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AIBU to expect my dd (17) to get up?

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queenceleste · 21/07/2026 17:33

If you manage to get yours up - how do you do it?

I know it’s the holidays for her but still….. Whatever parenting I should have done - surely it’s too late?

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PeatandDieselfan · 21/07/2026 17:47

Mine are a bit younger, but during the summer they do a bit of part time work and a lot of sports training. So on days when they are free, I let them sleep as long as they want. Perks of being a teenager...

ChalkOutlines · 21/07/2026 17:45

queenceleste · 21/07/2026 17:33

If you manage to get yours up - how do you do it?

I know it’s the holidays for her but still….. Whatever parenting I should have done - surely it’s too late?

But… why? DD just wakes when she wakes. At the moment it’s around 10 o’clock and she’s asleep by 10:30/11 so she obviously needs the sleep. I’m sure once she recharges and starts staying up later , she’ll wake up later at times too. As long as we don’t have plans/she doesn’t have stuff to do, why does it matter?

IronEverything · 21/07/2026 17:43

I wouldn't have anyone in my home stinking in a bed all day. You get up, you have a wash and get dressed into clean clothes. It's non-negotiable.

ProseccoPie · 21/07/2026 17:42

i didn’t get mine up…… but they soon learned that I didn’t do anything for them while they were in bed!!
So if they needed a lift…… but their laundry wasn’t done etc…. They had to put their own laundry on before the lift was given etc….
They very quickly realised there were only so many hours in a day!!

Harrysmummy246 · 21/07/2026 17:41

queenceleste · 21/07/2026 17:33

If you manage to get yours up - how do you do it?

I know it’s the holidays for her but still….. Whatever parenting I should have done - surely it’s too late?

Umm, I didn't get up til 13:00 today thanks to a horrendous headache yesterday, I have no place to be telling DS (9) here. Yes, DH was with him, no I don't have work in missing

MightyS · 21/07/2026 17:41

Oldgum · 21/07/2026 17:37

Does she have her phone with her or is she actually sleeping

I have a no phones in room from 10pm curfew so I reckon that helps because he knows if he wants his phone, he HAS to get it of bed

My son has just turned 18. I leave him to it, hes an adult.

How long will you have the phone curfew for?

MissyB1 · 21/07/2026 17:40

We’ve always had a “no sleeping in past 10am rule” in our house. Ds (also 17), wouldn’t even want to sleep in later than that. He was at the gym by 11 then at his work experience by 2pm.

SilverPink · 21/07/2026 17:39

Nope I would leave mine to it at 17. If they want to waste their day in bed good luck to them. If they’re off to uni next year you won’t be there banging on their bedroom door at 10am. Teenagers are night owls.

arethereanyleftatall · 21/07/2026 17:38

No, I don’t get my 17 year old up. She’s pretty much an adult so we’re nearly verging on being flatmates now really. Except I pay for everything. But otherwise, flatmates.

Oldgum · 21/07/2026 17:37

Does she have her phone with her or is she actually sleeping

I have a no phones in room from 10pm curfew so I reckon that helps because he knows if he wants his phone, he HAS to get it of bed

Oldgum · 21/07/2026 17:36

DS 16
i get him up at 10. I go in, open the blinds and tell him I’ve got breakfast on the go. He’s so lazy that he knows that if he doesn’t get up then… no cooked breakfast (he wouldn’t make it for himself!) . So he hauls ass. 10am… every morning other than weekends when if he’s not up by midday absolute latest - I’m pulling the cover off and telling him I’m not preparing him any food all day!