AIBU All hell broke loose over UCAT

It clearly says in the opening paragraph. Quicker to read it properly than post.

@NoMoreLifts Dad refusing to pay for test unless teen chooses certain date is very controlling.

Then he pays for it himself. Simple.

All hell didn’t break out over UCAT. It broke out over your husband’s stupid attempt to impose idiotic superstitions on your son.

If your son does well at school and gets into medicine, it’ll be because of his efforts, not because he did tests on particular days!

Good grief how angry it would have made me if my parents had tried to ascribe my achievements to the calendar!

I agree this shouldn't be forced on DS

So have you told him that it's ok to book the date he wants?

he refused to pay for the selected date)

So why don't you pay?

Sounds as if all of this could have been easily avoided.

That is incorrect.
If he wants to be a Doctor he must understand that others have the right to a belief system of their choice eg Jehovah's Witnesses refusing blood transfusions.
His dad wants to use Astrology to obtain a more auspicious time, that's his belief.

What's being a Scorpio got to do with it?

Booking doesn’t open until the 23rd of June so why are they arguing about it now , anyway?

As someone who has studied Astrology, I can assure you it is not "shite".

However, unless you have a very accurate birth time to work with it isn't much use. In any case a day either way isn't going to make much difference.

I am surprised this issue hasn't come up before now.

Who refused to pay for the selected date?

Is this for real? That poor boy.

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I think your DS would be wise to get as far away from you both as possible

Your poor DS. It’s your responsibility as parents to pay for the date he selected. I don’t know how your post can be real, it’s so ludicrous.

No doubt you'll be on here in 10-15 years wondering why he doesn't want anything to do with you OP and complaining that some evil daughter in law is preventing you from seeing him and your grandkids...

I like the sound of your DS 😊

Not only is he pressuring him to conform to his astrology beliefs, he is actively forcing him to by refusing to pay for another date. Pathetic.

"All hell broke loose" - no, your son very reasonably lost his temper over your DH's incredibly unreasonable behaviour.

I really feel sorry for kids like this who have behaved and achieved all their childhood and when they finally reach the end of their tether over something ridiculous and angering it's them that's in the wrong, because their usual behaviour is so perfect.

Grow up and see who's really at fault here OP.

This, 1 million per cent. My career is probably the proudest achievement of my parents' lives, I achieved it despite them (particularly my mum), not because of them, and I think she would not be able to grasp the idea that it wasn't because of her "support". Adult children should not have to thank their parents for bringing them up.

Don’t take it personally op. He’s massively stressed and just lost his temper with his father’s strange request. Just leave him be to get on with things, keep him fed and watered and support quietly from the sidelines. Good luck to your son, it’s a tough exam.

That made me proper larf! Thanks

Imagine working so hard at school you were looking at doing medicine, wanting to book a UCAT and instead of being proud of you, your controlling narcissist dad has to make it about him.
.because that's what this i, your husband had a choice, the choice to shush and let his child excel or the choice to impose his own nonsense to make himself part of it. So he can say 'ah he's a doctor because I told him to choose the Tuesday for the exam and paid for it's

Any wonder your child is angry.

Op I haven’t RTET but he’s stressed. My 25 y.o. Ds who has taken the ACT(USA) and DAT and is now sitting for his oral surgery fellowship despite scoring in the top 98% on the previous two texted his sister and I both… “no one is allowed to bring this up”. He doesn’t want asked how it went.

your DH is extremely silly to change the date based on his astrology read. You do as well as you can on standardized tests because you studied and are well prepared. There is an element to being good at standardized
tests but not lucky or astrological aligned.

He’s going to need alot of support
in the future so put this woo woo aside put this tension aside and support him in a
real way in the future.

He needs to book it for a day that suits him. Not when the stars align.

Mumsnet ,generally, is very anti religion.

Thanks for your reply although I don't think my question was interpreted as I meant it. I am not saying he must blindly obey his dad, I just am wondering if the day makes a differance? As I said, unfamilar with it all. Are the exams only on certain days?
Doesn’t affect me, I just like to be in the loop!