Boyfriend.. entitlement behaviours.

It's a very selfish and unattractive quality. It would give me the ick to be honest. The fact you have asked him to replace the lotion and he hasn't is a real middle finger and he is telling you very clearly who he is and how he regards you and your belongings. It's not even about the money really it's the entitlement and disrespect. It's bit like the ick I get at buffets when people just pile their plates high rather than taking a bit and coming back for seconds once everyone has had a chance to get something they would like. I can't abide greed and selfishness in this way and have no interest in sharing space with people who think it is ok.

Even if somebody explicitly said to me help yourself to anything, I would still not just help myself to anything. I've been given tea bags for example when I've said to a friend 0h I need to get some more and she's said take some with you and vice versa. I wouldn't dream of just shoving some in my pocket. As for the ointment, he'll carry on 'forgetting' I would just say to him oh just give me the cash and I'll get it myself. Would it be enough for me to end things? probably. But I just feel so irritated by things now that didn't used to bother me anywhere near as much.

I wouldn't be bothered, just kick this one to the kerb.

Borrowing your car. . . .for a few days would be next I think.

He sounds like hard work, OP. The ointment and apples are just symptoms of the type of person he is. This is his personality and that won’t change. By staying with him you're setting yourself up for more of the same.

As he’s giving you mental stress why are you still with him ?

You don’t need to give drawn out explanations for ending the relationship. You could just say you’d rather be on your own for now. End of.

How many times to people have to hear this, when they SHOW you who they are belive them, hes pushing bounderies to see have far he can go, and you asking him to replace stuff and him not doing so is showing you that he will do what he likes, whats yours is his and you can just shut up and put up with it.
At least hes showing you before moving in so you have chance to cut your losses.

I had one like this, he went on to start seeing a total nut job that love bombed him out of 50k in savings I call her Karma. lol he would never have spent that on me.

Boundaries op, your kids come first: of course an apple here n there fine; but who goes to someone’s house and blatantly shoves a wad of teabags in their pocket?! Tea and coffee are not cheap these days! As well as the CF behaviour, the bad manners would put me off!! Even at my lifelong friend’s house, I would not take anything without asking!

From now no sarcastic comments; you are now best to firmly say, no pls don’t eat that, it’s for kids pack up; and sorry, I’d rather you ask first in future if you want to take any teabags Etc. and say firmly pls can you order me some tcp, we are all out as you used a huge amount in one go. It’s the only way with people like this, don’t let him wriggle out of it. His actions then, after youve said this, will show u who he is

A different but similar idea ended a relationship for me. It was Christmas and my partner hadn't got me a gift. I'm not materialistic so normally wouldn't really have been bothered. BUT they'd got a friend a Christmas AND a birthday (bday 27th of Dec) gift. Really thoughtful gifts too. While getting me nothing.

I said nothing. But by 1st Jan I'd ended our relationship. Thoughtlessness is so unattractive.

I’d watch out for how universal that trait of his is. Crossing boundaries and a sense of entitlement is one thing when it’s apples a d tea bag’s, it’s another in the bedroom.

Has he got an 8 inch cock that spunks Gold Coins? If not, I can’t work out what you are doing with him

Tell him outright that he's annoying you and that he's taking you for granted. Both passion killers. If you like him otherwise, this will give him a chance to stop? If he doesn't, yeah, time for him to go! Some people genuinely think things like this are ok as have been together for some time, he just needs to be reminded it's not.

Yes it is about his attitude of entitlement.

Even if the things seem small to you now, if he is allowed to continue he will take things that cost you more (without ever replacing them).

The sharing of items when living together works if both people contribute. Nothing about his behaviour suggests he would contribute anything useful.

No, I wouldn’t like that either, unless you have a ‘help yourself’ philosophy, but that usually implies make a cup of tea if you want one, not steal my teabags and ointment. It’s the lack of asking also.

Chuck this one back. He’s not respecting boundaries.

It is no crime to be single. End the relationship.

What I mean is that you didn't say "can you please not do that, those are for my children", you just made a sarcastic comment. He knows you aren't going to stand up to him

Shoving things into his pockets? Stop inviting this man round!

Helping himself without asking is annoying, I'd be more bothered that when you ask him to replace things he never does. Does he think you're better off financially than him or is it that he can't be asked to go shopping?

Stuffing pockets with tea bags is so icky - but your own mate!

OP I’d re-evaluate this relationship!

When he takes a handful of teabags (or whatever) I would say "oi, this isn't Tesco, put them back!". If you let these little things go he will start taking it for granted he can use you / your house; "I'm just going for a shower" (using your hot water, shower gel), "I'll stick on a wash while I'm here" (using your hot water, detergent) etc. Put your foot down and if he objects he's not a decent man.