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To be sick of politicians using 'fairness' as justification for tax rises?

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Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 07:46

Fairness is completely subjective and I notice that this is often shorthand for giving more money to those that contribute the least.

Of course there will always be those that can't contribute much due to factors outside of their control, but we are kidding ourselves if we pretend that there aren't already lots of people that are scraping by doing the bare minimum (sometimes even less) and making completely irresponsible decisions knowing the state will ultimately insulate them from the consequences.

I personally know people that have had lots of children that they can't afford and can't parent properly simply because they wanted to. They are now on an incredible amount of money as the two child cap has been lifted. I know people that have stopped working because they weren't much better off than being on benefits and they couldn't be bothered with the hassle. I know young people that are already planning to stay on disability benefits their whole lives for mental health issues as they want to stay home and game.

Is it really 'fair' to charge the rest of us more to subsidise all of this?

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glitterpaperchain · 21/07/2026 13:52

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 13:40

I question the morals of anyone that can't debate without reducing their argument to this. The poor and disabled are human like everyone else. You will have genuine cases and those that are abusing the system. To pretend otherwise is beyond patronising and implies they're a different species when I can assure you they are not. I grew up as one of them. I know exactly who they are.

We must aim to stamp out abuse of the system at all levels. Just because rich people do bad things, it doesn't mean the rest of us are off the hook.

No, I definitely question your morals. There's the issue of 'stamping out abuse of the system' meaning that genuine claimants lose out, and there's the issue of demonising/sitagmising people who genuinely need benefits and blaming them for all of our problems. Don't act like you don't know that that is exactly what threads like this do.

In terms of actual money lost or wasted, there is far more to be found at the top. Yet some people choose to focus on the poor and disabled, despite both issues above. So yes that's why I question your morals.

Vinvertebrate · 21/07/2026 13:50

VanessaFence · 21/07/2026 12:27

It's all well and good saying "you can leave money in the business" but that doesn't pay my mortgage. Also leaving money in the business means you pay corporation tax on it so I'll still get hit with a tax bill.

Yes there's more flexibility and you can decide when you take money out to minimise tax liability but ultimately you still pay tax on whatever hits your personal bank account through self-assessment.

I'm very happy to pay the tax I owe but it's annoying when people act like being a business owner is some kind of tax haven. HMRC gets me for corporation tax, employer NIC, business rates, my own personal tax return (plus the VAT I have to put on everything I sell). My annual transfers to HMRC would easily dwarf most top rate tax payers.

Absolutely, and even that ignores the fact that it's the business owner's capital that is at risk in the first place (and in many cases, that means charges over assets including your house!)

Some people can't think straight for the evil corporate capitalist fat cat images in their head, which mostly bear no relation to reality.

Differentforgirls · 21/07/2026 13:46

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 13:43

Right, this isn't about DLA. Stop trying to hijack the thread. My point is that there are ways that the benefits cap can be lifted. Disability is one of them or you can work a pretty low number of hours.

I'm so tired of posters trying to hijack everything thread to make it about disbaolity benefits. There are loads of threads about that already. Go and have the debate there where you can shame people for even questioning whether they spiraling bill is out of control.

Er, you were the one who posted that the more children you have the more likely one will have a disability.

I posted that benefits are capped.

You immediately posted back to me about disability benefits so YOU brought it up.

Not me.

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 13:44

concertinacornflake · 21/07/2026 13:42

Over how many years are you measuring the possible return?
Same number of years as you measure the interest payments on the debt, or a different number of years?

(I see you do accept a national economy is not comparable to household finances)

It isn't exactly the same but ultimately the basics are pretty similar if you can't stimulate growth which we seem unable to do.

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Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 13:43

Differentforgirls · 21/07/2026 13:39

Maybe we should bring in a cap on the amount of children you have and force sterilisation and abortion?

DLA by the way isn’t means tested. David Cameron claimed it for his son.

Is he a benefit scrounger?

Right, this isn't about DLA. Stop trying to hijack the thread. My point is that there are ways that the benefits cap can be lifted. Disability is one of them or you can work a pretty low number of hours.

I'm so tired of posters trying to hijack everything thread to make it about disbaolity benefits. There are loads of threads about that already. Go and have the debate there where you can shame people for even questioning whether they spiraling bill is out of control.

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concertinacornflake · 21/07/2026 13:42

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 13:26

Impossible to say. If it's spent on holidays and cheap imports then the majority will leave our economy. If it stays within the UK then it may stimulate growth or it may simply go in people's bank accounts. Ultimately we know that we will not see this amount back in tax receipts.

Over how many years are you measuring the possible return?
Same number of years as you measure the interest payments on the debt, or a different number of years?

(I see you do accept a national economy is not comparable to household finances)

SleeplessInWherever · 21/07/2026 13:41

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 13:36

I really hate this line of argument. 1/16 children qualify for DLA. When you start having lots of children then your odds of having a disabled child increase accordingly

Remember also that you can qualify for the lowest level of DLA and have the capacity lifted. We are not always talking about severe disability.

Also, if one parent is disabled or works 16 hours then the cap is lifted. This is true for a two parent household.

Yeah. As the parent of a child in receipt of DLA, I hate that argument too.

Your argument.

Like disabled children are somehow money makers. They’re money sappers. They cost a fortune.

You wouldn’t trade the life of a disabled person, or SENd parent, for all the benefits in the world.

Megifer · 21/07/2026 13:41

Imagine how much free money someone would get if they were disabled, had a child with someone disabled, AND the kid was disabled too!!! Cha ching!!! How lucky!!

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 13:40

glitterpaperchain · 21/07/2026 13:34

When someone's first port of call for societal problems is to blame poor and disabled people it really does make me questions their morals

I question the morals of anyone that can't debate without reducing their argument to this. The poor and disabled are human like everyone else. You will have genuine cases and those that are abusing the system. To pretend otherwise is beyond patronising and implies they're a different species when I can assure you they are not. I grew up as one of them. I know exactly who they are.

We must aim to stamp out abuse of the system at all levels. Just because rich people do bad things, it doesn't mean the rest of us are off the hook.

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Differentforgirls · 21/07/2026 13:40

SleeplessInWherever · 21/07/2026 13:39

I’ve got one going spare, if anyone wants the DLA.

But they can also take the 10 years of sleepless nights, the marks currently all up my arms, the bite mark on my partner’s shoulder, everything we own being broken or covered in bodily fluids, the constant shouting.

I mean I obviously love the kid. He’s a turd, but he’s our turd.

But if people are so keen to get disability benefit, they really ought to have tried the life that comes with it for size too.

❤️

Differentforgirls · 21/07/2026 13:39

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 13:36

I really hate this line of argument. 1/16 children qualify for DLA. When you start having lots of children then your odds of having a disabled child increase accordingly

Remember also that you can qualify for the lowest level of DLA and have the capacity lifted. We are not always talking about severe disability.

Also, if one parent is disabled or works 16 hours then the cap is lifted. This is true for a two parent household.

Maybe we should bring in a cap on the amount of children you have and force sterilisation and abortion?

DLA by the way isn’t means tested. David Cameron claimed it for his son.

Is he a benefit scrounger?

SleeplessInWherever · 21/07/2026 13:39

Differentforgirls · 21/07/2026 13:31

Would you want your child to be disabled?

I’ve got one going spare, if anyone wants the DLA.

But they can also take the 10 years of sleepless nights, the marks currently all up my arms, the bite mark on my partner’s shoulder, everything we own being broken or covered in bodily fluids, the constant shouting.

I mean I obviously love the kid. He’s a turd, but he’s our turd.

But if people are so keen to get disability benefit, they really ought to have tried the life that comes with it for size too.

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 13:36

Differentforgirls · 21/07/2026 13:31

Would you want your child to be disabled?

I really hate this line of argument. 1/16 children qualify for DLA. When you start having lots of children then your odds of having a disabled child increase accordingly

Remember also that you can qualify for the lowest level of DLA and have the capacity lifted. We are not always talking about severe disability.

Also, if one parent is disabled or works 16 hours then the cap is lifted. This is true for a two parent household.

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Passaggressfedup · 21/07/2026 13:35

There are ways for example that you can directly help children in poverty without giving more money to the parents
And then comes the other problem. To manage an efficient system to ensure that funds are adequately distributed cost more than the cost of the actual benefit. Take CA as a perfect instance. Available to anyone who cares for someone receiving DLA/PIP. They have to provide 35 hours of direct care. How do you monitor this? Doing so not only would cost much more than the CA budget but would be so open to interpretation that you could then double the cost again in legal fees.

Yet carers deserve to be supported. So the government closes a blind eye to it and people abuse the system.

There is then the issue of investment. Any system that COULD make a difference will involve reducing funds somewhere to invest into it...to only hopefully see benefits in the far future. Which politician would want to do that? They'll be booted out in no time for having reduce one area, showing no benefit elsewhere, and then it would be the new person that would get all the rewards of the longer term having done nothing themselves!

So no politician go there, every decision is only looking at instant benefits. There is nothing left that can be fixed quickly, so we are where we are, politicians who come to have a bit of fun and sane for a bit until they disappear, replaced by another puppet and people who elect them, or not, full of hope they will be different....

glitterpaperchain · 21/07/2026 13:34

When someone's first port of call for societal problems is to blame poor and disabled people it really does make me questions their morals

Differentforgirls · 21/07/2026 13:31

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 13:30

Can also be a child.

Would you want your child to be disabled?

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 13:30

Differentforgirls · 21/07/2026 13:28

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Can also be a child.

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Differentforgirls · 21/07/2026 13:28

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 13:26

Not if a member of the household is on disability benefits.

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Megifer · 21/07/2026 13:27

Differentforgirls · 21/07/2026 13:23

There’s a cap on benefits.

Shush now with your facts

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 13:26

Differentforgirls · 21/07/2026 13:23

There’s a cap on benefits.

Not if a member of the household is on disability benefits.

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EasternStandard · 21/07/2026 13:26

concertinacornflake · 21/07/2026 13:19

Except it is nothing like that, because national finances don't work in the same way as household finances.

Until you realise the £100bn pa debt servicing is out of the tax take. And we’re at the limit of any more borrowing.

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 13:26

concertinacornflake · 21/07/2026 13:23

You compared national finances to household finances, when they work in entirely different ways.

What will happen to the £45, where will it go? Will it leave the economy or be used within the economy?

Impossible to say. If it's spent on holidays and cheap imports then the majority will leave our economy. If it stays within the UK then it may stimulate growth or it may simply go in people's bank accounts. Ultimately we know that we will not see this amount back in tax receipts.

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glitterpaperchain · 21/07/2026 13:25

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 13:22

It was terrible satire. None of the people I referenced in my OP are living extreme lives in the way you were trying to suggest. If you think that's extreme you really need to spend a day in my hometown.

I never said it was good satire 😉

LuckyHazelFox · 21/07/2026 13:23

glitterpaperchain · 21/07/2026 13:20

If you genuinely think my post was poor maths rather than satire it does make me doubt your ability to understand and engage in political discourse

You were using an example of exaggeration. I get it. It just wasn't a good one. I'm sure others found it titillating.

Differentforgirls · 21/07/2026 13:23

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 13:05

Lots of things are arguably part of the human condition. Murder, rape, stealing.. all of these things have existed for as long as humans have existed. Does that mean we have to tolerate these things as a society?

I know you will suggest that the analogies I make are ridiculous but my point is that something being part of the human condition doesn't mean that we have to support or accept it. It also doesn't mean you have to starve it out of people. There are other ways but the mechanisms do often have to be quite sophisticated. There are ways for example that you can directly help children in poverty without giving more money to the parents. You tackle key areas of inequality without enriching the parents' lives. Obviously this is controversial but it is possible. Nobody starves but equally feckless parents don't profit from their feckless decisions of having more and more children they can't afford knowing that their benefits will increase.

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There’s a cap on benefits.