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Is my ex being an entitled cock lodger ?

62 replies

Bingobango86 · 21/07/2026 18:53

Ex dp and i have decided to go our separate ways due to him being unable to stop bringing up issues we have had in the past and i have come to the realisation i do not need to be spoken to like this , we have 3 dc together and ex dp is also disabled for context, we currently private rent and exdp solution is to move into my dining room and has a grand plan of turning it into his bedroom complete with lots of luxuries- which he has taken great delight in sending me - AIBU to want him to f**k off?

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shellyleppard · 21/07/2026 19:36

Also if he wants to turn the dining room into a bedroom where would you eat?? The mans living in cloud cuckoo land

Larrythecatforpm · 21/07/2026 19:36

Bingobango86 · 21/07/2026 19:33

I pay all the bills, rent is in joint names unfortunatley! He has said he will take the DC to school every morning as I work full time but hes only managed a grand total of 4 school runs year to do date so im not sure - i guess would be every other weekend ?! Yes i laughed when I recieved the amazon links but in all.honesty all I want to do is cry right now

I would be telling him you will transfer half the bills into his name & he can pay. I take he doesn’t work?

shellyleppard · 21/07/2026 19:35

@Bingobango86 are you renting or do you own the property? Would it be worth getting legal advice about getting him removed from the tenancy? Sending hugs, its a difficult time x

Bingobango86 · 21/07/2026 19:33

I pay all the bills, rent is in joint names unfortunatley! He has said he will take the DC to school every morning as I work full time but hes only managed a grand total of 4 school runs year to do date so im not sure - i guess would be every other weekend ?! Yes i laughed when I recieved the amazon links but in all.honesty all I want to do is cry right now

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Bonkers1966 · 21/07/2026 19:23

Not enough information. Who is entitled to the property? Who pays the bills? Etc.

ZenNudist · 21/07/2026 19:13

One of you needs to move out. What is happening about your dc?

AnneLovesGilbert · 21/07/2026 19:11

Obviously tell him no, you’re splitting up so you won’t be living together. One of you stays in the current place while the other moves out or you both move out and get new homes. Start taking practical steps tomorrow to live apart. Did you not say anything when he made such a daft suggestion?

PoppieCock · 21/07/2026 19:10

I don't understand what he's sending you?

ThatCyanCat · 21/07/2026 19:07

Do you live separately now? And he's planning on moving into your dining room?

pikkumyy77 · 21/07/2026 19:05

You are dumping him because he is unreasonable so don’t be surprised if he remains unreasonable.

Larrythecatforpm · 21/07/2026 19:03

If he’s not on the tenancy just kick him out, if he is then you’ll need to decide whose moving out.

Blimms · 21/07/2026 18:56

Is he on the tenancy and does does he pay rent/bills?