All my clothes from ex house were destroyed

You can try to pursue things, but I would not. Proving negligence will be difficult. There is also great value in just embracing your freedom.

Any legal process provides another opportunity for him to seek retribution in small, petty ways.

Don’t bother with the police but you absolutely would get something back in small claims and it’s insanely easy (in terms of forms etc) to do this (I have taken Vinted to small claims and won).

Youd need to screen shot the texts where you’ve tried to get access to the property.

Take photos and document every item that’s been damaged (ok, yes this might take a while)

Look online at the cost to replace (and be reasonable ie shein and H&M rather than Hobbs etc).

Total up the amount.

Then send a letter recorded delivery to your ex asking to be reimbursed (at small claims you need to have shown you have tried to remedy before action).

If he doesn’t respond then fill in all the relevant details to small claims and they’ll try and recoup for you (it only costs under £100 and you’ll get it back).
As a previous poster said, he should reasonably have acted as Bailee and taken care of your items

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You could but I highly doubt he's going to pay up. He's obviously damaged them on purpose. I'd write it off and just be glad you got out. It's not worth giving him the satisfaction of knowing he's upset you.

It’s a real shame, but you can’t prove he caused the damage (even though I’d put money on the fact that he did). I’d just text and say “oh well, I guess I’ll treat myself to a wardrobe of swanky new clothes for my new life.” And I might add “I think I’ll contact the landlord to complain about the damp thought”. Let him sweat about that.

Ah Op I feel sad for you about your situation. I do hope you can buy some lovely clothes to replace the ones your ex ruined.

My ex husband did the same. Put all of my belongings in bin liners in the garden and made me go to court to get anything back. For some reason they think they can.

I wouldn’t ask him about it, he will interpret that as a wish for an ongoing connection

I wouldnt give it any more headspace.

You've got a fresh start so get some fresh clothes to go with it!

The police won’t be interested in this.

A horrible ex did this to me once too, OP. When he finally allowed me to collect my things from his house, everything was
shoved in bin bags. When I got it home it was
all shredded up, and various items of underwear were both shredded and he’d had a wank all over them. I’d also left due to domestic abuse.

Ultimately I ended up just trying to accept it and move on, as trying to achieve any kind of redress wasn’t worth the toll on my sanity.

There’s some awful men out there in the world!!

You’d be surprised how many landlords don’t do inspections and must be unaware. I lived in a rented property for a year and we never once had an inspection or even met the landlord. The person I lived with stayed for a further year after I left too and no one ever came by.

Yes I too know someone who managed to get access to a home she’d shared with an ex after being prevented from accessing it for months.

It was in a complete state mess wise, and the kitchen ceiling had caved in due to a burst pipe and just been left as he’d met someone else and basically just moved into their place rather than deal with any of it.

She just retrieved what she could of hers and thanked god the house wasn’t her problem to deal with.

And I know someone else who temporarily left the home they shared with their other half after a big argument. She let herself in to pick up some clothes whilst he was at work and he didn’t know she’d be going there. There was shite everywhere, takeaway wrappers, dirty clothes on the living room floor, general rubbish, dirty dishes on the side. It’d only been a week at that point!!

It’s surprising how quickly a property can turn to shit when the person doing the lions share of the TLC isn’t there.

Has he dumped them all outside in bags or in a damp garage in bags nd they've got wet in the rain.

I wonder what the landlord has to say about the state of the place ?

Probably let left them in the garden for weeks/months.

I`d bin the the lot get a divorce and move on, and thank god i was done with him and is family.

Tbvh i wouldnt want anything off them either.
Divorce move on and far from them start the life i want and should have.

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All good points.
I remember helping a friend who had left her ex (they did not have children) go back to the house he still lived in to get the last of her possessions from there.

He was out but the sheer mess he'd created in the 6 months he'd been alone was unbelievable.
Rubbish just dropped on the floor.

He'd asked her to leave so it wasn't depression at her leaving.

Yes I know women can live like this too.

I think us women would put the clothes being mouldy down to malice as we wouldn't do that when in fact it could just be he's a filthy slob.

It's not strange or weird. Human nature in some people means they want to seek "revenge" when they feel wronged.

If the bedroom has been completely shut up and not aired this could happen quite quickly, particularly if the wardrobe was against an outside wall.

OP says in her post that he kept preventing her from picking the rest of her stuff up and skirting around it by claiming that he was busy and saying not now.

I've know someone who had to chuck a whole wardrobe of clothes and the wardrobe too due to damp in a modern flat. The room had been shut and the trickle vents shut and that was enough to cause mould to form where the wardrobe was up against an outside wall.