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AIBU to raise a school safeguarding concern after a child’s comment?

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Beula82 · 21/07/2026 15:55

I was at an end of term school picnic with my eldest son. Breastfeeding my baby and a 5 year old girl sibling of his classmates asked what I was doing. I explained baby is drinking milk which my body makes. Don't know child well but she likes my dog so tends to latch on to our family when we see her out and about. Grandad takes her to school, seen mum once, never seen dad.

She then said, roughly verbatim, in a giggle and a whisper, do you want to know about a funny video? (I said yes). There's a funny video of me pretending to drink milk from my daddy. But it was yucky as he has a hairy nipple.

The semi secretive way she shared this and the fact it's a video made me feel uncomfortable. AIBU to raise with school as a safeguarding concern?

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MargeryBargery · 21/07/2026 17:13

Long time teacher and usually the first to call out parents exaggerating, but if I were you I would mention this to the class teacher. I wouldn't jump in asking for meetings with safeguarding lead, but presuming they are same class or same year group it wouldn't hurt to mention to the teacher.

AgnesMcDoo · 21/07/2026 17:10

Report it and let people who are trained in safeguarding make the call on this rather than you.

REDB99 · 21/07/2026 17:07

I would report it given that you’re not sure if it is a video of her being younger and trying to latch on to dad. Given she seems to recall it was hairy and she didn’t like it it would seem she was older but she could just be saying that as the video shows he had hairy nipples. Report it and the trained DSL at the school can decide what action to take.

CatsMagic · 21/07/2026 17:02

If something makes you wonder if you should report it as a safeguarding concern then yes always report it to school, if it needs further investigation they can put that into action, if it’s innocent then no harm done.

aliceyyyy2654 · 21/07/2026 16:16

Go ahead if you would like to but it is most likely to be a video she’s been shown of her as a baby.

leaderZ · 21/07/2026 16:10

Honestly I would - school will know the full picture. You cannot know. But yes I agree is weird.

bunnypenny · 21/07/2026 16:09

Beula82 · 21/07/2026 16:03

No it wasn't as a baby, the way she said it made it sound like it was recent and she was pretending to drink milk.

How do you know it wasn’t as a baby? In what way did she say it?

SnowSnow · 21/07/2026 16:05

I personally don’t think this is necessarily an alarm bells kind of thing. My 2 yo still breastfeeds and has a couple of times pretended like he was going to latch on to dad and giggled and it was just a sweet funny moment so it could be something like that.

JohnofWessex · 21/07/2026 16:04

Oldest latched onto me - I was wearing a T shirt and it hurt!!

WhyArePiratesCalledPirates · 21/07/2026 16:04

Not a judgement you need to make.
Call it in. The school will pick it up.
If it's nothing, all good.
If its something... they will action it.
Always report. Too much information is always the right choice.

Original poster
Beula82 · 21/07/2026 16:03

No it wasn't as a baby, the way she said it made it sound like it was recent and she was pretending to drink milk.

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Choconuttolata · 21/07/2026 16:03

I would report and let school deal with it. It could be entirely innocent as in trying to latch onto Dad as a baby, but just in case it isn't report.

sunshine244 · 21/07/2026 16:02

Don't see what's wrong with that at all. Babies try to latch onto anything...

Pinkbox · 21/07/2026 16:02

I did wonder if it was more what @PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregistersaid, ie child was a baby at the time- but she said ‘me pretending’. I tend to be an err on the side of caution person in these things but it will be interesting to see what others think.

Pinkbox · 21/07/2026 16:00

Hmm. I can just about see a strange family thinking this was funny if for example her Mum was BF a baby sibling at the same time BUT that’s a big stretch even for my life-experienced brain. Given there’s a video (which in my wild scenario above may only be seen within their family) I would report and let school decide what to do with it. Just email what she said to you and say it made you feel uncomfortable and you wanted to pass it on.

PullingOutHair123 · 21/07/2026 15:58

I was ready to type yes, as even small issues can build a picture.

This however, wouldn't cross my mind?

PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 21/07/2026 15:57

When she was a baby? My kids tried to latch onto anyone with nipples at some point, including their dad (and his chin, his nose…) so no, I wouldn’t think that was a safeguarding issue.