Is my ex being an entitled cock lodger ?

Wtf is a cock lodger?

I do know at least one couple that have continued living in the same house although they are separated and quite happily. BUT - they both pay their own way. If one wants something for themselves they buy it themselves. If something needs doing to the house of they want to smarten it up they make the decisions and pay for it jointly, unless it within their own room in which case they pay for it themselves. They take joint responsibility for their child. She probably does more of the day to day stuff but that is because she wants to. There is never a problem if she isn't able to pick them up from nursery or she wants to go out for the evening or on holiday. They share the costs for their child. In general, they will do their own laundry and cooking, but she will do that of their child and if either of them wants a wash put on or dried and they are not at home then they will ask the other, if it is convenient for them to do so.

To sum up - it is quite possible to live happily with an ex IF you are both reasonable, willing to take responsibility and share costs.

You should certainly NOT be paying for anything he wants if you are separated.

And gets more so due to fragile male ego!

Tell him you are not renewing the tenancy with him there no. Find a line you are happy with “we are splitting up, let’s work out a way to co-parent and live separately” repeat

People always say 'just kick him out' like it's an easy thing, as if it never occurs to people that the person might just say 'No thanks, im not going anywhere '.

You are still financially tied to him in this scenario.

This could affect your credit rating. Especially if he is spunking money like it's going out of fashion on Amazon.

He doesn't want to take responsibility for himself. He wants to freeload. You are paying for all those things on Amazon if he's not paying bills.

Get advice. Get him out or find somewhere else yourself. Living together isn't in your best interests.

Not only is it financially abusive it's also controlling as you won't have the freedom to do what you want.

Have a cry if you want to, then remind yourself the end is in sight, you’ll be rid of him! Who gives a shit what he wants, where he wants to live or what he’d like you to buy him. Focus on you and the children. Where you want to live, what you need to do about staying or finding somewhere new, how brilliant life will be without him dragging you down.

Yes

Your separate ways need to be more separate than him in the dining room.

You need a proper discussion about who is moving out. He needs to start the process of becoming independent.

You need to live separately asap! Is would speak to your landlord about the tenancy agreement and if it can be transferred to your name only. Can you get him to leave?

As others have said give notice and move is your best option

Find a flat for you and the kids,

It’s not you going to work but the thing is it’s nit your dining room your joint tenants and he can turn the dining room into whatever he wants

I think the best solution is to see if he register with housing as he’ll get points for being disabled
you also need to sort finances who contributes for what

Give your notice. Get somewhere without him.

Why on earth does he think he can make you live in the same home and buy all that stuff for him?

Is he drunk?

You probably need to sever yourself from the tenancy and find somewhere else to live, him living the high life in the dining room isn't going to work and it sounds like he is not going to move out.

How long is there to go on the tenancy? When can you give notice? Because I reckon the only way you will get rid of him is to move out, to somewhere else where he isn't.

Annoying as it will be to disrupt your and the kids lives, it won't be as annoying as him living the life of Riley in his man cave while you pay for everything.

You need to end the tenancy and either take it over or just leave.

He needs to start paying half the bills and rent and do his own cooking, washing and so on.

Btw, I’m not even sure I’d ask for the tenancy to go in your name only because he’ll drag his feet to move out. Even more so because he is going to find it very hard to find someone on UC+disability benefits

I’d find somewhere else to live asap.

Youre separating. I’m not sure what makes him think you’re going to carry in living in the same house!

Him bring disabled isn’t here nor there. I say that as a disabled person.

Obviously if you are going to continuing sharing the same property without being in a relationship then you are not going to keep subsidising him.

If he wishes to stay then he needs to pay half of rent and half of all bills, food, etc. If he's not prepared to do that then he'll need to leave or find his own tenancy.

I'd speak to the landlord about the possibility of getting the tenancy put into your name (as you are working full time) and giving him notice to leave.

You can't really continuing living together, it won't work. And yes, he's an entitled cocklodger.

Cancel all the Amazon orders for a start! Good grief. When is your tenancy up? Can you get your landlord to let just to you? Stop buying him food, doing laundry, change the WiFi, Netflix and all the streaming services passwords - and the Amazon password.

Maybe start by talking to the landlord. If you are the one paying the rent they may be helpful. They may even have another property in their portfolio that would suit you and the children. You certainly can't stay in the same house as a man who expects you to fund his lifestyle while he contributs nothing.

So you need to end the contract and sign a new solo contract with the landlord. He has to go. Where, not your problem..

The question for him is... and then what? You live together forever, him being kept by you? Clearly not.

So you live together but you're splitting up, and his idea is that the living room will become his bedroom and you'll buy him all sorts of shit for it?

What's the nature of his disability? And what does he expect you to buy?