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What is going on in this house?

462 replies

Neighbourmystery · 20/07/2026 18:14

Right, this is going to sound nosy but here goes...
A house in a street I know was owned by an old lady with no family. When she died, her house stood empty for nearly a year then it started having work done. It's been bought by a health service far away from he town we live in (think I live in Liverpool and NHS Devon and Cornwall bought it) BTW these are not the real locations. So, they do lots of renovations, including putting a much higher fence up which has a key code entry they also put frosted film on every window. There's a new build extension on the side with coded keypads too. This is where 2 carers are. There are 4 carers altogether, 2 at a time and then a swap. There is one man who lives there . He is in his 30s , able bodied can move well etc I've seen him once or twice in the garden in a whole year. Another twice I saw a darkened van come to get him. He was only gone for an hour or so then back.
I cannot imagine the scenario this might be. I'm not curtain twitching and permanently watching but I am fascinated.

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CathyTalbot · 06/08/2026 23:03

In an ideal world, populated by ultra obedient people, of course not. But as you may have noticed, this is not such a world.

ThreadGuardDog · 28/07/2026 11:47

CathyTalbot · 27/07/2026 22:32

Yes you're right. Authorities might be wary of divulging anything. If it were me, I'd probably try to get talking to one of the carers. This can take ages, I know. It can start with nodding and then smiling and then building up to talking. But it might be the only way to find any real information.

And the carer would be in breach of client confidentiality if they divulged any information, so realistically that’s not going to happen.

alexdgr8 · 28/07/2026 01:57

The carers will not reveal any information about their client or even the setting if they are doing their job properly.

CathyTalbot · 27/07/2026 22:32

Yes you're right. Authorities might be wary of divulging anything. If it were me, I'd probably try to get talking to one of the carers. This can take ages, I know. It can start with nodding and then smiling and then building up to talking. But it might be the only way to find any real information.

mathanxiety · 26/07/2026 21:43

Neighbourmystery · 20/07/2026 18:34

I am not trying to find out in real life! That's why I'm chatting on here

I think there's nothing at all wrong with trying to find out in real life.

Talk to your other neighbours.

Neighbourmystery · 26/07/2026 21:02

BeAzureRaven · 25/07/2026 21:59

Maybe the man is a werewolf? It would take all 4 carers to restrain him during the full moons.

I think this is the only explanation

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RodneyKitten · 26/07/2026 20:35

TisEye · 20/07/2026 18:27

I wish I was so pious that I wasn't interested in unusual events going around me but here we are.

Interesting OP. Whats your theory?

Oh they are interested.

They just don’t want to admit it, other what are they doing on this thread?

OwlBeThere · 26/07/2026 20:31

ThreadGuardDog · 24/07/2026 11:52

And the problem now is NIMBY - no-one wants to live near care in the community facilities such as the one OP has described.

Yeah i’d agree with that, lots of people are very keen on helping the community until it’s their community. 🙄

CathyTalbot · 26/07/2026 17:21

I think it's reasonable to want to know what's going on in your own neighbourhood. Why not ask the local authority or failing this, your MP?

They can give you an outline without divulging anyone's personal details. If public money is being spent on this project it sould not be a secret from tax payers.

NewYear2026NewName · 26/07/2026 14:36

Neighbourmystery · 20/07/2026 18:14

Right, this is going to sound nosy but here goes...
A house in a street I know was owned by an old lady with no family. When she died, her house stood empty for nearly a year then it started having work done. It's been bought by a health service far away from he town we live in (think I live in Liverpool and NHS Devon and Cornwall bought it) BTW these are not the real locations. So, they do lots of renovations, including putting a much higher fence up which has a key code entry they also put frosted film on every window. There's a new build extension on the side with coded keypads too. This is where 2 carers are. There are 4 carers altogether, 2 at a time and then a swap. There is one man who lives there . He is in his 30s , able bodied can move well etc I've seen him once or twice in the garden in a whole year. Another twice I saw a darkened van come to get him. He was only gone for an hour or so then back.
I cannot imagine the scenario this might be. I'm not curtain twitching and permanently watching but I am fascinated.

… havent read all messages but have you checked with local authorities/ council re change of use etc.

HopeHelpCompassionforAll · 25/07/2026 22:50

There might be bedridden patient living there, maybe someone who has something to do with secret service (strange but possible!)

likelysuspect · 25/07/2026 22:01

BeAzureRaven · 25/07/2026 21:59

Maybe the man is a werewolf? It would take all 4 carers to restrain him during the full moons.

I think they would only need 3 -1 if its cloudy though.

BeAzureRaven · 25/07/2026 21:59

Maybe the man is a werewolf? It would take all 4 carers to restrain him during the full moons.

ThreadGuardDog · 25/07/2026 21:14

Su9 · 25/07/2026 19:29

Whatever work they do, the carers are probably legally and ethically forbidden to tell. What a costly situation, tho

Depends if the person being cared for is paying for it all. Many do.

emmetgirl · 25/07/2026 20:53

We have something similar in our street. It’s a normal detached bungalow with 2 bedrooms (I’m pretty sure it’s just 2) and there appears to be one person living there and always 2 support staff 24 hours a day. I know a few people that have worked as support for adults with severe learning disabilities and it’s not uncommon for them to need one or more person on hand 24 hours a day to deal with behavioural problems. The resident of the house or the support staff don’t cause any issues at all and tbh you probably wouldn’t even know the set up there unless you paid attention and are home a lots of different times during the day (as me and DP are-we’re self employed so don’t have normal hours or days we work).

TheWorthyNewt · 25/07/2026 20:35

Probably someone who needs support in the community. Nosy person you.

suburberphobe · 25/07/2026 20:02

My first thought would be a weed farm.... but then I smoke it, not UK

I'm sure it's easy to make fake uniforms too.

DaisyDuke74 · 25/07/2026 19:51

Neighbourmystery · 20/07/2026 18:31

I'm not freaked out or scared. I thought maybe psych patient and has definitely been moved out of area. The carers are on for a few days at a time and live there before they swap (they are all in the far away nhs branded stuff like lanyards etc) so I'm assuming they have a long travel

Possibly employed by the faraway NHS department , but live locally?

I would say it’s someone with specific needs who is a danger when living with others.

Su9 · 25/07/2026 19:29

Whatever work they do, the carers are probably legally and ethically forbidden to tell. What a costly situation, tho

BassBug · 25/07/2026 18:14

Neighbourmystery · 20/07/2026 18:14

Right, this is going to sound nosy but here goes...
A house in a street I know was owned by an old lady with no family. When she died, her house stood empty for nearly a year then it started having work done. It's been bought by a health service far away from he town we live in (think I live in Liverpool and NHS Devon and Cornwall bought it) BTW these are not the real locations. So, they do lots of renovations, including putting a much higher fence up which has a key code entry they also put frosted film on every window. There's a new build extension on the side with coded keypads too. This is where 2 carers are. There are 4 carers altogether, 2 at a time and then a swap. There is one man who lives there . He is in his 30s , able bodied can move well etc I've seen him once or twice in the garden in a whole year. Another twice I saw a darkened van come to get him. He was only gone for an hour or so then back.
I cannot imagine the scenario this might be. I'm not curtain twitching and permanently watching but I am fascinated.

Find a hobby that takes you away from the object of your fascination. You will find out soon enough anyway. As long as your new neighbours aren't coming into your property what does it matter?

ThreadGuardDog · 24/07/2026 11:58

LeftieRightsHoarder · 22/07/2026 09:03

Please, people, don’t try to guilt-trip OP or call her nosy. As someone has pointed out here already, dangerous men do sometimes escape their carers and attack people. It’s reasonable to be aware and try to take precautions.

”Dangerous men’ as you characterise them, do not escape their carers to attack people. In the two instances quoted on the thread, these were down to poor risk assessment, resulting in inappropriate and insecure care settings. The professionals charged with keeping these two individuals and those around them safe, failed miserably in their responsibilities.

ThreadGuardDog · 24/07/2026 11:52

OwlBeThere · 22/07/2026 19:10

People very definitely wanted people not to be living in the kinds of institutions we had before care in the community, asylums, workhouses and almshouses etc. Appalling lack of stimulation, lack of care, isolated and ignored.

And the problem now is NIMBY - no-one wants to live near care in the community facilities such as the one OP has described.

ThreadGuardDog · 24/07/2026 11:49

Aluna · 21/07/2026 17:21

And? I said eligible. The point being that over that amount the elderly person is liable for the entire cost of their care.

The only areas that doesn’t apply is if they require nursing care, which many elderly despite being infirm, even late stage dementia, do not; or they have been in hospital, in which case there will generally be a short term care plan paid for by the la for a number of weeks.

You weren’t clear on the amounts or exclusions, and many people look at these threads for information so I think it’s important to be accurate. And you gave the impression that care costs were based on savings alone. They’re not. Any and all personal income is assessed, including disability benefits in some areas. And if income is above the assessed minimum income guarantee, some or all of the care costs will be met by the person receiving care.

And not all local authorities will provide the short term care plan if the patient being discharged from hospital only requires personal care. There has to be either OT or physio home services input after discharge from hospital.

likelysuspect · 22/07/2026 22:06

LeftieRightsHoarder · 22/07/2026 09:20

Did people ever want ‘care in the community’? It’s a nice-sounding expression, but I’ve usually heard it used sarcastically, in that the speaker believes people in need of care have been thrown out to fend for themselves. In the case of violent mentally ill people, this transfers the problem from the state to the rest of the population.

Yes society has moved further towards individualism but at the same time inclusion and part of that philosophy and ideology was agency, choice, people who struggle in society and community, living among society and community which was designed to give them greater empowerment and connection with others. Small state = lower oversight

I'll leave you to consider whether that has happened or not.

OwlBeThere · 22/07/2026 19:10

LeftieRightsHoarder · 22/07/2026 09:20

Did people ever want ‘care in the community’? It’s a nice-sounding expression, but I’ve usually heard it used sarcastically, in that the speaker believes people in need of care have been thrown out to fend for themselves. In the case of violent mentally ill people, this transfers the problem from the state to the rest of the population.

People very definitely wanted people not to be living in the kinds of institutions we had before care in the community, asylums, workhouses and almshouses etc. Appalling lack of stimulation, lack of care, isolated and ignored.