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To think Taylor Swift is a big meanie for not releasing just 1 photo of her in her wedding dress?

158 replies

GallopingConsumption · 19/07/2026 21:01

Before anyone says "maybe she just wants to keep her entire wedding - including dress - private"...

  1. She's made her whole career about her personal life

  2. Her fans are often young girls who idolise her. (I have 2 nieces age 10 and 12 who are really disappointed they have seen nothing).

  3. Said fans have made her a billionaire and essentially therefore paid for the huge wedding!

  4. It's been over 2 weeks since said wedding so plenty of time for her to have relaxed afterwards and then selected a single sodding photo to release

  5. It's not like she needs to sell the photos for money

I think it's quite mean of her tbh. It would be less bad if she TOLD these young fans either "you will see the dress in my forthcoming documentary" or "I've decided to keep it private". At lease then they would know.

Signed

A 43 year old woman who no longer believes in romantic love but remembers what it was like to be 10-12 years old and fascinated by weddings and wedding dresses.

OP posts:
Backedoffhackedoff · 20/07/2026 10:17

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 20/07/2026 10:02

But why? It’s just a dress. Is it a normal thing to pop into weddings of people you don’t know to just look at the dress? No!

Sure. Catherine Middleton, Victoria Beckham, even Becca bloom 😂 seeing the dress is one of the most important parts of the wedding for those not getting married. Otherwise vogue weddings etc wouldn’t exist

AlwaysExtraHot · 20/07/2026 10:12

I think it's no bad thing for kids to learn that they won't get everything they want and that their idols don't/don't have to dance to their tune.
I also think the idea of girls fetishising weddings to the degree that you talk about is a bit unhealthy, and certainly not universal. At ten I wasn't fascinated/obsessed with weddings and wedding dresses; I was climbing trees, tramping through muddy brooks, collecting tadpoles, drawing horses and watching Tiswas (yes I'm old).

KaleidoscopeSmile · 20/07/2026 10:06

"It's really not that serious. They will almost inevitably get divorced so my fucks are limited. Also this is just MN, not Newsnight, it's you lot who are taking it all too seriously"

It's like OP doesn't realise we can read her posts prior to this one

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 20/07/2026 10:02

Backedoffhackedoff · 20/07/2026 09:59

This is a bit dramatic. She just wants to see the dress 😂

But why? It’s just a dress. Is it a normal thing to pop into weddings of people you don’t know to just look at the dress? No!

Backedoffhackedoff · 20/07/2026 09:59

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 20/07/2026 09:50

The petulance and entitlement of this OP. It’s a bit deranged. It reminds me of a thread ages ago where someone felt they were entitled to more public sightings of Princess Charlotte, her specifically, not her brothers…. A woman whose wedding you were not invited to does not owe you a pic of her dress…and I’m a massive TS fan and you say to the fictitious seeming 10 year old that TS is entitled to keep some things private

This is a bit dramatic. She just wants to see the dress 😂

GiffGaffClapTrap · 20/07/2026 09:58

MrsPapillon · 20/07/2026 09:57

Why am I angry and bitter? Where did I swear?

Sorry, wrong poster, I meant the poster I was responding to originally x

MrsPapillon · 20/07/2026 09:57

GiffGaffClapTrap · 20/07/2026 09:45

Who said it was?

She can invite who she likes to her own wedding. Why are you so angry and bitter? Why are you swearing about a woman that is successful and hasn't negatively impacted your life in any way?

Why am I angry and bitter? Where did I swear?

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 20/07/2026 09:50

The petulance and entitlement of this OP. It’s a bit deranged. It reminds me of a thread ages ago where someone felt they were entitled to more public sightings of Princess Charlotte, her specifically, not her brothers…. A woman whose wedding you were not invited to does not owe you a pic of her dress…and I’m a massive TS fan and you say to the fictitious seeming 10 year old that TS is entitled to keep some things private

Newpostnewnamenew · 20/07/2026 09:47

You’re over invested.

Bubblehubbles · 20/07/2026 09:47

Icecreamisthebest · 19/07/2026 21:38

I think she will release one, given she released engagement photos. And that her fans should be happy for her to focus on herself and her new husband right now

. She’s not being mean, she’s being normal. Everyone else needs to be normal too and get on with their own lives until the photo comes.

Normal - she built a fairy castle in Madison Square Garden.

There is nothing normal about her, and that’s how she likes it.

Holding back photos will be a power play, like everything else with TS.

GiffGaffClapTrap · 20/07/2026 09:46

QuintadosMalvados · 20/07/2026 09:41

If this were just about teenagers, I'd get it.
It's not though. This obsession with Swift extends to adult women.
I've honestly had an Oxbridge educated in-law trying to engage me in a 'how wonderful she is' conversation.

I was speechless as I was too tired to reply and couldn't even muster any banal platitudes.

Billionaire, capitalist pop star.

Apparently she is now the fourth wave (or whatever wave we're at now) feminist idol. Go figure.

You really love a pop at taylor swift threads don't you?

GiffGaffClapTrap · 20/07/2026 09:45

MrsPapillon · 20/07/2026 09:28

Why ‘Wow’?

Taylor Swift said publicly before the wedding that she was inviting everyone she’d ever said ‘Hello’ to. It very obviously wasn’t a ‘close friends and family’ job.

Who said it was?

She can invite who she likes to her own wedding. Why are you so angry and bitter? Why are you swearing about a woman that is successful and hasn't negatively impacted your life in any way?

mummabubs · 20/07/2026 09:43

WillThingsEverBeFergaliciousAgain · 19/07/2026 21:17

She's made her whole career about her personal life

So? should she release a sex tape as well? Tell us if she gets piles? She has a right to privacy when she chooses.

Her fans are often young girls who idolise her. (I have 2 nieces age 10 and 12 who are really disappointed they have seen nothing).

They should learn they aren't entitled to see anything from pop stars.

Said fans have made her a billionaire and essentially therefore paid for the huge wedding!

Said fans have not donated to make her rich, they have bought stuff or attended gigs that they enjoyed, and they got what they paid for.

It's been over 2 weeks since said wedding so plenty of time for her to have relaxed
afterwards and then selected a single sodding photo to release.

Photos can take ages to edit, aside from the fact she might want to keep them private.

It's not like she needs to sell the photos for money

She doesn't need to release photos at all.

This parasocial shit with celebrities and influencers is disturbing honestly.

I dont even particularly like Taylor Swift and even I'm feeling claustrophobic at the amount of demands being placed on her a week or two after her wedding.

Every word of this. I'm a self-proclaimed Swiftie, but don't feel entitled to see anything of the wedding at all. Just because her career means she engages with a lot of people that in no way means she's under any obligation to share anything that she doesn't want to. Me buying a concert ticket or an album doesn't mean I'm entitled to see or hear any details that she might not wish to share. She has a right to privacy, as do we all.

QuintadosMalvados · 20/07/2026 09:41

If this were just about teenagers, I'd get it.
It's not though. This obsession with Swift extends to adult women.
I've honestly had an Oxbridge educated in-law trying to engage me in a 'how wonderful she is' conversation.

I was speechless as I was too tired to reply and couldn't even muster any banal platitudes.

Billionaire, capitalist pop star.

Apparently she is now the fourth wave (or whatever wave we're at now) feminist idol. Go figure.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 20/07/2026 09:39

Blondeshavemorefun · 20/07/2026 07:40

Mini blondes loves TS but def isn’t devastated hasn’t seen her wedding dress and is 9!

Congrats, your 9 year old has more maturity and common sense than this supposed grown adult OP!

Mulledjuice · 20/07/2026 09:39

GallopingConsumption · 19/07/2026 21:20

Well she's set up fans for expectation and disappointment by releasing photos of the proposal and then after the wedding just...nothing. That's not fair imho on your average young girl. Life is full of enough disappointments without learning at age 10 that your idol dgaf about you!

On the contrary - this is a really low-risk way for them to learn about disappointment , boundaries etc.

As a young girl I was smitten by big dresses princesses and wedding etc. I could have done with being a bit more smitten with my own life and giving less of a shit what other people think and want from me and more effort listening to what I wanted tbh.

Backedoffhackedoff · 20/07/2026 09:37

It’ll come. TS isn’t the shy type

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 20/07/2026 09:36

GallopingConsumption · 19/07/2026 21:20

Well she's set up fans for expectation and disappointment by releasing photos of the proposal and then after the wedding just...nothing. That's not fair imho on your average young girl. Life is full of enough disappointments without learning at age 10 that your idol dgaf about you!

Are you a ten years old? Because you certainly sound like one.

I was that age when the 90s pop star I was meant to be marrying went and got himself a girlfriend. Which I realised meant he wasn't going to remain single until I grew up, meet me, marry me and we'd have babies. And yet somehow I managed to survive and get on in life unscathed.

MrsPapillon · 20/07/2026 09:28

GiffGaffClapTrap · 20/07/2026 09:25

Wow.

Why ‘Wow’?

Taylor Swift said publicly before the wedding that she was inviting everyone she’d ever said ‘Hello’ to. It very obviously wasn’t a ‘close friends and family’ job.

Shloopie · 20/07/2026 09:25

Raquelos · 20/07/2026 00:48

What a bizarre misunderstanding of my post

simping for your favourite billionaire (and her PR team). good for you.

GiffGaffClapTrap · 20/07/2026 09:25

pinck · 20/07/2026 01:00

Lol, nobody dreams of getting married at Madison Square Garden. She chose it because it could be locked down, controlled, and kept almost completely out of public view. And let’s not pretend the guest list was some tiny circle of lifelong intimates when she barely had relationships beyond casual acquaintance with a huge number of them. She had every right to do it that way, obviously, but people are also allowed to say it looked less like a personal wedding and more like a heavily secured corporate summit.

Wow.

WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · 20/07/2026 07:40

clearlyy · 19/07/2026 21:33

This. The parasocial relationship people have with celebrities is very fucking weird and nobody is entitled to see anything from anybody’s life.

100%

Imagine having to know everything about the private life of someone you don’t know,

it’s weird AF

Blondeshavemorefun · 20/07/2026 07:40

Mini blondes loves TS but def isn’t devastated hasn’t seen her wedding dress and is 9!

PollyBell · 20/07/2026 07:39

SilverScuff · 20/07/2026 07:36

I find it really hard to imagine that any child is genuinely upset about this, especially now when the wedding is long gone.

Or anyone other than the OP

PeasandMozzarella · 20/07/2026 07:37

Desperatelyseekinglazysusan · 20/07/2026 07:31

Agree. They should use it as a teachable moment- that they don't know celebrities, and that strangers don't owe them anything.

Or just photoshop TS and Travis’s heads onto Posh and Becks sitting on their wedding thrones, if your nieces are really having their young lives ruined by this’?