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Poppycorn123 · 20/07/2026 15:46

To find tea drinkers exhausting? 🍵
I might have the very odd cup in the rare event of a hangover. Dh would only have one if a guest is present. When we have tea - drinking guests they will drink about 3 cups in a row , five times per day. I've started telling them to help themselves to a cup because it's so exhausting keeping up with making cups of tea. Why not have a glass of water every now & then? There really is no need for copious amounts imo- especially in this weather. Are they addicted?

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ChopstickNovice · 21/07/2026 07:56

I love tea. Just had two cups!
My friends and I are all tea drinkers but would never expect each other to make all the drinks. We take turns. If I go to someone's house I always offer to make the tea even the first time.
🫖

Loobyloot · 21/07/2026 07:53

Tea is a great diversionary tactic when there are household tensions.

NELEAF · 21/07/2026 07:52

I drink tea but only maybe 3 cups a day if that. But I'd rather be behind a tea drinker in a cafe queue than someone ordering 4 coffees - they take soo long to make!

NeverDropYourMooncup · 20/07/2026 23:31

MrSchubertWhiskers · 20/07/2026 22:44

I'm wondering whether to report this thread as a hate crime against British culture 😄

Special mention for anybody claiming that abomination of dust and depression that is decaffinated tastes exactly the same, please.

Although if it does taste the same, they probably need to be on charges for whatever the hell they did to the real thing as well; waving the teabag at the mug from the other side of the kitchen and adding a splash of water to the milk, I suspect.

SnowFrogJelly · 20/07/2026 23:16

I love tea but 3-4 cups a day is enough for me
don’t Judge all tea drinkers by your guests

Isittimetojumpoff · 20/07/2026 23:12

Arran2024 · 20/07/2026 22:24

I detest tea, always have, always will. I hate used tea bags - it's a bit of a phobia tbh. And I cannot fathom how people can be bothered with making all those cups of tea during the day.

I'm scared I will end up in a care home where they make me drink it! And what will I do if there's a police incident and I'm in shock and I'm forced a cuppa for my own good?! I would genuinely throw up.

Omg this is such a relief to hear. The tea bag phobia. I've never mentioned it to anyone because, you know, I don't want to sound completely insane but I'm so glad to hear I'm not the only one.

I have a similar issue with coffee spoons and mugs which have had coffee in them.

In fact, I have mugs that people can use for drinking coffee out of and then I have my mugs. If someone drinks coffee out of one of my mugs, it gets relegated to communal use, never to be drunk from by me again!!!

LadyEleanorRosalindaWhitethorn · 20/07/2026 23:12

just made a nice cuppa ah Tetley

MargaretMeldrew · 20/07/2026 23:08

Sweet Holy Jeez, not everyone who is a tea drinker drinks that much of it. I’m a tea drinker. Three cups a day. I make it myself because everyone else’s tea tastes crap😅

Isittimetojumpoff · 20/07/2026 23:04

MrSchubertWhiskers · 20/07/2026 22:44

I'm wondering whether to report this thread as a hate crime against British culture 😄

Hilarious!!!

If doing so, I probably need reporting, too. I cannot stand the taste or smell of tea or coffee.

If I had my way, I'd simultaneously rid the world of hunger, tea and coffee.

Isittimetojumpoff · 20/07/2026 23:02

Yeah, it's far too much hassle. As is coffee. Plus, the latter smells utterly disgusting.

I'll offer to make guests their inaugural cup of either. From then on, I'll pour them wine, otherwise they're shown where the tea, coffee, mugs, kettle, sugar and milk are, and invited to help themselves.

LadyEleanorRosalindaWhitethorn · 20/07/2026 22:51

Arran2024 · 20/07/2026 22:24

I detest tea, always have, always will. I hate used tea bags - it's a bit of a phobia tbh. And I cannot fathom how people can be bothered with making all those cups of tea during the day.

I'm scared I will end up in a care home where they make me drink it! And what will I do if there's a police incident and I'm in shock and I'm forced a cuppa for my own good?! I would genuinely throw up.

i think i need a cuppa after reading that

LadyEleanorRosalindaWhitethorn · 20/07/2026 22:50

MrSchubertWhiskers · 20/07/2026 22:44

I'm wondering whether to report this thread as a hate crime against British culture 😄

indeed, bad enough we had the Boston tea party, the horror

LadyEleanorRosalindaWhitethorn · 20/07/2026 22:50

hotmumshit · 20/07/2026 22:39

I dont drink tea - nasty drink

omg talk

LadyEleanorRosalindaWhitethorn · 20/07/2026 22:49

Poppycorn123 · 20/07/2026 15:46

To find tea drinkers exhausting? 🍵
I might have the very odd cup in the rare event of a hangover. Dh would only have one if a guest is present. When we have tea - drinking guests they will drink about 3 cups in a row , five times per day. I've started telling them to help themselves to a cup because it's so exhausting keeping up with making cups of tea. Why not have a glass of water every now & then? There really is no need for copious amounts imo- especially in this weather. Are they addicted?

for me its like an acquired taste, i love tea, pg or Tetley tea bags, around 8 cups in an evening, im not sure how to describe it but its just nice

MrSchubertWhiskers · 20/07/2026 22:44

I'm wondering whether to report this thread as a hate crime against British culture 😄

hotmumshit · 20/07/2026 22:39

I dont drink tea - nasty drink

34567890A · 20/07/2026 22:38

I was a real tea Jenny for many years.
A bit tired? Pop the kettle on
Stressful situation? Cup of tea
Busy or overwhelmed? Stick the kettle on first.
I would drink it from sun up to sun down.
Then I changed to decaf, and amazingly, there was no difference in taste (PG TIPS) but I've gone from more cups of tea than I can count, to 2 most days.
One in the morning when I first get up which is out of habit more than anything and does nothing to increase my wakefulness, and one before bed.
I have stopped flicking the kettle on whenever I am tired or stressed or bored.

The rest of the day, I drink water and I am more aware of if I am thirsty now.
So for me, I'm convinced it was the caffeine.
I really can take it or leave it now.

Arran2024 · 20/07/2026 22:24

I detest tea, always have, always will. I hate used tea bags - it's a bit of a phobia tbh. And I cannot fathom how people can be bothered with making all those cups of tea during the day.

I'm scared I will end up in a care home where they make me drink it! And what will I do if there's a police incident and I'm in shock and I'm forced a cuppa for my own good?! I would genuinely throw up.

Difficulty101 · 20/07/2026 22:08

I sometimes crave a cup of tea in the afternoon. Realised some tea contains almost as much caffeine as the (weak) coffee I drink.

I guess some people are genuinely addicted and don't realise it is a caffeine hit.

Borborygmus · 20/07/2026 21:28

I generally drink 3 mugs of decaffeinated tea after every meal, so that's 9 mugs a day. I rarely drink anything else.

pambeesleyhalpert · 20/07/2026 21:28

YABVVU. I LOVE tea. But I’d make it myself because people esp non tea drinkers just can’t make it right. But I do chain my tea 😂

Octavia64 · 20/07/2026 21:11

I have a whole cupboard full of various kinds of tea. I particularly like (especially in the summer) various green teas. Also have matcha which admittedly is something of an acquired taste.

when I spent a month in SE Asia I learnt to like iced tea and I bought the new teabags Liptons have out that you can put in water and it’s just like their peach iced tea!

in winter I tend to drink more black teas and I have a few spiced black teas.

cupfinalchaos · 20/07/2026 21:08

Hoardasurass · 20/07/2026 20:37

You'd hate my friends and family @Poppycorn123 we only drink tea. Lose leaf for the 1st cup and teabags for the rest of the day, on average I drink about 4 pints of it per day and im mot even close to being the biggest tea Jenny in the group 😀
That said I think im going to go make a fresh pot of proper breakfast tea

if I had all that caffeine I’d never sleep (not that I do anyway..).

EmmaB1309 · 20/07/2026 20:43

Nothing wrong with drinking tea but 3 cups in a row five times a day is excessive! I maybe only have 2/3 a day. Are these guests who are staying with you? Not unreasonable to suggest they help themselves!

MarieDeFrance · 20/07/2026 20:43

If they really do drink 15 cups of tea a day then that could apparently lower their risk of dying from heart attack or stroke by up to 71% (BHF says this research needs further clarification though). But still - maybe they're on to something?!

[[According to a study recently covered by UK media outlets, adults who drink up to two cups of tea a day for more than seven years have a 19 per cent lower risk of dying from a heart attack or stroke than those who drink less, or no tea at all.

Every extra cup of tea a day lowered their risk by 4 per cent, suggests the research. www.bhf.org.uk/informationsupport/heart-matters-magazine/news/behind-the-headlines/is-tea-good-for-you]]