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What is going on in this house?

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Neighbourmystery · 20/07/2026 18:14

Right, this is going to sound nosy but here goes...
A house in a street I know was owned by an old lady with no family. When she died, her house stood empty for nearly a year then it started having work done. It's been bought by a health service far away from he town we live in (think I live in Liverpool and NHS Devon and Cornwall bought it) BTW these are not the real locations. So, they do lots of renovations, including putting a much higher fence up which has a key code entry they also put frosted film on every window. There's a new build extension on the side with coded keypads too. This is where 2 carers are. There are 4 carers altogether, 2 at a time and then a swap. There is one man who lives there . He is in his 30s , able bodied can move well etc I've seen him once or twice in the garden in a whole year. Another twice I saw a darkened van come to get him. He was only gone for an hour or so then back.
I cannot imagine the scenario this might be. I'm not curtain twitching and permanently watching but I am fascinated.

OP posts:
JonBonJ · 20/07/2026 22:34

PyongyangKipperbang · 20/07/2026 18:40

@Neighbourmystery When there was a guy parked right outside my house all day with him sitting in it (front door is straight off the pavement) and I posted on here about being a wee bit freaked out by it, I got this sort of shit too. Told to mind my own business (err I think it was my business!) and that I didnt own the road outside my house (as if that was the issue!) . Some people just like feeling pious and superior!

In our close, if so much as an unusual car turns around, you can see all the neighbours' heads popping up and down at the windows like some sort of Whack A Mole 😂 😂.
My DH is usually the first up.

LittleFootprintsInSand · 20/07/2026 22:32

Devonshiregal · 20/07/2026 22:29

Wouldn’t be nhs carers though would it? And the government/council/etc aren’t usually so helpful so as to do up a house and provide live in support in an entirely different county for one seemingly able-bodied person. Usually people are begging for basic care even when in dire need.

NHS do sometimes provide carers, or even occasionally constant mental health nursing, and they do sometimes contribute financially with mental health, learning disability and autism etc packages.

Devonshiregal · 20/07/2026 22:29

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 20/07/2026 21:55

People who experience a brain injury that leaves them unable to behave appropriately, may well receive compensation that effectively provides care for life, of this kind. I have no personal or professional experience of this, but a friend was providing therapy to someone in that situation. A massive pot of money to provide care at a high standard, because of compensation/insurance after a life changing injury.

Wouldn’t be nhs carers though would it? And the government/council/etc aren’t usually so helpful so as to do up a house and provide live in support in an entirely different county for one seemingly able-bodied person. Usually people are begging for basic care even when in dire need.

LittleFootprintsInSand · 20/07/2026 22:27

likelysuspect · 20/07/2026 21:09

No I dont think its a good thing. I started working in MH just as Care in the Community was taking off, hospitals closing. 'Day centres' 'support groups' were the replacement.

People were too ill to live independently but of course they're not 'ill enough' to remain in hospitals. So they live chaotic and disconnected lives sometimes causing harm to themselves through accident or self neglect, sometimes causing harm to others by dysregulation and lashing out. Usually small scale. Usually criminalised.
Im including people with conditions which also are not strictly speaking MH issues but which are usually comorbid associations so ASD, LD etc

Care in the community was politically convenient as its cheaper on the surface and done under the guise of empowerment and indivdualism, service users having choice and agency and moving away from instutionalising people.

I dont minimise those concerns but believe me, it is not better now. And its costing the country a fortune. For every penny saved on a care home setting, you can times that by 10 in terms of housing pressures, police, social care, affect on the wider community, affect on relatives who often have violent and high need adult children living with them at home meaning their parents or relatives are unable to work/have MH conditions themselves caused the stress of managing this.

I could go on but theres too much to say about it.

I have worked in a similar area (although don't think I'm as experienced as you) and also have family experience. I totally agree with a lot of what you're saying. There have been (highly restrictive) "community care" packages that I've seen that - in my personal opinion - offer a much shitter quality of life for the person involved. They also sometimes cost more than some hospital placements, although that is really not as important as the truly crap life they lead in order to be in any way safe "in the community". "In the community" sometimes just literally means not in a hospital, so sometimes that means basically only seeing care staff.

Sometimes it's just a complete farce.

NCForOneNightOnly · 20/07/2026 22:22

Surely there would have been planning notice submitted when this was built and extended? That will tell you what the property was built for. Have a look on the council planning website.

ThreadGuardDog · 20/07/2026 22:22

NotAnotherScarf · 20/07/2026 18:21

Ok you've rumbled it you're living next door to Elvis

And he works down the chip shop !!

canklesmctacotits · 20/07/2026 22:12

likelysuspect · 20/07/2026 21:09

No I dont think its a good thing. I started working in MH just as Care in the Community was taking off, hospitals closing. 'Day centres' 'support groups' were the replacement.

People were too ill to live independently but of course they're not 'ill enough' to remain in hospitals. So they live chaotic and disconnected lives sometimes causing harm to themselves through accident or self neglect, sometimes causing harm to others by dysregulation and lashing out. Usually small scale. Usually criminalised.
Im including people with conditions which also are not strictly speaking MH issues but which are usually comorbid associations so ASD, LD etc

Care in the community was politically convenient as its cheaper on the surface and done under the guise of empowerment and indivdualism, service users having choice and agency and moving away from instutionalising people.

I dont minimise those concerns but believe me, it is not better now. And its costing the country a fortune. For every penny saved on a care home setting, you can times that by 10 in terms of housing pressures, police, social care, affect on the wider community, affect on relatives who often have violent and high need adult children living with them at home meaning their parents or relatives are unable to work/have MH conditions themselves caused the stress of managing this.

I could go on but theres too much to say about it.

Thank you for taking the time to respond. What you’ve said makes a lot of sense. I wonder whether things will go back to care not-in-the-community, except for those properly assessed to being best placed for it. So a halfway house (pardon the clumsy pun) between what we had before and what exists now.

mumuseli · 20/07/2026 21:58

Interesting about the fence being made higher and the frosted glass put in. I would be curious too, OP.

MemorableLlama · 20/07/2026 21:56

As they’ve had work done, you could look up the planning permission online to see if that gives you any clues.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 20/07/2026 21:55

People who experience a brain injury that leaves them unable to behave appropriately, may well receive compensation that effectively provides care for life, of this kind. I have no personal or professional experience of this, but a friend was providing therapy to someone in that situation. A massive pot of money to provide care at a high standard, because of compensation/insurance after a life changing injury.

hotmumshit · 20/07/2026 21:51

Did we come to an answer? Hrtft

Seawolves · 20/07/2026 21:49

The darkened screens in the van could be for something as simple as a person who has photosensitive epilepsy or it could be so personal care can be delivered quickly and with dignity. Our vehicle has privacy glass and curtains because it holds a changing bed and overhead hoist for when we are out and about, finding places to change an older child/adult who needs personal care isn't always easy so our van is our changing area. Someone with epilepsy might need a darkened area in which to recover after a seizure.

Meckrel · 20/07/2026 21:46

Would the NHS in "Liverpool" send their own staff/uniforms? Wouldn't they commission the local NHS to provide the care?

That's how it works in Children's Services anyway. Local authorities pay each other for children placed in the area.

WiddlinDiddlin · 20/07/2026 21:44

1 - He has very high, very specific care needs that mean seeing the outside and being able to get out easily isn't a good idea..

2 - ditto, but he's in witness protection.

So the NHS involvement but out of area could be as a result of witness protection or, because its a much cheaper area to house him in. I favour the witness protection theory myself because I doubt you'd have to go THAT far to get cheaper properties, assuming the real location of the NHS trust involved is a comparably long way from the house location as your fictional examples are.

IAmKerplunk · 20/07/2026 21:38

MsGreying · 20/07/2026 21:04

Adult being cared for in a placement at great expense to the taxpayer?

Wouldn’t you want that for your loved one if it was the best and safest option for them?

Strawberrydelight78 · 20/07/2026 21:27

Mos likely he either has mental health issues or a learning disability.

wheresthesnowgone · 20/07/2026 21:22

I'm thinking it's bespoke secure assisted living accommodation for someone who's not safe to be in the community but there's nowhere else to house him. He could be physically ok but may have severe learning difficulties and be dangerous to himself and others. Probably hasn't committed a crime but there's a risk he could.

The accommodation is probably built with future residents in mind as well.

Cakeandcardio · 20/07/2026 21:19

PyongyangKipperbang · 20/07/2026 18:37

Id wonder if it is someone who has been released from a secure psychiatric unit after a criminal conviction. Safe enough to be able to leave but not safe enough to be left alone.

I would say this. They might not be a danger but also might not really be able to function in society. Especially if their crime was caused by psychosis etc. They will be medicated. Then one carer wouldn't be permitted to do the job alone so there's 2 of them.

Meckrel · 20/07/2026 21:18

It would seem perfectly normal to me to strike up a conversation with the new neighbours or their visitors/staff.

If it's being used as a halfway house or something, wouldn't that need a change of use planning application?. I know there was one here when a house was changed to a children's home, even though it was only to care for three children.

Neighbourmystery · 20/07/2026 21:12

Anyahyacinth · 20/07/2026 21:10

You can’t tell someone’s health status by looking at them. It’s likely they have complex learning disabilities and need 1:1 support ..which is expensive ..are they in a cheaper property area? They may have been targeted in their home community. So generating gossip about them would be highly unwelcome for the public good and safeguarding this person.

To Kill A Mocking Bird

I am not in the slightest generating gossip.

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SP2024 · 20/07/2026 21:11

I’d be intrigued too. Have you tried checking the CQC website to see if it’s registered there?

likelysuspect · 20/07/2026 21:11

Oh and he may not have someone advocating for him at all, he might just have been so dangerous to others or so at risk from others that the only way to support him is this. If he could live with others in a facility or home, he would do, which suggests he needs a solo placement for others' protection

Anyahyacinth · 20/07/2026 21:10

You can’t tell someone’s health status by looking at them. It’s likely they have complex learning disabilities and need 1:1 support ..which is expensive ..are they in a cheaper property area? They may have been targeted in their home community. So generating gossip about them would be highly unwelcome for the public good and safeguarding this person.

To Kill A Mocking Bird

blueshoes · 20/07/2026 21:10

Neighbourmystery · 20/07/2026 19:39

Yeah that is curious I think.

If its assisted living, why have nhs staff from a trust hundreds of miles away?

Is the NHS Trust in an expensive area and this is a cheaper area? Might have been more cost effective by hundreds of thousands to buy and adapt a property in a less expensive postcode.

The fact the NHS carers live in the property mean they can be hired locally by the NHS Trust. Similar to me if I worked in the UK for a US company based thousands of miles away.

likelysuspect · 20/07/2026 21:09

canklesmctacotits · 20/07/2026 20:58

That's really interesting. Thanks for elucidating.

Joint commissioning sounds possible/probable?

This patient must have someone advocating for them strongly (good for them). I've just looked up what DoLS is (Deprivation of Liberty Safeguarding), it seems like someone somewhere is taking good care of this young man. For other posters and maybe the OP, I found this:

The Deprivation of Liberty Safeguards (DoLS) procedure is designed to protect your rights if you are deprived of your liberty in a hospital or care home in England or Wales and you lack mental capacity to consent to being there. If it is assessed that you do not have mental capacity to consent to care or treatment, it may be necessary, in your best interests, for other people to decide to place you somewhere to receive it.

So, able bodied but seemingly severely enough lacking in mental capacity and with enough back up/support for this option to be funded. I find that very reassuring, if it's the best option for him.

@likelysuspect when you said "People wanted care in the community. This is the outcome", are you speaking as someone with knowledge/experience of all this, who has an opinion on whether this is a good thing or a bad thing?

No I dont think its a good thing. I started working in MH just as Care in the Community was taking off, hospitals closing. 'Day centres' 'support groups' were the replacement.

People were too ill to live independently but of course they're not 'ill enough' to remain in hospitals. So they live chaotic and disconnected lives sometimes causing harm to themselves through accident or self neglect, sometimes causing harm to others by dysregulation and lashing out. Usually small scale. Usually criminalised.
Im including people with conditions which also are not strictly speaking MH issues but which are usually comorbid associations so ASD, LD etc

Care in the community was politically convenient as its cheaper on the surface and done under the guise of empowerment and indivdualism, service users having choice and agency and moving away from instutionalising people.

I dont minimise those concerns but believe me, it is not better now. And its costing the country a fortune. For every penny saved on a care home setting, you can times that by 10 in terms of housing pressures, police, social care, affect on the wider community, affect on relatives who often have violent and high need adult children living with them at home meaning their parents or relatives are unable to work/have MH conditions themselves caused the stress of managing this.

I could go on but theres too much to say about it.

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