Boyfriend.. entitlement behaviours.

OP I think if you continue with this relationship you'll always find that what's yours is his - but that what's his is also his.

He has no respect for you and your life. Time to let go.

Are you the boyfriend?

Oh ignore that poster. I find it very grim and irksome to behave like your boyfriend. For me that would be it I think. No way coming back from not showing respect and consideration.

I totally get that. It’s the attitude and then you feel you “shouldn’t be petty” because it’s only x and y but it just shows his general entitlement and eventually it’ll be something that really matters and you’re further in so you may as well cut it off now.

i wondered if it was metamium. That’s crazy he used the whole thing, you only need such a tiny amount, it goes so far! Was he slathering his whole body in it or something?? 🤣

Taking handfuls of teabags is very odd... i've never known anyone to do something like that, it would be mentioned and frowned upon.

As for the cream - again just no. Why would you continue to use someone's cream after being told not to? again that's not really acceptable.

I think i would have been very direct by the 2nd time they done it so they knew exactly where they stood and they would have know if it happened again they would be out.

He is annoying you so dump him surely that's obvious

I'd never take something (emergency aside) without asking.
Mind you, people see things differently. Some friends use bathroom products when they're guests-I just wouldn't, I'd take my own. I didn't even like it when a friend who was round for a party started putting stuff IN my fridge without asking first, so maybe I'm weird, but I just don't mess with other people's stuff!
If he's coming round often, it would be reasonable for him to give you some money/have his own stuff ther,

It’s not a patch on Metanium! I have a new tube in our first aid box that I must have bought just before they discontinued it!

This^.

If I may, I would amend your excelkrnt quote to say by their micro misbehaviours. @MrsGaryMcNumanface

By their microbehaviours shall ye know them. Get rid of him.

Exactly what I was gonna say.

What's he doing round your house anyway? Because if he's doing little DIY jobs thats ok but if all he's doing is soaking up all your heating/provisions then thats not ok. Just meet him for dates.

When was the last time he brought you a bunch of flowers?

@ShudderIck this is a definite dump job. He has been ‘sneakily’ using that ointment to the point of finishing it? Stuffing his pockets full of tea bags? Oh God no. This is a mean little creature, selfish and contemptuous of you. Mean and nasty, sorry.

If someone i was in a long term relationship with expected me to ask for an Apple I would cringe ! However stuffing tea bags I pockets seems very odd!
Does he contribute ?
Do you go to his house ?

It seems he is annoying you with this so I can see it’s an issue for you. Maybe chat to him?

When I first started reading your post I thought 'Jeez, can't imagine begrudging my boyfriend an apple' but then I got to the part about filling his pockets with teabags and immediately thought 'Oh right, sorry, yeah, dump this arsehole'.

Reading your follow-up posts it genuinely does feel to me as if he's doing this thing on purpose just to prove to you that he can. He knows you don't want him taking your stuff that you need for your kids or can't always shop for easily, but he still does it and then claims he 'forgot'. It's almost like a weird little power game he's playing.

I think most people, upon being told that the apple they'd eaten was needed for a kid's lunchbox, would be mortified and feel bad about it. They wouldn't 'forget' next time that they weren't supposed to eat them. He sounds like a total prick.

Apart from this. Do you go round to his house? What actual joy does he add to your life?

The tea bag grab would have been the immediate end for me. He’s a moocher and a dickhead. Grim.

How can you be physically attracted to a man like that? Instead of providing, he is sponging off you. What in this relationship for you?

How has no one stabbed him with a fork yet?

Ewww what an absolute loser he is.

This sounds like my DH, he helps himself to absolutely anything meant for other people including the food on their plate or the last water in a bottle on a 10 hour walk and then says I'm selfish and he's generous. Yet he never seems to demonstrate that generosity. If you get a bad vibe from it - listen. Wish I had.

I definitely would not be continuing this relationship. It would open my eyes to the fact he is a taker, and doesn’t appreciate me or the fact I have to bring up children. Some weeks in this house I know exactly how many apples I need and there are none spare!

My DP and I have been together years, live next door to each other but never plan to amalgamate more than we do…so two separate households…there’s plenty of times I’ll add some bird food to my shop for him in the ironmongers or maybe black bags as I know he’s running low, today he nipped in to the shop and came out with teabags for me as he remembered I keep forgetting them, bizarrely, this week. I don’t even take a paracetamol at his without checking it’s ok, that’s just manners for goodness sake and he does the same at mine - he’d never dream of doing what your ‘D’P did. My DP will also grab bits when doing his shopping for my kids that he’s seen and think they might like, a pack of ice creams say or a punnet of raspberries. It all balances out and we are both happy.

I suggest you either dump or have a proper sit down talk about this.

I was about to say, it’s the mental load of being a parent (does he have kids?) and having to constantly think what you have in the house and what needs replacing. I know that I shop week to week and have a pretty good handle of what me and the kids have and need at home, having to factor in another adult drifting in and taking from that would really piss me off!

😂 just get sudocrem!

YANBU, this is rude. How long have you been seeing him and is he officially your boyfriend? In an established relationship I wouldn't expect someone to ask before making themselves a cup of tea at mine, but to grab a handful of tea bags to take home is absolutely unacceptable - it sounds like he's testing your boundaries.