There is a mum at school who I have known for years and have been quite friendly with up until the beginning of the year, since then it has been like I’m invisible and she looks up in the air when I walk past. Since her son and my DS (9) are close friends I’ve not said anything as to be frank I don’t want the confrontation.
There is an older boy (10) who lives in the same area who sees my son as a ‘weakling’ in his words and picks on him - i have spoken to his mum many times about this. Last night however this child had called my son ‘gayjay’ and pushed him over and kicked him. I asked him to come to the door so I could speak but he refused, I went out and said to him it all stops now the verbal and physical abuse - I didn’t shout or even raise my voice at the child. The parent of my DS friend saw this and confronted my son when I went back inside and said ‘your mum has no right to do that’ ‘she shouldn’t be speaking to children like that’. I went out to ask her why she felt the need to say this to him and why didn’t she speak to me about this if she has an issue, I had asked to speak to her in private without others round but she said no. Her reply was that she didn’t want her son to play with mine as she had ‘seen how I spoke to children’, when I told her that she does not know the bigger picture and that it’s not fair to to stop two close friends from playing her reply was that ‘she only cared about that incident and her son will just fine not being friends with my DS and I should deal with my DS’. I asked her why she was being so nasty whereas I was told that she will sleep fine tonight and I will have trouble sleeping because of this situation. We kept going round in circles as to why would you stop two friends from playing and the fact that she has some issue with me but won’t admit to it. Eventually I gave up, as she was sat with a smirk on her face with her SIL hanging on her every word, as I walked away she continued to shout at me when I asked why she was continuing to shout at me her words were ‘your talking too much go away’.
Later that evening my DS went out and continued to play with her son, however she has now said that he is not allowed to play with any of his toys that he brings out.
AIBU to think that this is being childish and that she has found a small issue of which is none of her business to stop them being friends?