AIBU to suggest my husband takes the box room when we move?

If I were you, I’d take the box room myself. Make it nice and cosy. And still have the double bedroom as the official joint bedroom.

But really you should have bought a 4 double-bedroomed house if you and DH sleep separately. Why are you instigating this move when your DH doesn’t want to move?

YANBU - I sleep every night on the sofa to accommodate DH snoring in our room. We used to alternate but that stopped. Tbh, a spare/box room for either of us to sleep in sounds heavenly! 😴

It sounds like you should have got a 4 bed house!

I'd do this.

If my husband was making me move when I didn't want to, and then making me have the worst room, most of our friends and family would be having a go at him.

My DF slept in the box room for quite a few years due to his snoring....even though he paid for the house....because it made sense and because he was grown up about it....

I live with a chronic snorer. I am a light sleeper on the whole. We share a bedroom - the only reason I haven’t killed him by now is thanks to silicone earplugs. Honestly they are a godsend.

I would say the house isn't suitable for your needs and find another with more evenly sized bedrooms.

Why are you buying a house that can't accommodate all of your needs/wishes for a reasonable sized bedroom? If your DH pays towards mortgage he should have as much right as you at having a double bedroom. If you put a double bed in boxroom would there be any room at all left? Why should an adult paying towards mortgage sleep in a single bed? You could take the boxroom as you want to move and still work in main bedroom.

Our boxroom was literally set up as a room for one of us to sleep in when my husband snores. His clothing etc is in our bedroom.

Does your DH get any say in his own life?

Why are you making all of the decisions?

You both work so he must be paying for something, therefore he gets as much say as you.

If you’re adamant that both teens get a double room, then you need to have the single room.
You can still work in DHs room during the day.

From experience, earplugs don’t cut it with a dedicated snorer!

Really sad separate bedrooms.. ever heard of earplugs?

A dental mouth guard could change your life drastically.
i wish my partner had taken it seriously years ago. But his dental
mouth guard has stopped his snoring completely and we are sharing a room
fpr the first time in 8 years!!!

Could you have the box room and use his bedroom as an office in the day?

I noticed that she came back and said they could both share the two spaces.

Perhaps DH could spend a bit of time thinking about the others as well.

Have you noticed that OP hasn't come back and said "I love him dearly. I need to solve this dilemma. I want this to work for everyone"
It's all about what she and the DC want.

The obvious solution is don't rent this house, find a more suitable one but OP has gone ahead and done it anyway and DH can suck it up

so you are both paying for it. As in he is paying - presumably the children don't pay? - and gets the shitty room?
cop on - you are pushing this, and you will push him away.

Frankly with your attitude, he is better off without you anyway.

I’ve a friend nearby who has a snoring husband she doesn’t fancy. She has a bedroom with a double bed, window overlooking the garden, and an en-suite. He Sleeps in the box room. I saw it….. he literally has a mattress on the floor. Unbelievable. What people get up to in their own homes is always a mystery to those outside the home.

That weird Mumsnet thing where adult men come above everyone else.

I think it's fair enough if he doesn't want the box room but then he should be happy to consider what other options would work. But several people on the thread seem to think he should leave her for even asking such a question!

And why not give more space to teens who spend more time in their bedrooms? I'd always want my kids to have space to have friends to visit - literally no one who comes into my house goes into our bedroom.

I just cant get my head around a parent who'd be happy to have one of his young adult DC in a much smaller room just so he can spend 8 hours a night with his eyes shut in a bigger one.

Are you happily married? I could not ever seriously ask is it ok for my dh to sleep in the box room. No, it isn't. If he was happy with it fine but he isn't. I mean occasionally fine if one of you is ill but not as a permanent fixture.

My dh snores, I use sleep buds to mask it. How very bizarre to have a dh sleeping elsewhere every night.

Why are you even moving if he doesn't want to? I don't care who is paying the rent decisions like this should be agreed by both.

That's the wrong house for your family. You need 4 double bedrooms. Can it be reconfigured to make the box room larger by reducing the size of another room? If not then choose a different house.

The rent from the old house is paying for the new house and it’s not clear who paid for the old house.

Anyway OP - do you and your husband get along otherwise? Because if not, this is an easy way to start separating.

I don't think it's right to say "I'm paying for the new house". If you are married or in a long term relationship, esp with kids, surely all money belongs to the family, not to mum OR dad??