great tax dodge for high earners.

It still won't affect that many people as you woild have to be pretty well off to have a DC pension pot that you a. don't need to use to fund your retirement and b. that is large enough to tip your estate in to IHT.

TheyGrewUp · 25/07/2026 12:37

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 12:23

I know how taxes work-why are you assuming I don’t? I still don’t agree with you. I am a homeowner, have a DB and a private pension, have investments and savings, and I still don’t agree with you.

But I love that you assume I must be poor because I want equality.

Equality or socialism/communism? I'd like you to have as much as the very wealthy. Nothing stops that except yourself.

BIossomtoes · 25/07/2026 12:37

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 12:30

It would be lost on you.

In other words you don’t have one.

Pepperlee · 25/07/2026 12:32

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 12:30

It would be lost on you.

Try me. Don't be rude and don't be shy. I'm beginning to think you don't have one.

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 12:30

Pepperlee · 25/07/2026 12:29

So your solution is ......

It would be lost on you.

Pepperlee · 25/07/2026 12:29

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 12:21

My dad worked from the age of 14 when his own father died. He worked until the age of 66 and died of a heart attack at the age of 68. That still doesn’t change my viewpoint. Because the UK government cannot base policy decisions on my father’s or my circumstances.

So your solution is ......

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 12:23

TheyGrewUp · 25/07/2026 12:17

Income tax is one thing. Other taxes arising from earnings that have already been taxed is another. Pensions are the exception to that because of the tax breaks involved and I've no beef about the IHT on personal pensions.

We pay all taxes that we are legally required to pay and have never endeavoured not to do so.

I know how taxes work-why are you assuming I don’t? I still don’t agree with you. I am a homeowner, have a DB and a private pension, have investments and savings, and I still don’t agree with you.

But I love that you assume I must be poor because I want equality.

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 12:21

Pepperlee · 25/07/2026 12:16

My husband worked in the chemical industry from age 15 to 65 and died from pancreatic cancer at 67. He didn't take much from the system so that should please some of the know it alls on here.

My dad worked from the age of 14 when his own father died. He worked until the age of 66 and died of a heart attack at the age of 68. That still doesn’t change my viewpoint. Because the UK government cannot base policy decisions on my father’s or my circumstances.

TheyGrewUp · 25/07/2026 12:17

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 12:09

I am paying the appropriate, proportional rate of tax for my income. Just like you should be. Except I don’t moan about paying it.

Income tax is one thing. Other taxes arising from earnings that have already been taxed is another. Pensions are the exception to that because of the tax breaks involved and I've no beef about the IHT on personal pensions.

We pay all taxes that we are legally required to pay and have never endeavoured not to do so.

Pepperlee · 25/07/2026 12:16

BIossomtoes · 25/07/2026 12:07

only 36% of the cohort born between 1937-1946 were in FT work for more than 75% of their adult lives.

That will be because a lot of them are dead, particularly those who were miners (remember them?) and other manual workers and women live longer than men so are over represented in that cohort. Women frequently worked part time

Current pensioners were predominantly born between 1945 and 1960, do you have corresponding figures covering that age group?

Edited

My husband worked in the chemical industry from age 15 to 65 and died from pancreatic cancer at 67. He didn't take much from the system so that should please some of the know it alls on here.

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 12:14

TheyGrewUp · 25/07/2026 12:03

Is that an inference that we have never supported society.

Come on why don't you tell us how old you are, what you earn, how much tax you pay and how much you have had in UC/free childcare/tax credits, etc. How much you are paying into your pension and how old you were when you started.

Oh and I don’t have children and have never claimed UC or tax credits. But guess what? I don’t begrudge my taxes going to support children, schools, working parents and maternity units. In actual fact, I wish more of my taxes went towards those things.

BIossomtoes · 25/07/2026 12:11

StealMySunshining · 25/07/2026 12:10

Tell me you don’t understand how statistics work without telling me you don’t understand.

Oh, the irony.