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Neighbours having a karaoke party

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ffsmyheadhurts · 18/07/2026 23:17

The neighbours directly behind us have been having a karaoke party since about 6pm. It’s been fine up until now, and it’s suddenly ramped up a notch and they’re drunkenly screaming. We can hear it with the window closed, but it’s too hot to have the window closed anyway!

My partner has just had surgery and we both hoped to get some decent sleep tonight but it’s not going to happen now, is it?!

Every so often the microphone screeches with feedback too. AIBU to go around and say something?

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Hildegard25 · 20/07/2026 18:57

No good going round now.
You'd just get drunken abuse, and like you said they'd just turn it up even louder.

Tomorrow with like minded neighbours is the time to vent your spleen.

TheQuietLurker · 20/07/2026 11:43

Sadly, unless you live in the middle of nowhere or have exceptionally boring / quiet neighbours all year round, the odd noisy night is going to happen. I feel YABU if they are generally quiet neighbours most of the time. Some people deal with this weekly! That’s when it’s a problem.

Freud2 · 20/07/2026 07:33

ffsmyheadhurts · 18/07/2026 23:25

Someone else has just shouted at them to shut up 😅

We live in a really quiet area. As in, usually nothing after about 9pm. I just think it’s really inconsiderate to have a full blown karaoke going, outdoors, at 11:30 at night. Do it inside or, preferably, at a karaoke bar. Every time it sounds like it’s stopped they put on another song and get louder somehow.

Really selfish behaviour. Yes go to a bar - don't inflict this noise on the whole street. Shouldn't even be a one off.

Tazmania77 · 19/07/2026 20:09

Well I knocked on my neighbours door, she hadn’t read the note as was still on the doormat and I apologised and asked for it back she didn’t ask to read it, and just had a reasonable conversation with her about it, went much better than expected tbh so maybe do that?

BigPurpleBookQueen · 19/07/2026 18:43

I don’t understand the thinking behind this behaviour at all.

very rude to keep people awake whether it’s the weekend or not, lots of people work weekends now & need to b up early.

its hard enough to sleep in the hot weather without being disturbed by other peoples noise.

Mumofmarauders · 19/07/2026 18:40

ChestnutSquash · 18/07/2026 23:22

If at all possible and I had the means to do it, I would record the whole thing and play it back to them, speakers against the wall, at full volume starting at 5 am. Every morning for a week.

Perfect response!

Tazmania77 · 19/07/2026 18:22

do you live near me?! My neighbours do the same EVERY single Sunday from 2 to about 9pm, and they are foreign speaking so all the songs are in a different language!! Not that it makes much of a difference but I can’t even join in! They shout scream at each other all day every day and then just get to Sunday and it all goes on for hours, every single week, it’s doing my head in, if it was every now and then I would definetly not have a problem with it but it’s a Sunday when you hope for a little piece and quiet and it’s every week, I got so cross today (had a migraine earlier which is making me more irritated by it) so I’ve put a note through the door, not a very nice one which I am now regretting i should have knocked and also not written what I wrote 😫

Sarah2891 · 19/07/2026 18:06

YANBU. People are so selfish.

Mumofoneandone · 19/07/2026 17:57

Obviously got sorted but totally unacceptable.
Hopefully won't happen again!
Believe the law about excessive noise is between 11pm and 7am - when something can be done about it.
FWIW - I have a chronic condition that is worsened by excess noise, so no way would I have coped as long as you did!
Hope your DH recovers soon and you both get some sleep!

EmpressaurusKitty · 19/07/2026 17:48

When the people in the opposite block of flats to mine play loud music, I’m seriously tempted to leave my laptop on my balcony playing Vagina Anthem at full volume on repeat. But that would be really unfair on the rest of my block.

user8695940 · 19/07/2026 17:27

MermaidMummy06 · 19/07/2026 09:00

When our neighbours did this a few years ago, DH went out and mowed at 7am, starting closest to their house. He really revved the old mower too! They came out swearing but went inside pretty quickly. (Yes, early, but it's often 25 degrees by 6am here in summer so no one complains as they all do it.)

Thankfully they were renters & other side neighbour was pals with the owner. So were evicted!! The dad wasn't happy as he worked away & his teen sons were there alone.... What did he expect, really?

You're pleased because a family got evicted due to a teen party? WTF is wrong with you?

@ffsmyheadhurts It wouldn't have bothered me as a one off, but I'm sorry you're having a shit time and I hope you get some sleep and your partner is on the mend soon. 💕

ffsmyheadhurts · 19/07/2026 17:06

RisingSunn · 19/07/2026 15:31

Of course they would be angry at 3:15am …but you were contemplating saying something at 11pm!

That’s a huge difference.

11:30 to midnight is still unacceptable, no matter the day. Other people were also angry at that time!

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RisingSunn · 19/07/2026 15:31

ffsmyheadhurts · 19/07/2026 13:20

I just had a chat with my next door neighbour as I was taking in the food shop. Apparently around 3:15 someone went down and knocked on the door to ask them to shut up. They refused, got lairy and the police were called.

Not just me who was angry!

Of course they would be angry at 3:15am …but you were contemplating saying something at 11pm!

That’s a huge difference.

IStillHearTheWaves · 19/07/2026 13:56

Shame no-one recorded them and played them back their lovely performance at 8am this morning!

They sound awful! Getting carried away after a few drinks is one thing, but turning the volume up after repeated complaints and getting lairy is seriously shitty behaviour.

Hope you get some rest tonight.

SqueakyFromme · 19/07/2026 13:23

@ffsmyheadhurts they were all drunk with mob mentality for sure, shame they had to waste police time too. Look forward to some peace tonight OP zzzzzz😴

ffsmyheadhurts · 19/07/2026 13:20

I just had a chat with my next door neighbour as I was taking in the food shop. Apparently around 3:15 someone went down and knocked on the door to ask them to shut up. They refused, got lairy and the police were called.

Not just me who was angry!

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ffsmyheadhurts · 19/07/2026 11:03

Twynklebell · 19/07/2026 11:01

Really don't understand why someone's right to disrupt an entire street is more valid than someone else's right to peace and sleep. Doesn't matter whether its a one off or not. You can still have a party and be considerate of your neighbours.

I hope you get some rest today, OP .

Thank you. My SIL has offered to come over and be with my partner today so that I can go to hers and get some rest, but I feel awful as she has an eight week old! Her husband has also offered but, again, they have a baby! He’s really unsteady on his feet so he can’t really be alone for any extended period of time

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Twynklebell · 19/07/2026 11:01

Really don't understand why someone's right to disrupt an entire street is more valid than someone else's right to peace and sleep. Doesn't matter whether its a one off or not. You can still have a party and be considerate of your neighbours.

I hope you get some rest today, OP .

Amiacoolorwarmcolour · 19/07/2026 10:48

I feel your pain op.

ffsmyheadhurts · 19/07/2026 10:45

chocoluv · 19/07/2026 10:40

I’d hate to live in your neighbourhood.

I love my sleep and have to wake up very early when I do day shifts but even I wouldn’t mind this as a one off.

If they were nuisance neighbours then I’d be annoyed but it sounds like they were having a one off celebration and life is for living.

You don’t say you have young kids, so I’m not sure why you’ve only had 6 hours of sleep over the past few days - surely you can just go bed earlier or nap during the day.

(And the one person listening to music at the beach was selfish because she could have easily just put headphones in. It’s very different than doing karaoke in your own home. It would be like having a phone call on loud speaker on a busy train vs in your own garden - people still may be able to hear it but it’s different).

As I’ve explained. I’ve had less sleep because my partner is recovering from major surgery. I’ve had to work as normal (self employed) because life doesn’t just stop, I’ve had to look after him on top of everything else.

It’s so much worse to have a screaming karaoke party in your garden at midnight than it is to sit on a beach with some quiet music playing at 7pm, and I’ll stand by that. It’s fucking selfish to do that to your neighbours.

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chocoluv · 19/07/2026 10:40

I’d hate to live in your neighbourhood.

I love my sleep and have to wake up very early when I do day shifts but even I wouldn’t mind this as a one off.

If they were nuisance neighbours then I’d be annoyed but it sounds like they were having a one off celebration and life is for living.

You don’t say you have young kids, so I’m not sure why you’ve only had 6 hours of sleep over the past few days - surely you can just go bed earlier or nap during the day.

(And the one person listening to music at the beach was selfish because she could have easily just put headphones in. It’s very different than doing karaoke in your own home. It would be like having a phone call on loud speaker on a busy train vs in your own garden - people still may be able to hear it but it’s different).

whyexactlythough · 19/07/2026 10:22

That would have driven me wild last night. Like midnight is late enough but 3am??? Who does that.

We used to live in a housing estate and I couldn’t bare it. Drunk people walking past shouting at the weekends!

We moved out to the country and have never been back - now the birds wake us up. Which sounds lovely but it’s not. There’s a demented crow going caaw caaw caaw - and he has a microphone too I think! I wonder if he knows any tuna turner….

So it turns out there’s noise everywhere. How long do crows live….?!

MattDillonsEyebrows · 19/07/2026 10:08

Bourneo · 18/07/2026 23:41

🤣 not sure, but I definitely heard Alanis Moristte Ironic a while ago. Now it's tuna tuner! They're teenagers! It's an odd music selection, we've had rave, African, 90s.

😂 I know it's not the point of the thread but Tuna Turner is one of the best typos I've ever seen!! 😂😂😂

Mygardenshedisfallingdown · 19/07/2026 10:07

Newname29 · 19/07/2026 09:50

Sounds like a tough week OP but your neighbours most likely weren't aware of that. If they are usually quiet then I would count my blessings it was a one off.

I ger that it was annoying as you were both suffering from a lack of sleep but I think you need to rationalise it that its an unusual occurrence!

Neighbours probably wouldn't have given a toss had they known. They were ramping up the volume after other neighbours complained.

Happyjoe · 19/07/2026 10:06

Karaoke in the garden is selfish, horrible neighbours. By all means in the house.

Wishing your hubby a speedy recovery.

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