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AIBU to expect someone with a dog to give way?

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Goatscheese21 · 20/07/2026 17:09

Was walking into town with my 4 mo strapped to my chest in the carrier. Handbag on one shoulder and keeping his sunhat on with one hand (irrelevant details but just setting the scene).

The path is extremely narrow so only one person going each direction can walk on it. A woman with a chihuahua was walking down the path as I was walking towards her direction….

i didn’t step into the road with traffic because I have a baby strapped to me and assumed she was going to let me pass as she was in the less vulnerable position. But this was not the case and she keeps walking and says to me ‘You could’ve let me pass’… to which I reply ‘so could you, I’m the one with a tiny baby… I don’t want to step into the road’

she muttered something and that was that but it really irked me. I always give way to people who are more ‘vulnerable’ ie an elderly person, someone with a pram, carrying a baby etc.

Was I wrong? I wasn’t making a point by NOT giving her way, and maybe I should’ve stepped to the road but I thought it was common knowledge / courtesy that people give way to people with babies. She wasn’t old, just had a small dog with her on a lead and the fact she actually said something about it, to a woman with a baby shocked me even more

i’m sure the dog is her world but… really??

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HoskinsChoice · 20/07/2026 23:45

Goatscheese21 · 20/07/2026 20:38

Not at all! Lots of people are calling me ‘entitled’ but I’m truly not (of course only people that know me will testify) which is why I was taken aback at her comment because I wouldn’t dare say anything like that - I just felt she was entitled for making a comment when she could see I was in a situation similar to her but with a baby.

Do I think babies are more important than dogs? Yes. It doesn’t matter if it’s my baby or Hitler’s baby - a baby is a baby and it has nothing to do with hierarchy, it’s just more a less instinctive. But I wasn’t walking like I was owning the small pavement just because I have one.

Anyway, it didn’t ruin my day I just thought I’d ask people’s views and it’s interesting to see difference in opinion. I’ve concluded myself that I don’t think I was being unreasonable, she was facing oncoming traffic… I felt like stepping out, looking to my right just wasn’t worth the risk of getting hit by a car (albeit small) and had she not said anything I wouldn’t have thought twice about the exchange.

If you can't look left and right to check traffic then I would suggest you stay at home. You're not 3, if you're old enough to have a baby, you're old enough to take a quick look left and right.

Babyboomtastic · 20/07/2026 22:11

Goatscheese21 · 20/07/2026 20:54

What is a ’classic’ and entitled parent?

It’s actually not all that easy, I’m 5ft and my baby is as long as my torso, it’s very hot and so stepping into oncoming traffic and turning to my right to see if it’s clear seemed a bit more effort / risky for her to walk with her little dog.

I wish I hadn’t asked! People are so so mean calling me entitled when they literally don’t know me but I guess it’s my fault for posting on the internet. Can people not give their opinion without assuming someone’s personality?:

thanks to everyone who’s replied (whether you agree or not) with kindness!

No need for any further comments :)

Come off it. I'm an inch taller than you and it's really not hard to keep safe on the roads with a far larger child (like 6yo+). Your baby is barely older than a newborn. You can still use your eyes to see if a road is clear. Frankly if you can't, then you're not safe to walk anywhere anyway.

Mumofyellows · 20/07/2026 21:57

Neither has right of way it’s just a bit of common sense and courtesy to each other, smile and figure it out, it’s not hard. I regularly walk my two big labs and will move aside or cross over to avoid people and likewise some people will do it for me but if everyone just chills out a bit and stops trying to feel more important than anyone else then it just works itself out without needing to be a big thing. Mind blowing really.

Mumofyellows · 20/07/2026 21:53

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 20/07/2026 17:18

Obviously you are 100% NBU and you probably know that.

SWBVU

But you’re going to get some silly answers as though dogs were as important as babies.

My grandfather who was a very loving dog owner always taught me you put the dog on the road side of you to protect yourself, and you pass others giving them the non-dog side of yourself, so they don’t have to walk right by your dog.

His dog was an amazing mutt and lived to a ripe old age

That makes no sense to me, I would always walk on the road side when leading my dogs, or my horses on the odd occasion I have had to lead them. I created a barrier between them and the traffic.

RowsOfFlowers · 20/07/2026 21:20

Melsy88 · 20/07/2026 21:07

I think if you re-read your initial post, you'll realise why you come across so entitled. It's all about being the one who shouldn't go in the road as you have 'a tiny baby'. You may not have meant it to come across that way, but it really does read as if you think you're more entitled to right of way because you have a baby.

That’s because that’s exactly how OP thinks, even down to the fact they described it as tiny baby.

Never mind the “tiny” Chihuahua

no sympathy from me I’m afraid

bitmiffed26 · 20/07/2026 21:19

Another opportunity to bash dog owners. Perfect, we’ve only had 56 this month 🤣

on a serious note OP, I (as a dog owner, mum, occasional runner and a perfectly able bodied adult of sound mind) ALWAYS make sure that I step to the side, or even on a road if quiet, in circumstances where I am in the better position, if that makes sense.
if I’m running - onus is on me to give people walking space, if I have the dog - I am the one that moves so that anyone who isn’t a fan has room to pass. Even when I am with my children, they are older so they stay on the path and I move off.

i think it’s common courtesy, unfortunately not everyone agrees and I can’t even begin to tell you the amount of time an adult has expected my 9 year old to step in to the road, which is met with ‘daughter, I’ve told you before - you stay on the path, adults should move for you’ in a loud, obvious way.

RowsOfFlowers · 20/07/2026 21:19

Flinstones · 20/07/2026 21:12

Exactly this!
congratulations on your baby and your baby is far more important than someone’s dog

Absolutely not 😂😂

team doggo over here. Much more vulnerable than a baby that is strapped to you wtf 😂 good god

7238SM · 20/07/2026 21:17

Op- Why did you quote @bugalugs45 and say What is a ’classic’ and entitled parent?

They never mentioned either word in their post! Did you mean to quote someone else?😕

Flinstones · 20/07/2026 21:12

Bonkers1966 · 20/07/2026 17:17

OP you are on Mumsnet where Entitled Pet Owners rule. Congrats on the baby 🍼

Exactly this!
congratulations on your baby and your baby is far more important than someone’s dog

Melsy88 · 20/07/2026 21:07

Goatscheese21 · 20/07/2026 20:54

What is a ’classic’ and entitled parent?

It’s actually not all that easy, I’m 5ft and my baby is as long as my torso, it’s very hot and so stepping into oncoming traffic and turning to my right to see if it’s clear seemed a bit more effort / risky for her to walk with her little dog.

I wish I hadn’t asked! People are so so mean calling me entitled when they literally don’t know me but I guess it’s my fault for posting on the internet. Can people not give their opinion without assuming someone’s personality?:

thanks to everyone who’s replied (whether you agree or not) with kindness!

No need for any further comments :)

I think if you re-read your initial post, you'll realise why you come across so entitled. It's all about being the one who shouldn't go in the road as you have 'a tiny baby'. You may not have meant it to come across that way, but it really does read as if you think you're more entitled to right of way because you have a baby.

raquarita · 20/07/2026 21:07

People aren’t assuming that you’re entitled, you’ve shown that you are by your posts.

It must be amazing to be the only person in the world who has ever had a baby. Congratulations!

Goatscheese21 · 20/07/2026 20:54

bugalugs45 · 20/07/2026 20:46

I’ve got a ( big) dog and always stand to one side to let anyone pass whether they have a baby/ child /dog / whatever but I do expect a thank you or an acknowledgment, a smile or nod will do, much the same as if I gave way to you whilst driving , & I’ll get the hump if I don’t get it 🤣 ,so then I’ll shout something like no worries you’re very welcome!

What is a ’classic’ and entitled parent?

It’s actually not all that easy, I’m 5ft and my baby is as long as my torso, it’s very hot and so stepping into oncoming traffic and turning to my right to see if it’s clear seemed a bit more effort / risky for her to walk with her little dog.

I wish I hadn’t asked! People are so so mean calling me entitled when they literally don’t know me but I guess it’s my fault for posting on the internet. Can people not give their opinion without assuming someone’s personality?:

thanks to everyone who’s replied (whether you agree or not) with kindness!

No need for any further comments :)

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RowsOfFlowers · 20/07/2026 20:47

Sorry, you are wrong. A classic entitled parent/mum. As a PP said earlier, you have a child strapped to you so it’s much easier to stop /navigate. Whereas it’s a lot more challenging with a dog in tow. They have just as much right as you do.

bugalugs45 · 20/07/2026 20:46

I’ve got a ( big) dog and always stand to one side to let anyone pass whether they have a baby/ child /dog / whatever but I do expect a thank you or an acknowledgment, a smile or nod will do, much the same as if I gave way to you whilst driving , & I’ll get the hump if I don’t get it 🤣 ,so then I’ll shout something like no worries you’re very welcome!

Keepingthingsinteresting · 20/07/2026 20:44

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 20/07/2026 17:18

Obviously you are 100% NBU and you probably know that.

SWBVU

But you’re going to get some silly answers as though dogs were as important as babies.

My grandfather who was a very loving dog owner always taught me you put the dog on the road side of you to protect yourself, and you pass others giving them the non-dog side of yourself, so they don’t have to walk right by your dog.

His dog was an amazing mutt and lived to a ripe old age

You’re talking rubbish, you don’t put the dog on the road side as they’re re less predictable so you want them on the inside.

Metalmotha · 20/07/2026 20:42

Oh look, another thread that’s brought out the number haters of dogs

Balloonhearts · 20/07/2026 20:42

igelkott2026 · 20/07/2026 20:04

Babies are a damn sight more important than people's four legged fashion accessories!

To their parents, yes. Not to anyone else. My responsibility is to my own children and animals. Animals aren't accessories. They are living creatures with just as much right to occupy space as humans.

Her baby doesn't give her right of way over anyone else. If she didn't want to step into the road, she could have hung back, rather than barge her way through.

Goatscheese21 · 20/07/2026 20:38

DogearedPaperbackWriter · 20/07/2026 19:58

I don't think she 'should' have stepped into the road. Neither 'should' you have. She was unreasonable to make a comment. Is it possible she could see an expression on your face that made it clear you thought she should have moved out of your way? Either way, she should have just left it, but I wouldn't step into the road if I thought it was unsafe, regardless of anyone's baby or dog situation. Surely there was a way for both of you to avoid that, even if it meant stopping and standing still at one side for a minute.

Not at all! Lots of people are calling me ‘entitled’ but I’m truly not (of course only people that know me will testify) which is why I was taken aback at her comment because I wouldn’t dare say anything like that - I just felt she was entitled for making a comment when she could see I was in a situation similar to her but with a baby.

Do I think babies are more important than dogs? Yes. It doesn’t matter if it’s my baby or Hitler’s baby - a baby is a baby and it has nothing to do with hierarchy, it’s just more a less instinctive. But I wasn’t walking like I was owning the small pavement just because I have one.

Anyway, it didn’t ruin my day I just thought I’d ask people’s views and it’s interesting to see difference in opinion. I’ve concluded myself that I don’t think I was being unreasonable, she was facing oncoming traffic… I felt like stepping out, looking to my right just wasn’t worth the risk of getting hit by a car (albeit small) and had she not said anything I wouldn’t have thought twice about the exchange.

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lev2002 · 20/07/2026 20:34

The woman you encountered sounded like my mum 😂

Some dogs are like babies to their owners. But I've had people with dogs try to force my primary school aged children next to the road so their dog could stay near the wall. I disagree with it but then again they probably don't give a shit about my kids and love their dog. Don't lose sleep over it

igelkott2026 · 20/07/2026 20:04

Balloonhearts · 20/07/2026 19:00

Why should she move? You're not more important just because you chose to have a baby. Christ, entitled much? Your child isn't more important than anything to anyone but you.

Babies are a damn sight more important than people's four legged fashion accessories!

igelkott2026 · 20/07/2026 20:03

OldrNWisr · 20/07/2026 17:13

Many people are selfish and operate in their own little bubble with very little regard or attention for anyone else outside of it. I find it lowers my blood pressure considerably to just accept this sad fact and lower my expectations.

Very sensible view.

If everyone kept left on paths conflicts wouldn't arise. And you are facing the oncoming traffic then too (in most cases). And if a path is very narrow I'd suggest it's not a clever idea to go down there with a dog (or a double buggy) if there's an easily accessible wider alternative.

I agree with the hierarchy above, though I walk faster than some runners so I wouldn't necessarily put walkers ahead of runners.

Also, I asked this before but why do people let their dogs go between them and me. Surely you go between your dog and an oncoming person?

DogearedPaperbackWriter · 20/07/2026 19:58

I don't think she 'should' have stepped into the road. Neither 'should' you have. She was unreasonable to make a comment. Is it possible she could see an expression on your face that made it clear you thought she should have moved out of your way? Either way, she should have just left it, but I wouldn't step into the road if I thought it was unsafe, regardless of anyone's baby or dog situation. Surely there was a way for both of you to avoid that, even if it meant stopping and standing still at one side for a minute.

AirborneElephant · 20/07/2026 19:47

The person facing the oncoming traffic should step into the road if someone really needs to do so. They have a clear view of anything coming so are much better able to determine if it’s safe. But if someone just needs to stop to the side of the pavement there’s absolutely no reason why you should have priority just because you have a baby!

PurpleThistle7 · 20/07/2026 19:43

Sillygoose100 · 20/07/2026 17:23

Lots of narrow paths here, it tends to be the person walking towards the traffic who moves into the road if safe/ necessary.

Its not like you had a pram to have to move to the road.

Yes. This. I’d expect whoever was walking that way to move as that’s safest for everyone.

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