AIBU to suggest my husband takes the box room when we move?

Y not I

i would not appreciate the box room if i was paying rent/morgage as an adult in the house.

Poor guy. Banished to box room!
Obvious who is bottom of pecking order in that house!
Surely one of the girls room can be used by bith as a bed sigting room and they can share it to entertain friends. Or the youngest child has the box room.

Unless you have other reasons for not sleeping with him. Snoring can be the sign of underlying issues like apnoa

Sleep clinic assessment ( this is done at home, they send out equipment) and then CPAP or mandible device = no snoring. Shared room.

He's being a selfish arse???? I don't think so. Why can't OP use the bigger room to work in and then sleep in the box room? I would not be impressed at being told I had to have a tiny room in a house I didn't even want to move to.

Do you own the mortgage free house without him?

Easier said than done!

I suggest you pick who you'd rather live with long term.

If it's your kids, give them the more adult space of a double bedroom, crack on with the pressuring DH to have the box room and if he divorces you over it, never mind.

How much I'd care about that myself would depend on if the snoring is within his control or not. If it's something he can't help and the NHS won't treat it and he can't afford to pay privately then I'd have some sympathy (although I still couldn't share a bedroom with a snorer) but if the cause is self-inflicted or he just refuses to address it I'd be mad as all hell at the selfishness and wouldn't much care if we split up.

If it's your DH you want to live with long term, you and him get a big bedroom each.

Then you tell the kids they can have bunk beds in the box room for sleeping and can turn the third double bedroom into a sitting room for socialising away from parents and for storing their clothes etc. Depends if they mostly want privacy from you two or from each other and if they're same sex or not, as to whether it'd work.

Alternatively the DC each do a year in the box room.

Then why did you say upthread that you were letting out your old house to pay the rent in the new one?

I'd do this if I could be sure that DH was up and out before 8 am when I would want to start work.

I have a great idea.

You take the box room (see how you like it!)
Then you'll be free from his snoring,
after all, as you've said, he only will use it for sleeping,
so therefore the same will apply for you.

And you can still both use the double bedroom for other activities.

Wow!

If you are letting out rooms in the old house to pay the rent on the new one then in what way are you “paying the rent?” Your old house is mortgage free so presumably you both own it. That means you are both paying the rent on the new place. I suspect from what I’ve read that you have a high opinion of yourself and a low one of your DH. This doesn’t bode well for your future relationship. I’d be willing to bet this move will strain your marriage and the odds will shorten if you make him use the box room.

It shows absolute contempt for your DH even to suggest he takes the smallest room in the house. It is also a very poor message to send to the DC - your father is the least important person in this house. If that’s really how you feel I suggest you divorce him and let him lead a decent life with someone who values him.
if you love him you should take note of the old saying “Snoring is the sweetest sound this side of heaven. Ask any widow.”

Lots of gadgets to help like chin straps, jaw guards, nasal straps etc and obviously if your spouse is a snorer use earplugs or sleep buds. Far better than booting them out into the spare room!

How can people ‘sort out’ their snoring? There’s a lot of mean people on this thread!

The same could be said about OP she only needs a bed so why can't she take the prison cell room 😆

Mine was the same, went private, told he had over large tonsils, had them removed, mostly fixed now unless he sleeps on his back.
I'd suggest the main bedroom is shared except one of you sleeps in there, maybe take turns at first but eventully one of you will naturally end up sleeping there as a preference.

Unless you want to break up your marriage, don’t put your dh in the box room. What are the sleeping arrangements in your current property? Have you tried earplugs? What work do you do that you can’t do elsewhere in the property? The two DCs will move out soon which will free up a double bedroom. Can you not sleep in the boxroom (and work in the double bedroom when no-one is sleeping there) in the meantime? And, as you say, it’s only for 2 years.

@Bedroomdilemmas your life sounds busy enough without all the hassle of being a landlord with all the new rules coming in especially. We're selling our rental because of all the courses that the government send which I have to pay for and pass. Tenancy rights are doing a 180 degree turn because of housing shortages.

You could buy in the new area rather than paying rent.

It's not bizarre, that's just you looking down your nose at people and trying to find fault in other people's relationships!

My partner and sleep in separate beds, we had to make the change because we were becoming sleep deprived because my partner not only snores, he tossed and turns in his sleep which adds to the snoring problem because he'll keep ending up on his back. Unfortunately due to fibromyalgia and possibly being peri menopausal also I don't sleep as deep as I should and dream vividly and can breathe noisily at times as a result and that disturbs my partner! Why would we not change that situation? Maybe you don't have to get up to go to work but we had to and we needed to be able to sleep.

We share a bed on holidays but again it can be exhausting because sleep is impacted.