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AIBU to feel sorry for the children of today?

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RainNowPlease · 17/07/2026 14:34

I read a Met Office report today which stated that temperature highs in the UK have increased by 4.5 degrees C over the past decade. If this trend continues, in 2036 we might have highs of 45 degrees and in 2046 (only 20 years away) highs of 50 degrees. Animals will be dying, more humans will be dying. I am so thankful to have had the foresight to not bring children into this situation as I can't even imagine how inhospitable the Earth might become in their lifetime. AIBU to feel sorry for children who will probably live to witness and experience unimaginable suffering?

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EmeraldShamrock000 · 19/07/2026 12:20

Firefly1987 · 18/07/2026 21:54

Another one missing OPs point. Of course you think it was worth it, you got what you wanted. This is about your kids who will be dealing with the burning planet long after you've probably gone.

How can any normal human being prevent this when the people in charge are the cause of dark atrocities, building data centres everywhere on public land, charging forward with AI. Idiots using AI like it’s their brain for the simplest questions.
Kill off wildlife in the land, murdering humans at an alarming rate for the earth’s minerals, bombing the shit out of countries, but it’s the average persons selfish actions causing this? Nope. As long as money and power continue to savage the earth it is hopeless.
I will keep recycling, travel by plane once a year, not pave my entire garden killing off insects and worms that help support the environment but otherwise I have no control whatsoever over the environment.

InveterateWineDrinker · 19/07/2026 12:13

ThePeppyOpalScroller · 19/07/2026 10:23

Climate change is a bit of a white elephant. It's used to make money for share holders, and it's also a golden ticket for government to invent new taxes and restrictions. Ever consider why the answer to all "environmental concerns" is a new tax or charge? The UK is responsible for about 1% of all alleged "planet killing" emissions, but we are taxed, fined and regulated as though we are THE country to blame. And it's all for money. We have massive wind and solar farms, that produce "too much" power, so not only did we have to switch them off this summer, we (the bill payers) had to pay the investors who own then money to keep them switched off. We can't refine any oil here, so even if we pump the North Sea dry and Frack every fracking inch of the UK, we can't do anything with our oil or gas except sell it to others.

It's a joke. Did you know that in the UK you cant have a heat pump and a wind turbine in your garden together? The councils think it would be too noisy and aesthetically unappealing, but you can have a whole street of heat pumps, that's fine. You "must" buy an EV. But if you dont have a driveway it will cost you the same in "fuel" as a petrol car. Insurance is more, pay per mile on top. But hey, "it's for the environment innit".

We are being used and abused in the UK by politicians flogging us with the "environmental" whip, but we are an absolute irrelevance in terms of climate change. If you are worried about the environment, the best thing you can do is not have children.

More absolute bullshit masquerading as fact. No wonder we're fucked if people throw up nonsense like this with any kind of conviction.

If I had the time I'd rebuff this entire post sentence by deluded sentence, but I'll go straight to the obvious one: I have a wind turbine on my suburban house, and no fewer than three heat pumps. All fall under permitted development in my English local authority, although the freeholder of the land my house sits on required me to site the turbine out of view from the front of the house, which was a little suboptimal. I couldn't find a suitable supplier in the UK, so imported it from Germany.

As for things like 'you "must" buy an EV' - you know that's just not true, don't you? Everyone else does.

InveterateWineDrinker · 19/07/2026 12:05

UniquePinkSwan · 19/07/2026 10:27

Why mention red meat? Vegetables have far more impact on the enviroment considering they travel thousands of miles. All my meat comes from 2 miles down the road. Your avocados are coming from thousands of miles away and using copious amounts of water to grow them. Stop demonising meat

You really must stop presenting such bullshit as fact. Comments like this are outright bloody dangerous.

We know, with absolute certainty, that the world cannot sustain the meat-rich diet rich nations currently enjoy, never mind what developing nations aspire to. Beef in particular is one of the biggest contributors to greenhouse gas emissions and also uses about 15 tonnes of water per kilo of beef. Any perfunctory search of the serious evidence will tell you this.

The United Nations is evidence-led, with no commercial axe to grind: https://www.un.org/en/climatechange/science/climate-issues/food

Food and Climate Change: Healthy diets for a healthier planet | United Nations

What we eat, and how that food is produced, affects our health but also the environment. Food needs to be grown and processed, transported, distributed, prepared, consumed, and sometimes disposed of. Each of these steps creates greenhouse gases that tr...

https://www.un.org/en/climatechange/science/climate-issues/food

UniquePinkSwan · 19/07/2026 10:27

ThePeppyOpalScroller · 19/07/2026 10:25

And, despite the flying and the cars, they will still have less of an effect on the environment than your children will over their lifetimes.

Why mention red meat? Vegetables have far more impact on the enviroment considering they travel thousands of miles. All my meat comes from 2 miles down the road. Your avocados are coming from thousands of miles away and using copious amounts of water to grow them. Stop demonising meat

UniquePinkSwan · 19/07/2026 10:25

Getting bored of these posts now

ThePeppyOpalScroller · 19/07/2026 10:25

Ezra123 · 19/07/2026 10:04

When I had two babies and was very sleep deprived and struggling with zero support, my SIL smugly told me she wouldn’t be having children as it wasn’t environmentally responsible.

in the last 12 months she and my brother have been on 8 short haul flights, eat copious amounts of red meat and have two diesel guzzling cars. I’ve realised they aren’t really that bothered about the environment. It was just a way to have a self-impressed little dig. 🤷‍♀️

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And, despite the flying and the cars, they will still have less of an effect on the environment than your children will over their lifetimes.

ThePeppyOpalScroller · 19/07/2026 10:23

RainNowPlease · 17/07/2026 14:34

I read a Met Office report today which stated that temperature highs in the UK have increased by 4.5 degrees C over the past decade. If this trend continues, in 2036 we might have highs of 45 degrees and in 2046 (only 20 years away) highs of 50 degrees. Animals will be dying, more humans will be dying. I am so thankful to have had the foresight to not bring children into this situation as I can't even imagine how inhospitable the Earth might become in their lifetime. AIBU to feel sorry for children who will probably live to witness and experience unimaginable suffering?

Climate change is a bit of a white elephant. It's used to make money for share holders, and it's also a golden ticket for government to invent new taxes and restrictions. Ever consider why the answer to all "environmental concerns" is a new tax or charge? The UK is responsible for about 1% of all alleged "planet killing" emissions, but we are taxed, fined and regulated as though we are THE country to blame. And it's all for money. We have massive wind and solar farms, that produce "too much" power, so not only did we have to switch them off this summer, we (the bill payers) had to pay the investors who own then money to keep them switched off. We can't refine any oil here, so even if we pump the North Sea dry and Frack every fracking inch of the UK, we can't do anything with our oil or gas except sell it to others.

It's a joke. Did you know that in the UK you cant have a heat pump and a wind turbine in your garden together? The councils think it would be too noisy and aesthetically unappealing, but you can have a whole street of heat pumps, that's fine. You "must" buy an EV. But if you dont have a driveway it will cost you the same in "fuel" as a petrol car. Insurance is more, pay per mile on top. But hey, "it's for the environment innit".

We are being used and abused in the UK by politicians flogging us with the "environmental" whip, but we are an absolute irrelevance in terms of climate change. If you are worried about the environment, the best thing you can do is not have children.

Ezra123 · 19/07/2026 10:04

When I had two babies and was very sleep deprived and struggling with zero support, my SIL smugly told me she wouldn’t be having children as it wasn’t environmentally responsible.

in the last 12 months she and my brother have been on 8 short haul flights, eat copious amounts of red meat and have two diesel guzzling cars. I’ve realised they aren’t really that bothered about the environment. It was just a way to have a self-impressed little dig. 🤷‍♀️

Ace56 · 19/07/2026 09:57

It’s illogical not to have children because of every problem going on in the world. There are so many issues facing humanity that if everyone took the same logic, we would die out tomorrow!
Climate change is of course an issue, but people will either adapt or go extinct. And if humans go extinct, so be it 🤷‍♀️ the earth will reset and probably be better for it. In millions more years a human-like species might evolve again, or it might not!

RedRosie · 19/07/2026 09:49

Back to the point! Yes, very worrying for all of us, and for the next couple of generations.

Talking to my very elderly dad recently, he said we are totally unprepared for the next wave of migration, as people move north from the global south to escape the heat - the impact on food crops and water availability (so viability for humans) will be huge.

Ezra123 · 19/07/2026 09:43

Firefly1987 · 18/07/2026 21:54

Surely bringing children into a burning world is the only thing "anti-children"?

Lovely chat on a parenting forum. Well done smug child free on your high horses, you must be so satisfied with your foresight and intelligence ☺️

what a thinly veiled stealth smug thread

lotofbowlofcornflakes · 19/07/2026 08:09

firstofallimadelight · 18/07/2026 06:14

It’s not about ‘the weather’ it’s global warming and the fact that our planet is getting too hot because of us and that will have disastrous consequences probably in my lifetime definitely in my children’s.

Oh hun it was a joke 🤣

FriendlyNPC · 18/07/2026 22:02

YANBU. I'm in my 40s and have three teenagers. I had this thought the other day, and honestly had to abandon that line of thought as it upset me.

Firefly1987 · 18/07/2026 21:54

BringMeHome · 18/07/2026 10:58

There have been a lot of these threads in the last few years, They each find a slightly different way of being anti children. The increase coincided with a certain board being campaigned for and provided. Many posters there are lovely, but I pity people who make not having children their whole identity.

Surely bringing children into a burning world is the only thing "anti-children"?

Firefly1987 · 18/07/2026 21:54

JuliettaCaeser · 18/07/2026 10:44

The end of the world is nigh indeed 😄. There’s always been something to doom monger about. I used to really worry I don’t now.

Just enjoy life while you can. Love
having our two now teens and wouldn’t be without them. If it all goes
to hell it will still have been bloody worth it! We will sit round the table and hold hands like the end of the meteorite film
.

Another one missing OPs point. Of course you think it was worth it, you got what you wanted. This is about your kids who will be dealing with the burning planet long after you've probably gone.

BringMeHome · 18/07/2026 10:58

There have been a lot of these threads in the last few years, They each find a slightly different way of being anti children. The increase coincided with a certain board being campaigned for and provided. Many posters there are lovely, but I pity people who make not having children their whole identity.

JuliettaCaeser · 18/07/2026 10:44

The end of the world is nigh indeed 😄. There’s always been something to doom monger about. I used to really worry I don’t now.

Just enjoy life while you can. Love
having our two now teens and wouldn’t be without them. If it all goes
to hell it will still have been bloody worth it! We will sit round the table and hold hands like the end of the meteorite film
.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 18/07/2026 10:37

If it is a problem, then most governments are actively pushing towards it. The new data centres popping up everywhere pushing the electricity prices up for everyone. At least Jane or John can discuss their latest emotive crisis with ChatGBT.

The Government’s are allowing Europe to be flooded with mass immigration.

Russia, Ukraine, America, Israel and Iran dropping bombs, 10,000’s of dead bodies stacked in rivers, lakes and dug holes all over Sudan and the Congo pollution.

Rubbish companies in business for money. One company in Ireland was caught after burying rubbish, 5 times the size of the titanic buried in the soil.

Until the people who have the money and power decide to behave, rich flying all over the world, then the new rich the Molly Mae’s and Conor McGregor’s of the world in their private plane. it is pointless.

I recall as a child waiting on the nuke, chatting about it with friends.

Look we’ll all go together, if it’s slow I’ll usw carbon monoxide to take us out in our sleep. 😴

mydogisthebest · 18/07/2026 08:33

We have all known about climate change for many many years. If people chose to have children knowing about it that is their decision so no good moaning about it now.

Me and DH decided over 40 years ago not to have children with climate change being one of the reasons why we thought having children was not a good idea.

Now in our 70's we are so glad we made that decision and don't have to worry about our children, grandchildren, greatgrandchildren etc having a shit future

BEAchDays2 · 18/07/2026 07:55

@frozendaisyOh well, so long as you’re alright and they care for you when you’re elderly, who cares about the kids.

Selfish beggar.

RubyPowderPuff · 18/07/2026 06:52

The wonderful thing about living things is, that they either adjust, evolve or die out. In the meantime they are busy procreating. This will continue until we have a similar atmosphere on Earth as Mars has - full of carbondioxide.
On that note, Happy Saturday!

dizzydizzydizzy · 18/07/2026 06:51

@RainNowPleaseplease post a link to the report . I’d be very interested to read it.

dizzydizzydizzy · 18/07/2026 06:49

NotAnotherScarf · 17/07/2026 15:46

I think it's a loads of BS but for 20+ years I have batch cooked, driven economic cars and walked when I could (now down to just one car between us). Boiled only the water we need, had low energy and then led bulbs, don't leave the tv on standby, turn everything off at the mains when it's been used, air fryer rather than oven. When we had an extension we got solar panels, then a battery.

Nothing to do with global warming. It saves me money. And that's where the environment groups have gone wrong. A hot summer, 76 was worse. Rain...it's Britain....but explain and push the money saving aspect

How long is the payback period on your solar panels? I remember when my parents first got them, they estimated 25 years.

NotAnotherScarf · 18/07/2026 06:43

WhitegreeNcandle · 18/07/2026 06:30

76 wasn’t worse. This is worse. We’re about to finish the wheat harvest this weekend in the midlands. A full week before we’d even started in 76

Sorry I didn't word that bit well...people like me will say 76 was worse...but thats not a reason to ignore the weather now and government should move away from banging on about net zero, which is actually pointless given what the rest of thf world is doing and push money saving

mellongoose · 18/07/2026 06:42

WhitegreeNcandle · 18/07/2026 06:30

76 wasn’t worse. This is worse. We’re about to finish the wheat harvest this weekend in the midlands. A full week before we’d even started in 76

It’s good that the harvest is in early this year. Makes a change from it being ruined by too much rain.

That aside, yes summers are getting hotter and winters wetter. We need to learn to adapt and become more resilient rather just flap about it.

Raise your kids to love life, be resourceful and practical. It’s not so long ago we were all like this. 100-150 years or so. Modern life has made us soft ( including me) but if life becomes tough again, humans will survive if they know how to.