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To be sick of politicians using 'fairness' as justification for tax rises?

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Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 07:46

Fairness is completely subjective and I notice that this is often shorthand for giving more money to those that contribute the least.

Of course there will always be those that can't contribute much due to factors outside of their control, but we are kidding ourselves if we pretend that there aren't already lots of people that are scraping by doing the bare minimum (sometimes even less) and making completely irresponsible decisions knowing the state will ultimately insulate them from the consequences.

I personally know people that have had lots of children that they can't afford and can't parent properly simply because they wanted to. They are now on an incredible amount of money as the two child cap has been lifted. I know people that have stopped working because they weren't much better off than being on benefits and they couldn't be bothered with the hassle. I know young people that are already planning to stay on disability benefits their whole lives for mental health issues as they want to stay home and game.

Is it really 'fair' to charge the rest of us more to subsidise all of this?

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Megifer · 21/07/2026 16:42

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 16:26

Except that wasn't what was said at all. This was specifically about the two child cap and the fact that almost half of families are exempt from the general benefit cap because there is a disabled family member. This is fact. The more children you have the more likely it is that one will be disabled. This is just common sense and supported by statistics. What is so awful in noting this?

"That wasnt what was said"

Then you go on to repeat the comment you apparently didnt say, and confirm you said it.

Im surprised you're trying to claim you cant see how distasteful that comment was in this context.

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 16:41

SleeplessInWherever · 21/07/2026 16:27

Would you like to answer my (quite reasonably phrased, I thought) post about why it is reasonable for disability to lift the benefit cap?

I didn't answer because I don't disagree for some expensive or severe disabilities. Others I would question more but that's a topic for another thread and I don't want to get into what is and isn't a disability, the assessment process etc.

To be honest the discussion was more about the two child cap and someone suggesting that benefits were still capped by the benefits cap. I was simply pointing out that this isn't true for the majority of people.

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InWithPeaceOutWithStress · 21/07/2026 16:37

VanessaFence · 21/07/2026 08:36

As a business owner I pay employee NIC, corporation tax and business rates. I also create many jobs and they all pay tax on their PAYE (as do I). I'm a top rate tax payer - there's no magic tax loophole where I can make wads of cash and not pay tax on it.

Small businesses are the lifeblood of the economy and many business owners (myself included) work their arses off to build and grow them. We also deal with massive amounts of stress and financial insecurity. This kind of anti-business chat is really annoying.

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If you’re paying corporation tax and employing people then clearly you are profitable, and not crippled, so my comment doesn’t apply to you. Your income from the business puts you in the higher tax bracket, so clearly doing very well and not crippled by taxation.

SleeplessInWherever · 21/07/2026 16:34

OriginalUsername2 · 21/07/2026 15:58

It’s physically hard, I used to work double shifts and my back was constantly in agony, my feet killed. It’s unsociable hours, you have to work evenings, weekends, over Christmas and on bank holidays. That’s hard. It might not be academic but it’s exhausting, badly paid and you miss out on a lot of events with family and friend ps. Not to mention dealing with the general public, the behind the scenes in the kitchens is stressful too.

Waitresses absolutely work harder than I do. As do bin men, nurses, retail workers, anyone with a manual role.

I work 45hrs a week term time, and 20hrs a week in the holidays. I sit on my arse telling people what to do all day (essentially), and have the benefit of WFH and flexibility that means I use breakfast club and that is it in terms of childcare.

I don’t have to put time out in for meetings for my son, for health appointments for any of us, and if my kid is off sick, so am I - no questions asked.

Yes, I answer the occasional out of hours email, and I’ll make probably one check in phone call whilst on my summer holiday. But considering the relatively easy gig I actually have, that’s hardly a hardship.

I accept that getting to this point in my career involved a lot of long days and unsociable working, but I absolutely do not work harder than any one of the jobs I listed, amongst others, and I get paid better than all of them.

JasmineMac · 21/07/2026 16:30

XenoBitch · 21/07/2026 16:28

It is not defeatist to say that not everyone is going to be employed. There are not enough jobs out there.

I haven't made any all or nothing suggestions though. There'd be no point.

XenoBitch · 21/07/2026 16:28

JasmineMac · 21/07/2026 16:27

Just a 🤏 bit defeatist.

It is not defeatist to say that not everyone is going to be employed. There are not enough jobs out there.

SleeplessInWherever · 21/07/2026 16:27

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 16:26

Except that wasn't what was said at all. This was specifically about the two child cap and the fact that almost half of families are exempt from the general benefit cap because there is a disabled family member. This is fact. The more children you have the more likely it is that one will be disabled. This is just common sense and supported by statistics. What is so awful in noting this?

Would you like to answer my (quite reasonably phrased, I thought) post about why it is reasonable for disability to lift the benefit cap?

JasmineMac · 21/07/2026 16:27

XenoBitch · 21/07/2026 16:21

In what jobs?
According to ONS figures, there are 2.5 jobseekers (so people actively looking for work) to every vacancy.

Just a 🤏 bit defeatist.

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 16:26

Megifer · 21/07/2026 16:17

We've also had - the more kids people have the higher chance one will be disabled so they will get more benefits

Except that wasn't what was said at all. This was specifically about the two child cap and the fact that almost half of families are exempt from the general benefit cap because there is a disabled family member. This is fact. The more children you have the more likely it is that one will be disabled. This is just common sense and supported by statistics. What is so awful in noting this?

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FantaCyst · 21/07/2026 16:25

Backedoffhackedoff · 21/07/2026 15:47

Yep this is what I was saying earlier on. I earn a high salary and don’t work hard.

why do you need to OP, when I don’t?

I am surprised that sitting on MN all day and night being an argumentative Nellie Know All is so well paid lucky you....!

Newbutoldfather · 21/07/2026 16:21

Just thought I would put this out there for context.

,No, UK welfare spending is not internationally high. Measured as a percentage of GDP, the UK sits near the middle or slightly below the average of advanced economies in the OECD Social Expenditure Database. 1, 2]
Spending as a Share of GDP

  • Narrow Definition (DWP benefits): Direct welfare and social security payments handled by the Department for Work and Pensions (including the state pension and working-age benefits) amount to roughly 10.6% to 11% of GDP. 1, 2]
  • Broad Definition (OECD Social Protection): When using wider international frameworks that blend broader social safety nets, health, and care, the UK spends roughly 21% to 23% of GDP. This is close to the broader OECD average (~21%), but considerably lower than top-tier European spenders like France, Finland, and Austria, which dedicate upwards of 30% to 32% of GDP to social protection.’

It doesn’t mean per se that our welfare bill isn’t too high, but where would that put France then?

I think a large part of the issue is that people see taxes as high but don’t feel government delivers much in return for it.

List of countries by social welfare spending - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_social_welfare_spending

Maomee · 21/07/2026 16:21

The government has made a deliberate choice to allow hundreds of thousands of unknown people, many with little understanding of English into the country and now expects the average person to foot the bill. It's the equivalent of spending a household's budget on keeping a ridiculous number of pets rather than getting the food in or paying the gas bill. Then we all wonder why we're worse off.

XenoBitch · 21/07/2026 16:21

JasmineMac · 21/07/2026 16:16

What if you're wrong though?

I don't think people who question the trajectory of a benefits heavy society necessarily do so on the basis of their own circumstances. Maybe it's about a bigger picture.

Personally, I think it's an absolute waste to see so many working age adults not working. With encouragement, they could improve their own standard of living/emotional well being and (in numbers) would improve the areas we all live in.

In what jobs?
According to ONS figures, there are 2.5 jobseekers (so people actively looking for work) to every vacancy.

OriginalUsername2 · 21/07/2026 16:19

XenoBitch · 21/07/2026 15:52

Why is this a competition? There is no real way to measure what work is hard or not. Why is it, on MN, that only high earners are working "hard"?

I know I would find waitressing really hard work. Having to "mask" for a shift, be on your feet etc. I would hate it, and find it hard work. I could go home, but be wiped out for the rest of day and struggle to do much else apart from recover.
That is the reality for a lot of people in low paid jobs that do not have responsibility over things like hundreds of employees, or a massive budgets. But they still work hard.

That’s very true, on top of all the physically hard work, you’re also pretty much an actor while on shift. It’s mentally exhausting using all your face muscles to look and sound happy and friendly when there’s chaos in the kitchen and a vast percentage of customers are miserable sods😆

Megifer · 21/07/2026 16:17

ClarkeandNewman · 21/07/2026 16:11

Not read the thread but I imagine it's the usual whining from people pretending to be on huge incomes, dehumanising people whose contributions don't meet some imaginary bar and a load of guff about "personal responsibility"?

Contributing what you can constitutes fairness so the op is on dodgy ground before you even get past the title. But people have always whinged about doing their bit because their greed dictates that they want to keep everything to themselves. Nothing new under the sun.

We've also had - the more kids people have the higher chance one will be disabled so they will get more benefits

JasmineMac · 21/07/2026 16:16

ClarkeandNewman · 21/07/2026 16:11

Not read the thread but I imagine it's the usual whining from people pretending to be on huge incomes, dehumanising people whose contributions don't meet some imaginary bar and a load of guff about "personal responsibility"?

Contributing what you can constitutes fairness so the op is on dodgy ground before you even get past the title. But people have always whinged about doing their bit because their greed dictates that they want to keep everything to themselves. Nothing new under the sun.

What if you're wrong though?

I don't think people who question the trajectory of a benefits heavy society necessarily do so on the basis of their own circumstances. Maybe it's about a bigger picture.

Personally, I think it's an absolute waste to see so many working age adults not working. With encouragement, they could improve their own standard of living/emotional well being and (in numbers) would improve the areas we all live in.

EasternStandard · 21/07/2026 16:16

ClarkeandNewman · 21/07/2026 16:11

Not read the thread but I imagine it's the usual whining from people pretending to be on huge incomes, dehumanising people whose contributions don't meet some imaginary bar and a load of guff about "personal responsibility"?

Contributing what you can constitutes fairness so the op is on dodgy ground before you even get past the title. But people have always whinged about doing their bit because their greed dictates that they want to keep everything to themselves. Nothing new under the sun.

As opposed to what taxes should go up on most threads?

CrystalSingerFan · 21/07/2026 16:15

illbeyourperfectmrs · 21/07/2026 08:01

As my mum would say, it’s better than a poke in the eye with a blunt stick!

Interesting (albeit irrelevant) - mine used to say "better than a poke in the eye with a sharp stick".

ClarkeandNewman · 21/07/2026 16:11

Not read the thread but I imagine it's the usual whining from people pretending to be on huge incomes, dehumanising people whose contributions don't meet some imaginary bar and a load of guff about "personal responsibility"?

Contributing what you can constitutes fairness so the op is on dodgy ground before you even get past the title. But people have always whinged about doing their bit because their greed dictates that they want to keep everything to themselves. Nothing new under the sun.

Andshesoffatatrot · 21/07/2026 16:11

Newbutoldfather · 21/07/2026 11:32

I can’t believe the amount of people prepared to make the counter factual argument that business owners pay the same rate of tax as employees.

They pay a lower rate on average, and that is a fact. Of course, that doesn’t go for every single business or business owner, and the scale of tax efficiency grows with the size of the business. But anecdote doesn’t trump data and, if you do even a tiny bit of research, you will find that is correct.

You can argue whether it is a good thing (and I do think true entrepreneurs should be lauded and rewarded) but you can’t argue whether it is a thing. It is.

The reason is the flexibility. A business owner can split their income between leaving money in the business, taking dividends and taking a salary to optimise tax efficiency.

And there are all sorts of ways of getting money out of the business other than a full sale such as selling a portion via private equity or the business loaning money at a low interest rate until it is sold.

I'd pay less tax as a sole trader. The fact I employ people and have a limited company means I pay more. That's ludicrous.

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 16:07

OriginalUsername2 · 21/07/2026 15:48

Can you say what sacrifices you made?

No I won't no. I don't care for further judgement on my actual life. Ultimately people can think and believe what they want. Everyone is just strangers on the internet afterall

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JasmineMac · 21/07/2026 16:04

XenoBitch · 21/07/2026 15:52

Why is this a competition? There is no real way to measure what work is hard or not. Why is it, on MN, that only high earners are working "hard"?

I know I would find waitressing really hard work. Having to "mask" for a shift, be on your feet etc. I would hate it, and find it hard work. I could go home, but be wiped out for the rest of day and struggle to do much else apart from recover.
That is the reality for a lot of people in low paid jobs that do not have responsibility over things like hundreds of employees, or a massive budgets. But they still work hard.

I never asked the question, I replied with a comparison.

The question was essentially sacrifice. People who do speciality jobs have sacrificed their time, more than anything. And usually lots of it!

People can engage in whataboutery, however spending on sickness and disability benefits has increased rapidly, and continues to increase. I don't think it's unreasonable for tax payers to ask at which point will government address the unsustainable path robustly, rather than shying away again and again and reverting to the tax rise cop out.

VanessaFence · 21/07/2026 16:03

Newbutoldfather · 21/07/2026 15:10

I do think it’s funny how many people want to ignore me because they don’t like what I post, so they think I am confused!

my quote about top earners paying 12% net tax was a search for UK, not U.S.

And I don’t have any idea why someone seems to think that I believe that you can sell the same business annually.

No, I am not an accountant and nor have I run a business, but I have for most of my life paid tax at the highest rate and I invest in both publicly traded shares and small private equities, and I can see the tax advantages accruing to the owners.

It is a fact that most (successful) business owners will pay themselves a small salary, so they won’t hit the higher tax bands and the rest as a mixture of dividends and pension contributions (although a lot of that benefit has recently been destroyed).

Although, yes, you do pay corporate tax on profits and then tax again when you receive the dividend, it is still a lot less than the personal tax bands (about 5% if you are paying tax at the highest rate).

And, as for taking capital gains, you can sell a share in your business via private equity if you have a medium size successful business. Most small private equity companies will look at any business with a net worth of over 5 million, which means an EBITDA of under one million at a reason ratio. That isn’t a huge business by any means. So, yes, you can release bits of your business over time. It isn’t all or nothing.

If I am wrong, I am happy to be challenged with actual facts, but not dismissed with nebulous accusations of having no idea what I am talking about.

Do people seriously believe that owners of medium (with medium starting quite low) to large successful businesses pay a net tax rate of 45%? Why do you think a wealth tax is being mooted (although will never happen)?

A PP has already said it but I'm afraid you really don't know what you're talking about!

If I take out £100k in dividends then I also have to pay corporation tax on that before I withdraw it which for £100k would put me in the higher CT rate (25%) which means it all nets out. There's really no meaningful tax advantage.

There was more of an advantage a few years ago before the CT rates went up (and dividends rates rose earlier this year).

DontrockthecaravanGeoffrey · 21/07/2026 16:02

Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 09:23

A child is a human in their own right. They should look to cover their costs from cradle to grave if they can. That way you aren't a burden on society. Do you think that's wrong? Why should this be all our aim?

Anyone with a seriously disabled relation who relies on the state must surely loathe OP's implication that anyone who doesn't pay their way is a burden on society.

Some people know the cost of everything and the value of nothing.

ThingsAreNotWhatTheyWere · 21/07/2026 16:01

MrsMurphyIWish · 21/07/2026 15:54

I wish we could ban the phrase “net contributor”. Not sure what I am - teacher, but claim 2 x child benefit and DLA for DS. I hope being in education for 26 years means my contribution to society is worth my “pay”. Not all benefit claimants are abusing the system. Yes they exist - I grew up in a benefit lifestyle household - but I am not unique in being socially mobile.

What helped to lift me out of poverty were good teachers who cares for me, FSM, a bursary to catch a bus to college, no uni fee, bursary at uni - all this would be under “welfare”.

I'm with you on banning the phrases "net contributor" and "net beneficiary", or more specifically the value judgments that go with them...