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Holidays with grandparents

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gettingold55555 · 21/07/2026 10:47

No judgement either way but just wondering what everyone’s set ups are with holidays. I can tell my mum is put out that we don’t always holiday with her but we can only really afford one holiday and prefer to go alone.
do you holiday with grandparents and if so do they pay? Any friends I have that holiday with their parents/grandparents to kids it’s because their parents pay? Just wondering if that’s the norm as my mum wouldn’t pay for anything for us which is fine but just wondering if im being unreasonable by wanting to just do my only holiday with my husband and kids?

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Iloveacurry · 21/07/2026 10:55

My kids are 18 and 15. We’ve never been on holiday with grandparents!

gettingold55555 · 21/07/2026 10:52

@BinNightTonightthats lovely and similar to lots of my friends ❤️

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SooPanda · 21/07/2026 10:52

A lot of people I know only holiday with parents/in laws, usually because they pay and help with the kids, but it doesn’t appeal to me at all!

Gardenisablooming · 21/07/2026 10:52

I want once with ils. I think they paid.
Never agreed to do it again.
It wasn't a free holiday it was an endurance exercise..

gettingold55555 · 21/07/2026 10:51

It’s sort of comments about her friends that are on holiday with the grandkids etc and how lovely it is. Can just tell that’s the vibe from the comments !

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BinNightTonight · 21/07/2026 10:51

Me and my little boy always holiday with my parents, but yes, they do pay, for accommodation, travel, food, activities etc. I couldnt afford to take him away on my own at the moment. My mum is terminally unwell so we're going on loads of holidays to make memories, but I've always gone away with them, even before having my child and they've always paid, even when I was in a better financial position. They are amazing.

rubyslippers · 21/07/2026 10:49

I don’t know anyone who regularly holidays with grandparents
We’ve done it as a one off
where has the expectation come from your mum that she will holiday with you 🤔