AIBU to wonder why women still accept unequal relationships?

Well I gave you the benefit of the doubt and answered your question and you've chosen not to engage with that so far, so maybe we all sometimes let other things overshadow our best intentions...🤷🏻🤷🏻

Because the alternative may be not having the things you want done for your children actually getting done, on time, pre-emptively where necessary, reliably and to a high standard.

The trade off of equalising the mental load is deemed as trade off for the more important, making sure your child is raised and treated the way you want them to be.

How can I misquote when I literally quoted you? Absolutly bizarre. You said ‘why are women so incredibly weak’ and then said ‘I never said women are weak’ and then claim I’m misquoting you!

I agree and it's evidenced by so many threads on here where women put up with so much rubbish and when advised to end the situation, they then spout all the reasons why they can't.

So yes, women have to learn to be comfortable with being on their own rather than being in a relationship, any relationship no matter whether it's unfulfilling, unequal or worse, abusive.

Most of the time women are their own worst enemies due to the conditioning you have mentioned.

So why is the OP being condemned as victim blaming when it's a scientific fact that all our behaviours are influenced by nature and nurture factors.

Arguing about victim blaming, why a son grew up to being a lazy entitled so and so, whether it was down to home life, outside external pressures or their innate nature, can be considered but maybe should be put aside for now.

These people are here and in society. What should be addressed is why women think they should continue to put up with carrying the majority of the load of family life if they don't enjoy doing it?

They have a choice, not to put up with it, to stop being the martyr. To advocate for a fairer family organisation and if they don't get it to leave.

Yes, it will be harder at first, but you know what, independence is great when you get to experience it.

As I always say, having no man is better than having the wrong or make do man in your life.

Nonsense. I responded directly to a comment, and I was correct in my response.

OP is absolutely, definitively allowed to focus on whatever topic she chooses. She does NOT have to say "and men too", but I did point out that it would have been better if she'd acknowledged that men are also responsible for shitty parenting.

However, again, she is absolutely, definitively allowed to say "Why do women put up with shitty behaviour and they should do better with their parenting" - without adding "But the men".

This is a boring thread because nobody wants to answer the question, they just want to defend often indefensible women.

Being equal means you are equally to blame for your own shit choices and crap parenting. And that includes women.

It doesn’t mean they have to enable it and put up with it.

It’s not vipers, it’s you saying stuff and then claiming you haven’t said it. You are blaming women, calling them weak and then saying you haven’t. Even though it’s written here for everyone to read. Insulting other women on here saying they have no reading comprehension when you can’t remember what you’ve written yourself.

@Tinnybinnylinny
Lifestyle choices afforded to them perhaps? Maybe because they are financially reliant on their husband?
I do agree that many women set the bar far too low.

Sorry you're right, I did miss that must have skimmed it.

Also it’s a cop out blaming parents. I am sure everyone of us has things we were raised with as children that we abandoned in our households and our parents, grandparents etc before us.

But for some reason men are just helpless little plants and cannot be expected to be better people unless a woman (their mother or their wife) makes them that way.

A lot of women do actively seek an imbalanced relationship though e.g. SAHM and Mr Big Job.

Part of the problem IS blaming women for men's bad behaviour and seemingly giving men a free pass.

Of course how a child is raised has some impact but time and time again, it is only mothers who are blamed. What about the fathers? Especially as a role model to boys/young men. At some point, men also need to take responsibility for their own actions and how they were raised can't be an excuse.

@Duckagogosecond sentance.

Maybe RTFT then before labelling people “unpleasant” for pushing back against misogyny.

@Tinnybinnylinny Good! I would never accept anything less but equal parenting of our daughter between my husband and I. Same goes for working and housework.

Did she? I honestly missed that can you link to that comment.

Because she alleges not to be blaming women.

And yet did it throughout her OP. Hence I asked if she is really not a misogynist, why is she placing all responsibility for who men choose to be, on women. I thought that was obvious, I stated it quite clearly.

To be clear - I’m not upset. No idea why you would think. I find OP’s misogyny tiresome. But there is nothing “upsetting” in that post.