To feel inadequate seeing naked women in movies?

This is such a sad way to live your life . And in case you didn’t realise there is a vast amount of men who prefer flat chested women.

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Learn to love your pancake tits. At least you won't have to worry about the sag and won't need a bra designed like a cantilever bridge.

Make a list of all the advantages of being flat chested.

I don’t even see the people of tv as real people - they may as well be cartoons to me. I feel a bit jealous when I’m at the beach but it’s definitely jealousy not inadequacy

OP I really do think you need help.

I am overweight, have a c section scar and overhang, have thread veins all over my thighs and stretch marks on my stomach.

My husband tells me I look lovely every day. He tells me how sexy I am all the time. Maybe he’s lying but I doubt it. It’s not the case that you have to look like Nadia from American pie for men to find you attractive ffs.

They are employed because of those bodies. I don’t watch the Olympics and feel
inadequate

They act like they're picky, but they'd fuck an unconscious 70 year old

I think hair and makeup make far more difference than we imagine. Not to mention lighting.

Last year we ended up staying in a hotel where a famous beauty pageant was taking place.

The contestants were all beautiful young women and several times we ran into them in the lifts or public areas. What was quite interesting was that, out of ‘costume’ in daytime, they didn’t really stand out. In fact, several times, my DH didn’t appear to notice and it was me who remarked on the fact that we had just gone through a doorway or shared a lift with Miss Whoever. But one evening I happened to go down to the foyer when they were coming back from an evening event and they looked incredible, there were certainly men staring at them then with glazed eyes!

So I think that a lot of it is smoke and mirrors.

'my attractiveness is about my value as a woman' : I don't swear often, but this comment made me really really annoyed. No it bloody doesn't.

This is the type of thing that an immature man would think...... and, come to think of it, .... the trans community.

Op - are you trans?

If you genuinely believe your value is determined by how sexually attractive random men might find your body, you need therapy to be honest.

Is that what you think when you see a woman who is overweight, elderly, with unusual features? You think she’s of low value? You sound like a misogynist.

I think women can be just as visual tbh, I certainly am!

I often think they have entire teams behind them to look so wonderful. If I had them I’d look rather different too.

That's not always true. I am a man. My wife was attractive to me for many reasons. Age changed both of our bodies, and illness removed parts of hers. I loved her regardless. It's what is inside a balloon that makes it go up.

Your body may be ugly, I doubt that it is. As someone whose body can’t always do what I want it to do when I want it to I don’t give a toss about whether some body double or actress that’s considerably younger than me has a better body than me. Comparison is the thief of joy, be thankful for what your amazing body can do.

The only comparison worth making is between "You, yesterday" and "You, tomorrow"

Everything else is pointless.

For every skill you have, every lovely bit, every ugly bit, every intelligent thought, etc ... there will always be someone who is more skilled, more intelligent, etc.

And always someone who is less skilled, less intelligent, etc.

Being average looking is not a cause for concern... settle for having a good intellect or being a great person

There are some very wise replies here already but I just wanted to say that in the 90s and 00s I felt just like you do and I could have written your post word for word. In fact I didn’t watch American Pie for many years when it was released because I knew films like that triggered me.

At age 29 I finally met someone who loved me for me, and that, plus generally caring less as I’ve aged has enabled me to move on from my irrational way of thinking.

There are all sorts of people in the world, and some are just genetically destined to be more “beautiful”. I have realised though that I am just as attracted to an ordinary bloke with flaws as I am to some perfectly chiselled actor, and I get now how that works the other way around for men fancying women, too.

Well actresses aren’t immune to body insecurity hence plastic surgery etc. Don’t forget what you see can be manipulated eg good lighting, body doubles & digitally altering/touching up.

Films are made up and a lot of artifice goes into creating the images you see. Make up, hair, lighting, editing, use of body doubles. Virtually no one IRL looks like the naked woman you see on the screen.

Yabu, their job is to look like that and they have all the tools and tricks and everything is aimed at Joe they look!! Oh and actually the amount of times I’ve watched eg Graham Norton and an actress has told about the diet they have to be on (steamed chicken and fish, no carbs etc), I feel like I want to fall over myself!

They are also a LOT less picky than you think. They are more visually driven, ture, but that visual attraction can be for skinny or curvy or muscly women, tall or short. It's not one-size-fits all.

That movie is almost 30 years old. The Nadia actress is beautiful but even she doesn't look like that anymore, which is normal and natural as we age.

In fact, I saw a Christmas movie the actress had done recently, and she looks far more normal. Still as beautiful in the face!

It is a film it is npt real if people cant tell the difference and take body and relationship advice from made up stories they have bigger problems in life

Do people beleive all films are like real life? Can't people use their brains anymore?

Movie ideals are not what most men choose in real life. Most people aren't that keen on extremes to live with. And while I agree men are more visual, personality is important to them too. Very few women look like movie stars but lots are loved by men.

Well a woman’s body goes through a lot and most of the women in Hollywood movies use body doubles who haven’t had children and who likely have lived on a diet of greens and fruit their whole lives to maintain the “perfect” figure. They have dieticians and personal trainers as well.

What you’re comparing yourself to isn’t realistic for the vast majority of women. When you get older, especially if you have children, your body starts to sag and bits get loose. You get stretch marks, scars, wobbly bits, cellulite etc. Men actually don’t care about any of this, that’s worth noting. They don’t hone in on things we obsess over as imperfections or, to be frank, even really notice. Some men PREFER bigger women as well.

No. Your value, as a human and as a woman, isn't predicated on what men think of you. Until you undo this misogynistic idea, you're never going to be happy. Even if you attain a movie star body, men aren't going to love you for it. They are going to love the body and you'll live your life in fear of falling from grace - which will happen because age is unavoidable.

I accidently got a better body after starting pailates, one to one training three years ago and have a very toned, if not a bit too lean and muscly body. I was soft and wobbly before. It is bloody hard work, I dont eat much because of WLS and do the pilates because it helps my back but I dont thinknanyone iver the age of 21 has a body like th movies without hard work, commitment and sacrifice so it isnt real life.