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What is going on in this house?

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Neighbourmystery · 20/07/2026 18:14

Right, this is going to sound nosy but here goes...
A house in a street I know was owned by an old lady with no family. When she died, her house stood empty for nearly a year then it started having work done. It's been bought by a health service far away from he town we live in (think I live in Liverpool and NHS Devon and Cornwall bought it) BTW these are not the real locations. So, they do lots of renovations, including putting a much higher fence up which has a key code entry they also put frosted film on every window. There's a new build extension on the side with coded keypads too. This is where 2 carers are. There are 4 carers altogether, 2 at a time and then a swap. There is one man who lives there . He is in his 30s , able bodied can move well etc I've seen him once or twice in the garden in a whole year. Another twice I saw a darkened van come to get him. He was only gone for an hour or so then back.
I cannot imagine the scenario this might be. I'm not curtain twitching and permanently watching but I am fascinated.

OP posts:
TennisLady · 21/07/2026 15:09

Wanderlust510 · 21/07/2026 10:53

I literally work in a setting like this as a support worker. The individual lives in a detatched bungalow and has 3 to 1 carers 24 hours a day. We do 12 hour shifts and rotate. Autistic and LD- nothing to do with criminal convictions or anything like that. Secure doors and gates, tinted windows ect for individuals own safety and dignity.

Yeah I have a family member who does this too. They have a carer 24 hours day, a car, house etc. also LD.

Leavesandthings · 21/07/2026 15:06

ForeverNowWithin · 21/07/2026 14:30

well that won't be the case for every person but lots of people who clearly seem to have in depth knowledge of this sort of assisted living facility have said that it's often used for service users who cannot safely be around others in a shared residential setting. So apart from family who may visit periodically, then yes it would be EXACTLY like being in solitary confinement with no other residents to socialise with, and only staff.

You don't know what you are talking about.

cutthegraa · 21/07/2026 15:04

How do you know that are actually carers?

Blueberrybonanza · 21/07/2026 15:03

ForeverNowWithin · 21/07/2026 14:52

So someone with dementia or simply infirmity due to old age could get full time care while remaining in their home, without having to sell their home to access it?

If you read my post, complexity of care.
but you are not really reading or taking in anyones post just arguing for the sake of it against anyone that doesn't agree with your sweeping outdated pretty nasty narrative.

ForeverNowWithin · 21/07/2026 14:54

IAmKerplunk · 21/07/2026 14:35

‘May visit periodically’? You do realise people with very high needs can have loving and caring families who are still very much part of their lives?

You literally have no clue what you are talking about and are just embarrassing yourself with your ignorance.

By visit periodically, I was making the point that they do not live there. I am very well aware that many, indeed probably most will have loving families thank you. But I am not going to assume that all do. Hence why I said 'may have.'

ForeverNowWithin · 21/07/2026 14:52

Blueberrybonanza · 21/07/2026 14:36

Yes you can have it in your own home, live in carers if you require complex care.
what you are doing is clearly trying to argue with no actual knowledge of what goes on in the NHS/LA nor how complex care packages differ from run of the mill care nor how and why any of it is funded.

So someone with dementia or simply infirmity due to old age could get full time care while remaining in their home, without having to sell their home to access it?

ForeverNowWithin · 21/07/2026 14:50

Goldengamer · 20/07/2026 20:06

I’ve got one opposite me, they put that film on the windows , they’ve prob done renovations inside to make self contained living . Ex offenders . We have a nightmare with the one opposite us , drugs mostly

I have an elderly relative who lives in a street of mostly privately owned houses but right opposite are a few 1 bed maisonettes that are owned by some sort of housing association for rehabilitating ex-prisoners.

She didn't know that when she bought her house. The last tenant was no problem but the current one is a PITA. Smoking weed all day, big strong dog loose in the front garden the whole time. Always has loads of people round and they insist on all sitting out in the front garden until all hours with loud music playing. She can't wait for winter to come, to get some peace and quiet and not feel nervous that the big dog is going to bound across the street and get her little dog by the throat every time she leaves the house. It makes her nervous to go out. I believe they get moved on after 18-24 months so hopefully it won't last forever.

popcornlova · 21/07/2026 14:50

My guess is there is a second resident you just don’t see as they aren’t able to come outside. Hence the carers. The man is a family member. That or it’s a lab and they’re experimenting on him

wherethewildrosesgrow · 21/07/2026 14:44

Iamthemoom · 20/07/2026 19:05

Hearing about these houses mentioned on the thread with one person and 4-5 nhs carers I’m wondering how it’s decided that a person needs and gets this super expensive package while so many others struggle to get minimal help or care and others are living in bigger group residential care settings. What would make someone able to get such an extraordinarily attentive and expensive set up? Genuinely curious! (Also curious about OPs neighbours on her behalf! I’d definitely be wanting to know if it were me and I don’t consider myself particularly nosey!)

The Only way a person could get 4-1 careers would be if they were likely to become a threat to others.

Blueberrybonanza · 21/07/2026 14:36

ForeverNowWithin · 21/07/2026 14:32

But does the local authority or the NHS pay for 2 full time care staff to look after a dementia patient in the familiar comfort and safety of their own home? Or do they need to sell that home in order to access full time care in the first place?

I think we all know what that poster was driving at and they are absolutely correct.

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Yes you can have it in your own home, live in carers if you require complex care.
what you are doing is clearly trying to argue with no actual knowledge of what goes on in the NHS/LA nor how complex care packages differ from run of the mill care nor how and why any of it is funded.

IAmKerplunk · 21/07/2026 14:35

ForeverNowWithin · 21/07/2026 14:30

well that won't be the case for every person but lots of people who clearly seem to have in depth knowledge of this sort of assisted living facility have said that it's often used for service users who cannot safely be around others in a shared residential setting. So apart from family who may visit periodically, then yes it would be EXACTLY like being in solitary confinement with no other residents to socialise with, and only staff.

‘May visit periodically’? You do realise people with very high needs can have loving and caring families who are still very much part of their lives?

You literally have no clue what you are talking about and are just embarrassing yourself with your ignorance.

ForeverNowWithin · 21/07/2026 14:32

Blueberrybonanza · 21/07/2026 14:28

They absolutely do get 2-1 care if they need it, ICBs commission extra staff to provide it in the care home.

But does the local authority or the NHS pay for 2 full time care staff to look after a dementia patient in the familiar comfort and safety of their own home? Or do they need to sell that home in order to access full time care in the first place?

I think we all know what that poster was driving at and they are absolutely correct.

ForeverNowWithin · 21/07/2026 14:30

OwlBeThere · 21/07/2026 13:00

How do you know they don’t have visitors? or go to activities? You’re creating a scenario in your head with ZERO basis in fact. It’s not solitary confinement if they aren’t looked in one room with no one to talk to/interact with.

well that won't be the case for every person but lots of people who clearly seem to have in depth knowledge of this sort of assisted living facility have said that it's often used for service users who cannot safely be around others in a shared residential setting. So apart from family who may visit periodically, then yes it would be EXACTLY like being in solitary confinement with no other residents to socialise with, and only staff.

Blueberrybonanza · 21/07/2026 14:28

climbintheback · 21/07/2026 12:51

The country can’t sustain this type of care - dementia patients who have worked all their lives are locked up in large numbers because they are a danger to themselves and others paying thousands of pounds till their money runs out ! Do you think they get 2 to 1 care - don’t make me laugh very often sedated and locked in to wander about with all the others. Imagine if all our elderly demented in a purpose built home with 2 to 1 care, why is this person special?

They absolutely do get 2-1 care if they need it, ICBs commission extra staff to provide it in the care home.

Ifeellikechickentonightchickentonight · 21/07/2026 14:26

@ForeverNowWithin

Thank you for your insights. It's useful to know whether entire classes of individuals are capable of enjoyment, or would simply be better off being locked up for life.

As for the NHS, thank God we have people like you to oversee the budget. Because its problems are undoubtedly due to the minuscule number of people being cared for like the man in the thread, and his feckless relatives who undoubtedly only put in about 20 years doing the work of five full time professionals before they couldn't be bothered any more.

It's not like these costs are completely and utterly dwarfed by those associated with our ageing population, the developments of expensive but effective life preserving treatments, years of austerity and underfunding, rising poverty, increases in chronic conditions, covid, staffing issues and the decline of social care.

And also, thank God that the rest of us can guarantee that we will never become expensive ourselves. I mean, what kind of idiot has a serious accident, a stroke or a rare cancer anyway.

What a fucking joke.

Kirbert2 · 21/07/2026 14:25

PilotingAWail · 21/07/2026 11:24

Are you near a hospital that specialises in anything?
I knew two transplant recipients, they had to travel across the border several times on false starts to the transplant hospital. In one case they stayed nearby in a charity sponsored house.
Could it be that?

I’ve stayed in a charity sponsored house. It did have staff in it but they would leave after their work hours and security wasn’t as tight as OP describes. It also had 4 bedrooms so wasn’t just for one person.

HG1984 · 21/07/2026 14:23

All these people making out they wouldn’t want to know either. I want to know 😂

NormallyAwkward · 21/07/2026 14:22

I haven't read all the messages so sorry if it's been said, have you been on your council's planning portal? It might say on there what it's being used for.

TheLurpackYears · 21/07/2026 14:21

Any clues on the planning permission for the extension?

Nothankyoucat · 21/07/2026 14:21

Have you googled the address? Might have some info online

OwlBeThere · 21/07/2026 13:00

ForeverNowWithin · 21/07/2026 11:54

We don't put people in institutions for life anymore. I'm proud to live in such a humane country.

But it's humane to isolate them by moving them into a house where they live with no-one but a 24 hour a day team of paid carers for company and they are not free to go out unaccompanied? They may as well be serving a whole life term in solitary confinement and only speaking to prison guards. It's an 'institution for life' whichever way you cut it. It's just dressed up as being more humane and that window dressing is exceptionally expensive and not remotely sustainable.

How do you know they don’t have visitors? or go to activities? You’re creating a scenario in your head with ZERO basis in fact. It’s not solitary confinement if they aren’t looked in one room with no one to talk to/interact with.

climbintheback · 21/07/2026 12:58

Wanderlust510 · 21/07/2026 10:53

I literally work in a setting like this as a support worker. The individual lives in a detatched bungalow and has 3 to 1 carers 24 hours a day. We do 12 hour shifts and rotate. Autistic and LD- nothing to do with criminal convictions or anything like that. Secure doors and gates, tinted windows ect for individuals own safety and dignity.

And who pays for this £7000 per week care?

OwlBeThere · 21/07/2026 12:58

climbintheback · 21/07/2026 12:51

The country can’t sustain this type of care - dementia patients who have worked all their lives are locked up in large numbers because they are a danger to themselves and others paying thousands of pounds till their money runs out ! Do you think they get 2 to 1 care - don’t make me laugh very often sedated and locked in to wander about with all the others. Imagine if all our elderly demented in a purpose built home with 2 to 1 care, why is this person special?

People with dementia do get 2:1 care at times if it’s appropriate. My daughter literally does that as her job.
This person isn’t special, they may HAVE dementia in fact. None of us know.

OwlBeThere · 21/07/2026 12:55

ForeverNowWithin · 21/07/2026 08:59

Yes, exactly that, but in some form of solitary confinement where he has access to carers but not actual physical access to other residents. Or very limited access to other residents in strictly controlled circumstances and small doses. So like when you see someone doing a prison visit via a protective screen, they could socialise to a degree, if capable or willing to do so, but not have the opportunity to physically attack other residents.

It's not very nice, I know, but it's just the most realistic and pragmatic option. People are saying 'where are these facilities? They don't exist.' Well neither do these very expensive, bespoke assisted living places until some committee decided to buy a house and convert it to one. These people are essentially being kept in solitary confinement (apart from access to their carers) anyway aren't they? That would appear to be the entire point of these houses, to accommodate certain very high needs, high risk individuals away from other residents in a shared facility. So we may as well drop the hand wringing and outrage at the idea of solitary confinement for unwell or mentally disabled people. Because that is basically what these outrageously expensive tailor-made solutions are designed to do.

How is that cheaper? rent and building upkeep of hospitals and residential care still exist. The carers would still need to be paid. And if it’s in a facility you’re suggesting locking a person up in one room all day every day. Like a prisoner.

climbintheback · 21/07/2026 12:51

The country can’t sustain this type of care - dementia patients who have worked all their lives are locked up in large numbers because they are a danger to themselves and others paying thousands of pounds till their money runs out ! Do you think they get 2 to 1 care - don’t make me laugh very often sedated and locked in to wander about with all the others. Imagine if all our elderly demented in a purpose built home with 2 to 1 care, why is this person special?

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