AIBU to suggest my husband takes the box room when we move?

In a wfh scenario like yours, I think I’d want to sleep in a different room to the one I spend all day in. So, I’d have the box room set up for me the way I like it for rest and sleep, and I’d give the largest room to DH to sleep if after my work is done.

The big room that you want to sleep in belongs to both of you, in that both of your things can be stored there. The box room can still be kitted out to be nice and cosy for him to sleep in. It doesn't mean it has to be "his" room so to speak, but rather just where he sleeps.

Do you go straight to sleep when you go up to bed? If it was me and DP, we'd be in the same bed to start with as we like to chat for a while etc, and then he would move to the other room if we didn't sleep in the same bed.

There's no need for the box room to be "his" room, as that does seem a little bit unfair for a grown adult to only have that much space.

Lots of people say box room to mean a single room. When I was a child/teen I had the box room. I had a single bed, wardrobe, chest of drawers and dressing table/desk in there. Bookshelves up on the wall. No bedside table but it didn't matter!

Well, they are 17 and 18, not really kids.

It depends whether he has taken steps to sort out his snoring, or isn't willing to. And it depends on why you insisted on moving and whether he had any choice in the matter...

well he won’t consider this so MN won’t help I think

Some people on MN are so obtuse and just want to pick holes in everything.
You are paying for the new house OP and as you work in your bedroom also AND your husband hasn’t sorted his boring problem out then you get the larger bedroom. Why does he need it if he merely sleeps in a bedroom and doesn’t work from that home? That would be ridiculous.
The fact he doesn’t want to move is a whole different issue.

Good luck fitting a wardrobe, drawers, bedside table etc into a box room.

What, so now not only on MN do all kids have to have their own room, but they must have the biggest rooms lest they have friends over..?

We do this. Except the master bedroom is still officially “our” bedroom and we’ll still hang out in there together, all his stuff is still there and it’s where he gets dressed. The box room is officially the spare room, it’s just where he sleeps most of the time.

Of course they don't pay anything. They're teenagers living in the family home.

Who paid the mortgage on the old house?

I think it's a lot expecting your husband being made to feel like a second class citizen. The kids don't pay anything for their home but your husband does.

You sleep in the box room and work in the other !

Everyone else uses their room for other things ie work or socialising . OPs husband just needs it to sleep.

While not all snoring can be dealt with, some can. While it isn’t something he can fully control, it’s not fair on his partner to be able to sleep because of the noise. And so he has his own room.

Most reasonable men really wouldn’t care. It’s a place to sleep. To be honest, most men I’ve known would probably love their own space, no matter how small, so they can keep it how they like .

Sounds like he'll end up staying at the old house for work, you'll be in your new house with the kids, and you'll realise you're happier apart.

Well if its no big deal at all then why cant he sleep in there?

Id assume he'd be leaving his shit around, glasses, clothes etc from the night before that would need clearing before op can work. Op's stuff in the big room so having to creep around while snoring man sleeps. Nah.

Tbf i think the compromise if both using it is decent. But I bet he wont be happy with that either.

Other thing you could do op if he insists on Man Needs Big Room is start working earlier. Time for him to get up at 6am so you can get dressed etc for the day. Very loudly. He'll soon change his mind.

He needs to be reasonable. It's likely just a status thing and he needs to understand the practical side of it. If all he does is sleep, then he doesn't need more space. It's also temporary, by the sound of it so push that angle. Is there anything you can offer 'in return', though ideally, he would just be a generous / reasonable person and not need tit for tat.

Ok. She’s still not unreasonable to suggest it. She’s since said she agrees she should share the room.

OP said she was paying the rent.
But her husband may be paying the bills.
No one has any idea how they have split their finances.

Find a new property to rent with four double bedrooms so everyone's happy. That house clearly doesn't work.

But it's not really a practical reason as she could just as easily sleep there herself and work in the larger room during the day - which is probably better than working and sleeping in the same room anyway.

Im not sure she’s shoving him anywhere. Just suggested that he take that room, for practical reasons. The thread title is literally ‘AIBU to suggest…’

Great, but that's not happening here and it's causing an issue.

I would be pretty miffed if DH was forcing a move on me which I didn't want and which made my working days longer, and then wanted to shove me in a tiny box room on top.

Then he can always choose to live elsewhere!
I can’t even imagine my husband kicking off over this. He’d just say ‘you spend more time in your room, I only use mine to sleep in and I’m the snorer so I’ll take the small room’ and we’d all happily get on with our lives.