Husband lying on bed in sweaty clothes

He needs to be changing the bed every time, a few rounds with the quilt and he’ll understand.

I don't think you are BU, I'm a runner and I do not sit on any furniture when I get back from running, I'm straight in the shower. If I drive somewhere to go for a run I put a black bin liner on my seat when I'm driving home.

I don't think you are BU, I'm a runner and I do not sit on any furniture when I get back from running, I'm straight in the shower. If I drive somewhere to go for a run I put a black bin liner on my seat when I'm driving home.

I think it's quite sad if people make their own life so difficult by imposing so many weird rules, instead of just having a home that fits around their lifestyle, as it should be.

Upstairs bed? Fine.

Anything downstairs that you are not allowed to walk on or sit on, or breath next to because it cant' get clean? What a life.

My kids are not allowed to trek around the house covered in mud, for many reasons, but IF there was mud on the floor or a kitchen chair, it would be such a non-issue. Also helps the house always smelling fresh when you don't have upholstered everything around cooking and eating areas

That's just ridiculous. Can't imagine being that anal.

The fallout of a bit of water and salt?

Oh noes.

Exactly the same here.

The fabric chairs I can understand your annoyance as they’re not easily cleaned but I couldn’t care less about the bed, it’s going to get sweaty anyway and sheets get washed regularly regardless.

This no way would I do that ….. gross . You cool off standing around then shower . I’m obviously not running hard enough as I don’t need to lie down after a run !!!

I have PJs and lounge wear I change into, my DP changes into shorts, when we get in. Sometimes I'm getting changed/dressed 4/5 times a day. I have socks that I wear inside the house, I put shoes on to go outside. I have sliders for the garden. I sleep naked.

YANBU I don't even like someone sitting in my bed in clothes they've been in all day with germs on for example, school uniform, etc. Let alone a sweaty run.

Is there any reason he can't put the water on before he goes for a run, then it'll be ready when he gets back and he can jump straight in?
But I agree, it's gross.

What a nutty bunch of replies…why would you want a sweaty dirty person on your clean bedding…gross.

My husband knows on holiday after a sweaty day in the theme parks that he has to change or shower before laying on the bed, otherwise you might as well not have bothered having nice clean covers. I do the same.

Poor bloke. YABU

Definitely not unreasonable, OP! I can’t believe so many people disagree. We all run / exercise in our house and nobody sits on beds in sweaty gear, yuk! I’m not excessively house proud but this is a hill I will die on.

You wouldn’t lie in bed if muddy / dirty from gardening etc, so what’s the difference?

My home is anything but a show home but I actually find it so strange to lye on a bed pouring of sweat, I’m actually so shocked that people think this is ok. Obviously illness, menopause and sex is unavoidable but I’d change the sheets the next day, why purposely do it?

Maybe get him to do laundry of sheets and bedding and be responsible for keeping upholstery in good condition. He would soon change his habits if it was him dealing with the sweaty fall-out.

A shower room is 3 steps away. Don’t mean he’ll use it straight away if he can get away with it

this is the best typo I have read on here 😂😂

I can’t believe most people have no issue with this! It’s minging, you should be clean going to bed, it’s not unreasonable to want your bed not to be wet with sweat and BO, I’d never do it and expect my partner not to

Yuk - no, you're definitely not being unreasonable if he's all sweaty after exorcising! Even more so if he's sitting on fabric that can't be easily washed, it would end up smelling rotten! Same for if he'd be in the car after gym/running, would need to put a towel down.

He would hate to live in our house. As soon as you come home outside shows off in the hallway and indoors slippers. We all change straightaway (some even choose to shower straight away)and get into our home clothes. Definitely no one sits on beds in our outside clothes. Sofas not so strict about ( if they were sweaty they wouldn't anyway). We wouldn't sit in anyone else's home sweaty from a run why in our own? We also live in London and travel on public transport. It's something we did in our own homes growing up and have kept up the tradition but we do have influence of South Asian culture in our home ,where this is regarded as normal. So I'm sure others won't agree.

Do you have sex in that bed or on the chairs? Hate to tell you, OP but there will be more than just yours&hubby's sweat on your furniture/bed.

Do you sweat at night when it’s warm? When unwell? Whether you have PJ's on or not...

Stop letting show home influencers worm their way into your head, or whomever it is that has made you feel so very OCD. It will ruin your relationship. Do you really want to divorce over some bed sheets?

When I go for a run I will then often do some other stuff like mowing the lawn or housework. No way am I going to have a shower, put on clean clothes and then do something that is going to make me sweaty all over again.

it's absolutely your right, but how many times a day do you need to change?
Unless you only mean clothes you wear at work or for hours at a time, not literally "outdoor clothes" I can't understand how that works?