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AIBU to wonder why a pensioner struggling financially would not use housing equity?

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Powerbungalow · 22/07/2026 10:29

I'm not being unsympathetic

Theres a lady on the news at the moment, saying how times are tough and shes only cooking one meal a week - imagine she's eating cold food.

One thing that stood out though "I own my own house and it costs in maintenance" Depending on where she is, would you not get a life time mortgage or sell and rent? She has a big asset, why not use it to have a better life? I know I would.

She may be holding on to it for inheritance, but she didn't say - if so, then can her family help. It just seems totally crazy

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TheyGrewUp · 23/07/2026 19:22

@StealMySunshining I am genuinely sorry that at some point in your life you clearly feel someone stole your sunshine.

May I please ask why yiu were so skint as a post grad? When DS did his PhD, he was fully funded and had 6hpw of VL work. He swiftly converted his PhD to a 4* monograph and got a job on the back of it prior to publication.

I am truly sorry that you are so unhappy. Bitterness never goes well in life.

Pepperlee · 23/07/2026 19:22

StealMySunshining · 23/07/2026 19:04

So you wouldn’t count a parent who has a Saturday job as proper work? How many hours does a person need to work in a week for it to count as proper work in your view?

I'm talking about a Saturday job for a teenager. I thought that was obvious but clearly not to you.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 23/07/2026 19:21

I do know someone (late 70s) who’s taken equity release, since her income is very small. But she has no children and owns two properties outright - one bought for relative peanuts in the late 60s, the other inherited from a parent.

StealMySunshining · 23/07/2026 19:20

XenoBitch · 23/07/2026 19:15

Why are you assuming they are rattling around in big houses?
The people I know on UC that own their homes are not under occupying.

Also, UC claimants who own homes are not costing the tax payer in terms of rent etc. It makes no sense to consider the home they live in as an asset and therefore park of their capital.

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I’m not assuming anything. I’m stating facts.

In the same way that council tenants now have to pay for under occupancy then so can any pensioner who wants benefits beyond the basic state pension. So if the people you know are living in housing appropriate to their occupancy then they would be fine, wouldn’t they?

Whereas if a pensioned couple is living in a four bed and wants additional benefits, they won’t be entitled to them. They can downsize/move somewhere cheaper, use their equity to supplement their income and then when they are below the threshold they can apply for additional benefits. Why is that so controversial? It’s basically what happens to working people.

XenoBitch · 23/07/2026 19:15

StealMySunshining · 23/07/2026 19:14

No, they can sell and downsize/buy somewhere cheaper. Just like working people would have to if they were living beyond their means.

Why are you assuming they are rattling around in big houses?
The people I know on UC that own their homes are not under occupying.

Also, UC claimants who own homes are not costing the tax payer in terms of rent etc. It makes no sense to consider the home they live in as an asset and therefore park of their capital.

StealMySunshining · 23/07/2026 19:14

XenoBitch · 23/07/2026 19:08

That makes no sense. Some people on means tested benefits own their homes. If you class the home they live in as an asset, the would have to sell their home and then rent and claim more UC.
You can't eat bricks.

No, they can sell and downsize/buy somewhere cheaper. Just like working people would have to if they were living beyond their means.

XenoBitch · 23/07/2026 19:08

StealMySunshining · 23/07/2026 14:57

None of your points are relevant.

The solution is simple: all benefits beyond the basic state pension should be means tested, not just in terms of need but in terms of assets. And that should include all assets, including homes.

That makes no sense. Some people on means tested benefits own their homes. If you class the home they live in as an asset, the would have to sell their home and then rent and claim more UC.
You can't eat bricks.

StealMySunshining · 23/07/2026 19:04

Pepperlee · 23/07/2026 17:32

I was 'working' at 12. It was a paper round. Had a Saturday job at 15 but didn't count that as work either.

So you wouldn’t count a parent who has a Saturday job as proper work? How many hours does a person need to work in a week for it to count as proper work in your view?

StealMySunshining · 23/07/2026 19:03

Chewbecca · 23/07/2026 17:26

So you are no / barely better off & may as well have stayed put!

You view having an extra £100k of ready cash plus an additional income of circa £3k/year as being barely better off? We see the world very differently.

Pepperlee · 23/07/2026 18:53

HairsprayBabe · 23/07/2026 16:38

@C8H10N4O2 no they weren't we have already posted the figures. Most students are/were not just doing the odd shift for beer money they need the money to actually live.

No they weren't what?

Pepperlee · 23/07/2026 17:32

StealMySunshining · 23/07/2026 15:03

Well I’m 38 and I started working at 12. Most of my friends started working at 14/15 and we all worked throughout A-Levels and university. I have already worked for longer at the age of 38 than my mum did her entire career. And I “only” have another 30 years to go.

You're not going to start talking about the world wars or workhouses are you? These threads always end up descending into that.

I was 'working' at 12. It was a paper round. Had a Saturday job at 15 but didn't count that as work either.

Chewbecca · 23/07/2026 17:26

StealMySunshining · 23/07/2026 11:10

I would say that’s when people need to actually truly downsize, and not “downsize” by going from a four bed to a three bed. If you downsize from a paid off house to a flat, then invest the remaining balance from the house sale you can use it to supplement your income. Now of course that would mean the next generation has less of an inheritance but why should the taxpayer pay to prop up individuals’ inheritances?

I live in arguably one of the most expensive cities in the North, and the price difference between a three bed terrace and a two bed flat is in excess of £100k, and these aren’t even retirement flats. Bank the £100k, even at 3% interest that’s an additional income of £3k/year. Which in your example would pretty much pay for the full service charge.

So you are no / barely better off & may as well have stayed put!

StealMySunshining · 23/07/2026 17:07

C8H10N4O2 · 23/07/2026 16:35

You are conflating adults doing a mix of paid and unpaid work (parents) with teens doing part time hours for extra cash or students doing top up work.

My first job was at 12 (when paper rounds still existed), I don’t pretend its anything like holding down part time paid work alongside caring for children any more than the endless part time jobs I had until I started full time work was equivalent to all the unpaid labour involved in childcare blended with paid work.

The current generation of 60 somethings were mostly in full time work by 16, quite a few in full time work at 15 (even after school leaving age rose to 16 - it was the norm to release 15 year olds who had a job to go to). Of the rest most were in full time work at 18. Only a very small percentage of overwhelmingly better off children went to university and deferred full time work until 21 or 22.

And you’re wrong on your figures by the way, here you go from the DWP on the cohort born 1937-1946 and their working patterns (table 2a): https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/life-courses-and-pension-saving-patterns/life-courses-and-pension-saving-patterns?utm_source=chatgpt.com

AIBU to wonder why a pensioner struggling financially would not use housing equity?
Owninterpreter · 23/07/2026 17:04

I havent really seen much talk of avacodos or who has it harder until the end here.

just a few people concerned about equity release as it used to have a bad reputation, people saying people leave it too late, people having memories, or people not convinced downsizing will actually release enough equity to make a financial difference. Its very predicated on having a big house to downsize from and the difference being at least more any service charge.

Im very glad my mum downsized, she's very concerned about her grandchildren place in the world. Im slightly baffled my parents in law wont, but they arent cold and hungry yet. I think it comes from a fear that once the asset is sold, its gone. They dont trust stocks, shares and savings. I dont think they feel owed a standard of living just they dont know how to release the equity and feel safe. It feels like a one shot thing and they want to leave it as late as possible. My pil lost a lot of pension in some crash.

StealMySunshining · 23/07/2026 16:42

C8H10N4O2 · 23/07/2026 16:35

You are conflating adults doing a mix of paid and unpaid work (parents) with teens doing part time hours for extra cash or students doing top up work.

My first job was at 12 (when paper rounds still existed), I don’t pretend its anything like holding down part time paid work alongside caring for children any more than the endless part time jobs I had until I started full time work was equivalent to all the unpaid labour involved in childcare blended with paid work.

The current generation of 60 somethings were mostly in full time work by 16, quite a few in full time work at 15 (even after school leaving age rose to 16 - it was the norm to release 15 year olds who had a job to go to). Of the rest most were in full time work at 18. Only a very small percentage of overwhelmingly better off children went to university and deferred full time work until 21 or 22.

That still doesn’t answer my question.

What is the difference between an 18 year old working 16 hours a week and a parent working 16 hours a week? Both are work. Both are liable for the same rate of NI and taxes. Both will pay in to the system at the same rate. So what’s the difference? Is one more valuable or important than the other? Because I can’t see it.

StealMySunshining · 23/07/2026 16:39

HairsprayBabe · 23/07/2026 16:33

@StealMySunshining someone was ranting about no respect for people who stormed the beaches etc on a thread recently - there are literally 6 surviving Dday veterans.

I do wonder if the boomer generation feel like they were part of the war and the work house through stories from their parents and grandparents, but like you said I was born in 92 and don't feel like I was part of the cold war!

See I find that so inherently disrespectful: using the sacrifices, stories and difficulties of the previous generations to justify current behaviour is vile in my opinion. The previous generations of pensioners absolutely deserved more than they were even given, they sacrificed so much for the good of future generations, and their name should not be taken in vain.

There is a wealth of difference (pun intended) between a current pensioner born in, say 1950, and their parents born in, say 1920. They cannot be compared and to do so is utterly disrespectful.

HairsprayBabe · 23/07/2026 16:38

@C8H10N4O2 no they weren't we have already posted the figures. Most students are/were not just doing the odd shift for beer money they need the money to actually live.

C8H10N4O2 · 23/07/2026 16:35

StealMySunshining · 23/07/2026 15:44

Still not answering the question I see. What is the difference between a young person and a parent working PT? Is one more valuable than the other?

Because both are liable to pay the same rates of NI and taxes.

You are conflating adults doing a mix of paid and unpaid work (parents) with teens doing part time hours for extra cash or students doing top up work.

My first job was at 12 (when paper rounds still existed), I don’t pretend its anything like holding down part time paid work alongside caring for children any more than the endless part time jobs I had until I started full time work was equivalent to all the unpaid labour involved in childcare blended with paid work.

The current generation of 60 somethings were mostly in full time work by 16, quite a few in full time work at 15 (even after school leaving age rose to 16 - it was the norm to release 15 year olds who had a job to go to). Of the rest most were in full time work at 18. Only a very small percentage of overwhelmingly better off children went to university and deferred full time work until 21 or 22.

HairsprayBabe · 23/07/2026 16:33

@StealMySunshining someone was ranting about no respect for people who stormed the beaches etc on a thread recently - there are literally 6 surviving Dday veterans.

I do wonder if the boomer generation feel like they were part of the war and the work house through stories from their parents and grandparents, but like you said I was born in 92 and don't feel like I was part of the cold war!

StealMySunshining · 23/07/2026 16:25

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/07/2026 16:22

People name change for privacy reasons - I don’t think it is fair to assume @StealMySunshining is doing it for any malign motivation.

That poster is so strange. She keeps quoting me and then making bizarre accusations. This is a thread about fiscal policy and pensions, it’s not my personal diary!

StealMySunshining · 23/07/2026 16:24

HairsprayBabe · 23/07/2026 16:11

@StealMySunshining I think a lot of it comes from the nebulous respect they believe older generations should get.

The generation before the boomers fought WW2 so that was easily given. I respect the elderly as much as any other group, but they are not special simply for not dying yet.

The statistics are SO clear that they had an easier time of it financially but the second a young person struggles they scream IPHONES AVOCADOS as if they didn't have vices in their youth. As if it is remotely possible to navigate the world today without a smart phone. As if an avocado isn't 79p at Aldi.

I get the impression that many of that generation do not view millennials as "real" adults yet. That we are still teenagers who make feckless choices.

A poster earlier on in this thread said today’s pensioners remember the workhouses! Their perception of time is so strange. My mum is a pensioner and she doesn’t remember the workhouses any more than I would remember the Cuban Missile Crisis!

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/07/2026 16:22

People name change for privacy reasons - I don’t think it is fair to assume @StealMySunshining is doing it for any malign motivation.

StealMySunshining · 23/07/2026 16:19

Differentforgirls · 23/07/2026 16:13

Thought that. Why? So that you can lie with impunity?

Lie about what? Am I in court?

Crikeyalmighty · 23/07/2026 16:18

StealMySunshining · 23/07/2026 15:49

Yup. I averaged a 50 hour working week across 4 PT contracts as a postgraduate student. If she could only see me now in my oh-so-important 40 hour a week FT job!

I often worked all weekend as a teenager, so not a single day off in a week. If I retire at 68 I will have worked for 56 years. And I am still able to show empathy for the young people of today who will have it harder than I did and probably retire with less!

Me too -

Differentforgirls · 23/07/2026 16:13

StealMySunshining · 23/07/2026 14:47

What a bizarre response. It’s okay to just not give a response if you don’t have something constructive to add to the debate. And I’m not a new user, I just name change regularly.

Thought that. Why? So that you can lie with impunity?

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