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Tea

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Poppycorn123 · 20/07/2026 15:46

To find tea drinkers exhausting? 🍵
I might have the very odd cup in the rare event of a hangover. Dh would only have one if a guest is present. When we have tea - drinking guests they will drink about 3 cups in a row , five times per day. I've started telling them to help themselves to a cup because it's so exhausting keeping up with making cups of tea. Why not have a glass of water every now & then? There really is no need for copious amounts imo- especially in this weather. Are they addicted?

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BettyJoanPerske · 26/07/2026 22:09

YABU to object to what they drink. However, YANBU to not want to have to make it for them every time.

Owly11 · 26/07/2026 22:00

YABU I hate staying with people where the tea is on ration. I rarely just have one cup on its own but it would usually be two, not three (are you sure you aren't exaggerating that bit of the story?). It's perfectly normal to drink tea all day. Just tell them to help themselves.

Ladyfromthehill · 26/07/2026 21:54

I think people find you exhausting. I certainly did find reading this post so, and I'm not even a tea drinker

DPotter · 22/07/2026 12:10

Are you offering tea in cups or mugs ? I personally prefer mugs as you did roughly double the amount of tea. So if you're offering me tea in a cup, I would prefer another pretty much straight away as I'm used to a mug.

LilacPuffin · 22/07/2026 12:07

I absolutely love tea. It's calming when I'm stressed, it's a pick-me-up when I'm tired, it's just lovely. I drink 3-4 cups a day.

I'm not sure how it could be exhausting to prepare tea. Switch on kettle, teabag in cup, pour water, add a splash of milk. Probably takes 30 seconds. If you make a pot with loose tea, that might take a bit more time, maybe an additional 20 seconds.

Come to the dark side @Poppycorn123 and join the tea drinkers. 🫖 😁

Isittimetojumpoff · 22/07/2026 11:42

EatMoreChocolate44 · 22/07/2026 08:37

😂 Don't get me wrong, I enjoy a few alcoholic beverages too! Can't beat the sound of wine glugging into a glass either.

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Oooooh it's a beautiful sound!

If you do want to pity me, pity me for the fact that the smell of tea / coffee, tea /coffee stains, tea bags, unwashed tea / coffee mugs / spoons etc make me nauseous!!! And don't get me started on coffee breath 🤢

Thechaseison71 · 22/07/2026 11:27

Arran2024 · 22/07/2026 09:31

Don't most people put sugar in their tea though?

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Nope

WelshMusicMum · 22/07/2026 10:39

I once had a domestic cleaner who drank coffee with milk and two sugars. I would spend the two hours constantly putting the kettle on and I've never bought so much sugar in my life! My latest lady got the job when she said she drank black coffee 😂

Didimum · 22/07/2026 09:53

Poor hosting from you.

Squirrel60 · 22/07/2026 09:42

Each to their own!

I love PG Tips, with milk and 2 saccharin and have 1, sometimes 2 mugs a day at work, which is Monday to Saturday, and regular Sundays, then a mug at home with dinner, and sometimes sitting on the edge of the bed in the early hours guzzling another mug. Not exhausting at all!

I also drink up to 4 litres of water a day too, as I have a reusable water bottle on my work desk, 2 on my bedside table, and another on my home desk, all of which I'm constantly drinking from then refilling!

Meckrel · 22/07/2026 09:34

Arran2024 · 22/07/2026 09:31

Don't most people put sugar in their tea though?

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Most? No. I don't know anyone (and I make tea for lots at work) who still has sugar in tea.

Even those who do have much less than e.g. in a can of Coke. 9 teaspoons of sugar in a can of Coke, 5 teaspoons of sugar in a glass of orange juice. No one's having that much sugar in tea.

Arran2024 · 22/07/2026 09:31

Lumpycat · 22/07/2026 07:55

Get some massive mugs OP. We have tea around four times a day but we use pint size mugs. I hate being offered tea in a tea cup!

Tea is great. Healthy and comforting. Much better than all the sugary shit some people seem to drink all day instead.

Don't most people put sugar in their tea though?

givingupimdone · 22/07/2026 08:45

despite growing up with a mum who was a tea ‘addict’, she even had a teasmaid 😱🤣 next to her bed (yup I’m an 80’s baby) I absolutely 100% despise the stuff! I realise I’m very much on my own and classed as a weirdo, but I totally get you OP.
Solidarity against tea drinkers 💪🏻
YANBU 🙌🏻

EatMoreChocolate44 · 22/07/2026 08:37

Isittimetojumpoff · 22/07/2026 07:54

You don't need to pity me... I have wine. And lots of it!!!

Though I must admit that as a young twenty-something, starting out in the professional world, it was always a bit uncomfortable to respond to "tea or coffee?" with "do you have any squash?" 🤣

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😂 Don't get me wrong, I enjoy a few alcoholic beverages too! Can't beat the sound of wine glugging into a glass either.

ErrolTheDragon · 22/07/2026 08:35

I wouldn’t want a pint mug, it’d be cold before I’d finished it. A normal mug is about half a pint, whereas a traditional teacup is only about a quarter pint (5floz).

Lumpycat · 22/07/2026 07:55

Get some massive mugs OP. We have tea around four times a day but we use pint size mugs. I hate being offered tea in a tea cup!

Tea is great. Healthy and comforting. Much better than all the sugary shit some people seem to drink all day instead.

Isittimetojumpoff · 22/07/2026 07:54

EatMoreChocolate44 · 21/07/2026 13:31

I love tea! It brings me joy and comfort. There is something so soothing and lovely hearing the pop of a kettle that has just boiled. It's also a social thing and it is lovely sitting around with friends or family drinking tea and having a chat, even better with a biscuit. I feel sorry for people who don't like tea (or coffee as an alternative).

You don't need to pity me... I have wine. And lots of it!!!

Though I must admit that as a young twenty-something, starting out in the professional world, it was always a bit uncomfortable to respond to "tea or coffee?" with "do you have any squash?" 🤣

Sunshineandrainbow · 22/07/2026 07:46

Poppycorn123 · 22/07/2026 06:41

Lots of suggestions to use a teapot. Think I'll buy one if it makes life easier 😁 Any suggestions on a nice/funny one?

Mine are denby and whittards

ErrolTheDragon · 22/07/2026 07:44

RedTagAlan · 21/07/2026 15:03

When you say chats while making tea, that is the same as the way tea is usually drunk in China. You all sit at the table and make the tea at the table. And the tea is poured into small cups as you sit and chat, or watch TV, or sit on your phone.

Depending on the house, or where you are, the tea making can be a ceremony. Special tea tables, kettles, loads of different types of small pots. Tea bags are around, but not really used in the house. It is mostly loose tea, all different sorts, usually plantation specific.

It's the tea making that is the social thing. Rather then bung a bag in a mug in the kitchen.

It is a really nice way to do it.

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And then there’s Japan - though obviously the ritual with a tea house isn’t an everyday brew!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Japanese_tea_ceremony

ErrolTheDragon · 22/07/2026 07:36

Poppycorn123 · 22/07/2026 06:41

Lots of suggestions to use a teapot. Think I'll buy one if it makes life easier 😁 Any suggestions on a nice/funny one?

If the idea is to make a pot and leave it for second and third helpings, I’d try to get one with a basket for the leaves (idk if there’s a technical term) so the remaining tea isn’t stewing too much. And a cosy to keep it warm of course.

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Poppycorn123 · 22/07/2026 06:41

Lots of suggestions to use a teapot. Think I'll buy one if it makes life easier 😁 Any suggestions on a nice/funny one?

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Happysummerrain · 21/07/2026 23:05

But.. it’s English culture to drink a lot of tea. I drink 2-4 cups of tea a day. I have a coffee in the morning. Almost everyone I’ve ever known (well) has drank a few cups of tea daily.

Thechaseison71 · 21/07/2026 22:46

Newsenmum · 21/07/2026 13:20

Careful of anameia! That much seriously depletes you.

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Never had anemia in my life thanks.

Jiski · 21/07/2026 22:17

I will easily drink 8 cups of tea a day. In big mugs too. It’s my comfort. Don’t offer tea if you don’t want to make it.

I hate it when people always offer wine. I don’t want booze, I want tea!

Elizascookingpancakes · 21/07/2026 19:24

boil kettle - make a big family sized pot of tea.

give a jug of milk, sugar a spoon and a mug and let them enjoy.

often do that at the weekend - a massive pot of tea just for me to pour myself loads of mugs from!

or make a couple of big insulated travel mugs full to the brim.

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