I am very, very pissed off tonight, but trying to get a bit of perspective. My usual sounding boards of DH and MIL are away for a funeral so don’t want to bother them until they’re back.
AIBU to say that if you book an activity for a child in my home then you can get the child to and from that activity?
The backstory is that the DC is my late cousin’s child. They live here with a SGO so it’s a permanent thing, DH and I have PR to make all of the decisions in his life.
I have, for his sake, facilitated (and encouraged) his contact with my cousins other cousins (I was her cousin on her mum’s side, they are in her dad’s side) as they are his family. They were close to his mum so it’s important he maintains relationships.
However, they’ve overstepped quite a bit at times and the proverbial straw has broken tonight when I’ve had a message telling me I need to take him to a certain activity on a set day each week starting from September as this relative has booked them in.
There was zero discussion about this. No checking that it fits in with the activities we have him booked into (swimming and football atm, and Squirrels in sept, which I think is plenty as he’ll be a starting reception). I have three other children at home as well.
I’m planning to reply and say that that’s fine, but they’ll have to ferry him to and from the activity as it doesn’t work for our schedule (it’s on a night two others will have swimming so MIL will have him and one other at home and I won’t ask her to take him a 40 min trip, wait an hour then 40 mins back).
I’m trying to be nice to people as I know some feel guilty that they couldn’t offer to take him in when our cousin got ill, but I really don’t feel that makes it ok to just do stuff without discussion. It’s so annoying