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AIBU to challenge OUT OF CONTROL parents group chat?

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SySy7 · 18/07/2026 09:54

My 2 kids go to pretty decent school where the group chat is intertwined with class reps and PTFA. Theres around 90 parent members in each chat. My issue is not only the relentless money grab opportunities but the inconsiderate few who seem to think that messaging at 6am on Saturday mornings and sometimes gone midnight on a Friday evening to ask ridiculous stuff they could have directly asked one parent or a rep rather than 90 people is completely unacceptable? Where are peoples sense of boundaries, common sense and general respect? I’ve silenced before for holidays but all you see the minute you open your phone is 30 messages about school lunches or a fundraiser. I’m due to have a baby next week so have decided to remove myself from both chats for the time being for my own sanity but would it be unreasonable to contact the school come September and request that the group chat become more regulated? Say from 7am to 9pm on a school night for example and limited on weekends? Direct questions go to a rep? I get all parents have a morning panic from time to time for example but I’ve honestly never experience the sheer volume or anything like this before. One week we were sent the same advert for a group event over 15 times. It became literal spam and random parents were reposting the message/ad through like we hadn’t received it 45 mins ago? I’ll always help and support where I can - make donations and bake etc. I’m not against trying to make improvements but this next level. It does quieten down for holidays for a bit but always select few who just don’t give a damn! It might sound ridiculous but it actually gets me down sometimes- I feel completely and utterly harassed.i know a few other parents feel the same but nobody is brave enough to speak up or go against the status quo. There will now be incessant messaging for the entire weekend due an event taking place tomorrow (as there is most weekends). Should I be that person?

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NattyCatsBigSister · 18/07/2026 09:59

I wouldn't bother. Just leave it or mute it and archive it. Or lock it. The school can't police everything.

cestlavielife · 18/07/2026 09:58

Don't be silly. You just need to regulate your use of it. Put on silent. Skim thru at a time that suits you in case anything important.

holachicatita · 18/07/2026 09:57

This does sound a bit intense. I have many many WhatsApp groups for my four children but nothing on this scale. Rather than leave you can archive the chat. It means when you open your WhatsApp you don't see the messages pop up. I currently have 10 archived and it gives me peace - but I will check in occasionally. If anyone really wants you they can message you directly.

TeenLifeMum · 18/07/2026 09:57

No you don’t get to police an adult chat. Options are you leave or suck it up.

HobgoblinNorFoulFiend · 18/07/2026 09:55

No.