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To feel I've been lied to about China

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Sulettamercury · 16/07/2026 22:47

I'm well aware the country is far from perfect but no where is and I've just come back for the summer after spending 2 years there working as a teacher I'm going back in a few weeks.

What I can't get over is the fact all my friends seem to be indoctrinated into thinking China is this 1984 style hell hole where you can't criticise the government or do anything without being in constant fear.

I have to say living there really opened my eyes and I was shocked when in my first months of teaching one of the Chinese workers (now a good friend) started openly moaning about government policy and I'll admit I was nervous at the time but soon realised nothing would happen and that despite what I was told no one came after her and she didn't disappear and that every one was moaning about government policy if it didn't suit them with no consequences.

The infrastructure is also wonderful and far from the cheap rubbish you're told it is and housing isn't all on the verge of collapse or at least no worse than some of the rubbish I've seen here in the UK

Again it's definitely not perfect but AIBU to say I I feel like we're lied to in the west about how bad China really is and that some of the things we accuse them of we either do ourselves or we blow out of proportion?

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LilacPuffin · 17/07/2026 14:58

OonaStubbs · 17/07/2026 13:04

I like China and feel we could learn a lot from them in terms of how to run a country properly as a collective instead of worrying so much about individual "human rights".

Yet another post that follows the Party line. 🤔

And anyone who uses scare quotes when referring to human rights probably has no idea about the actual human rights abuses in China (or anywhere else for that matter).

38thparallel · 17/07/2026 14:57

Speakeasier · Today 12:32
It’s hilarious and depressing at the same time. Saying China and the UK are similar in terms of freedoms is just laughable. But I wonder how many are actually posting in good faith

I’ve seen China get an easy ride on mn sometimes. One poster made much of the incredible improvements in education under Chairman Mao.
I’m sure that was great consolation to the millions who he murdered.

Strawberrydelight78 · 17/07/2026 14:53

I’ve never been but some of their traditions and laws are outdated. For example rape within marriage is not a crime . Sex is just expected within marriage. I found at a few weeks back children of convicts are often shunned by their families. They aren’t entitled to the states help so often end up in a charity home.

HeyThereDelila · 17/07/2026 14:30

YABU and sound like you’ve drunk the kool aid. They don’t have elections or democracy, there’s ongoing operations by their agents to spy and intimidate Hong Kong dissidents, including here. They commit huge cyber attacks.

I’ve visited China and loved it. No, it’s not North Korea, but it is not a free country and is very muscular in its approach to Taiwan. And not to mention the poor uyghurs.

ChequerToRed · 17/07/2026 14:25

I’m sure China is perfectly fine, unless you’re a Uyghur, Tibetan, a Hong Kong bookseller, or any type of political activist or dissident.

MinLynn · 17/07/2026 14:21

OutAndAbouting · 17/07/2026 14:05

Actually teaching English apparently. Are punctuation, grammar, spelling no longer fundamental aspects of written English?

Sorry, but all aspects of the ops posts are in doubt.

I don’t understand you’re meaning. You think their poor at SPAG?

PamelaColmansMustard · 17/07/2026 14:17

Any country that can turn a blind eye to a barbaric massacre of dogs, cats and goodness knows what else, in the name of a "festival", has no place in a civilised world. Yes, we have a long way to go in the UK, but China is hell for any animal. Never mind people; they're not treated that much better. In my view it's a shithole, I'll wait a long time for anyone to convince me otherwise.

OutAndAbouting · 17/07/2026 14:05

Maybeitllneverhappen · 17/07/2026 06:25

Sorry, couldn't read past the fact that you've been teaching there and "no where it is".

Actually teaching English apparently. Are punctuation, grammar, spelling no longer fundamental aspects of written English?

Sorry, but all aspects of the ops posts are in doubt.

ShanghaiDiva · 17/07/2026 13:46

Anarchy99 · 17/07/2026 09:42

So are you saying that things like special government monitored internet and government maintained strict control over public discourse and dissent don’t exist? So the Chinese people can just log onto Facebook whenever they want? Okay then.

What an odd post

There are always exceptions. At my dc’s international school we could access google, facebook etc through the school wifi. All approved by the local govt with the prime objective of students having unrestricted access to the internet for research, school projects etc. However, Facebook etc was monitored and school director was advised that if anti China postings appeared on Facebook then this privilege would be withdrawn. Most people I knew used a vpn and, of course, the govt knows we are doing that and generally it’s all fine. I used mumsnet when I lived in China - no vpn required.
I would never have posted any anti China comments on wechat (Chinese WhatsApp) as it would be disrespectful. I chose to live there, my dh had a senior job and I would never do anything to offend or upset his colleagues and friends.

BlessingYou · 17/07/2026 13:16

viques · 17/07/2026 11:29

I think they are one of the last coal based economies. They have huge reserves which they are not going to leave just because the West has used up all their coal and is getting righteous about carbon.

They may have coal reserves, but those reserves are not high quality (the ash content is too high and the carbon content low). China sources a good deal of thermal and metallurgical coal from other countries for steelmaking and power generation.

OonaStubbs · 17/07/2026 13:04

I like China and feel we could learn a lot from them in terms of how to run a country properly as a collective instead of worrying so much about individual "human rights".

LilacPuffin · 17/07/2026 12:47

Speakeasier · 17/07/2026 12:32

It’s hilarious and depressing at the same time. Saying China and the UK are similar in terms of freedoms is just laughable. But I wonder how many are actually posting in good faith. I do think that MN is plagued with a lot of bots.

I agree. The bots seem to be increasing. Not to mention the number of AI-generated posts that are (evidently) posted by legitimate users.

Speakeasier · 17/07/2026 12:32

saraclara · 17/07/2026 09:35

The 'whatabout'ery on this thread is of a level that would almost be funny, if it didn't bring home just how ignorant and naive so many people are.

It’s hilarious and depressing at the same time. Saying China and the UK are similar in terms of freedoms is just laughable. But I wonder how many are actually posting in good faith. I do think that MN is plagued with a lot of bots.

Speakeasier · 17/07/2026 12:26

EmmaOfNormandy · 17/07/2026 11:37

are always trying to manage their PR. They want to have their cake and eat it - have a brutal and repressive regime for their own citizens, deploy aggressive expansionist policies overseas, denying other nations their autonomy,

I thought this thread was about China. Turned out it's about the US.

Funny old world innit ?

If you want to start your own thread about the US then go ahead. This is about China and it’s very interesting and well informed.

GasPanic · 17/07/2026 12:25

Secretseverywhere · 17/07/2026 12:18

China are producing 30-40% of electricity from renewable sources contrast thst with U.S. where it’s under a quarter, in UK it’s just over half. Goal of carbon neutrality is 2060. I don’t think people realise how much progress has been made or how quickly.

Look at primary energy. Electricity is not the only way coal is used in China

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Energy_policy_of_China

Energy policy of China - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Energy_policy_of_China

MinLynn · 17/07/2026 12:21

I have multiple friends who grew up in China and now live in the west.

Both have shared details about the lack of religious freedom. One was secretly taught about God and prayer by her grandmother. That still shocks the hell out of me.

Secretseverywhere · 17/07/2026 12:18

GasPanic · 17/07/2026 11:33

Define "way ahead of us in renewable energy".

China could generate 3x as much of its power from renewables as we do, but still be way behind us on % of total power generated from renewables, because it is a huge country of at least 20x the size.

China are producing 30-40% of electricity from renewable sources contrast thst with U.S. where it’s under a quarter, in UK it’s just over half. Goal of carbon neutrality is 2060. I don’t think people realise how much progress has been made or how quickly.

PippaHugo · 17/07/2026 12:01

Freedom House currently scores mainland China 9 out of 100 for political rights and civil liberties and classifies it as “Not Free.” Its press freedom is not merely somewhat worse than America’s or Britain’s. Reporters Without Borders ranks China 178th out of 180 countries in its 2026 World Press Freedom Index. It reports that 121 journalists and other media professionals are imprisoned, the highest number in the world. Britain is ranked 18th.

There is also substantial evidence of arbitrary detention, torture and ill-treatment. The UN human-rights assessment of Xinjiang found credible allegations of torture or ill-treatment—including beatings, interrogation techniques, sexual violence and coercive medical treatment—and concluded that the scale of arbitrary detention and associated abuses may constitute crimes against humanity.

In January 2026, UN experts described a persistent pattern of alleged state-imposed forced labour involving Uyghurs, Tibetans and other minorities across multiple Chinese provinces.

There is no same-sex marriage or national civil partnership, no comprehensive nationwide protection against discrimination based on sexual orientation or gender identity, and LGBT organisations and public advocacy face censorship and organisational restrictions. That is plainly not equivalent to the legal freedoms and family rights available in Britain or most liberal democracies.

Women hold only 26.5% of seats in the National People’s Congress. Women also remain severely underrepresented at the highest levels of Communist Party power.

An authoritarian country does not have to feel like a prison every minute to everyone. Most people in authoritarian states live ordinary lives—working, socialising, travelling and complaining about permitted subjects. The defining issue is what happens when someone crosses the political red lines, attempts to organise independently of the state, or belongs to a group the state has selected for coercive control.

Walikota · 17/07/2026 11:58

I thought this thread was about China. Turned out it's about the US.
Funny old world innit ?

Its an even funnier world when you realise that some US businesses could still operate in China after the revolution.Take a look at all that empire building during the 90 year stint of the Yangtze naval patrol and the scale of U.S ambitions in 'stabilizing' and 'westernizing' China over that long period and then of course ask why a large segment of rich U.S citizens made/make their fortunes directly from China in a magical cycle of having their gold deposits at Fort Knox backing up the Renminbi via trillions of the good ole Greenbacks sitting in banks in Beijing. Rich 'old money" U.S families and the C.C.P red aristocracy in a supportive partnership of elitist cronyism on backs of the colossal exploitation of Chinese workers.As the ancient English proverb says- 'same a*s different cheek'.

PippaHugo · 17/07/2026 11:45

China is the world’s largest CO₂ emitter (about one-third of global emissions), burns more coal than the rest of the world combined, still gets around 55% of its electricity from coal, and continues to build new coal power stations. Whatever progress it is making on renewables, it remains the single largest contributor to global carbon emissions.

EmmaOfNormandy · 17/07/2026 11:37

are always trying to manage their PR. They want to have their cake and eat it - have a brutal and repressive regime for their own citizens, deploy aggressive expansionist policies overseas, denying other nations their autonomy,

I thought this thread was about China. Turned out it's about the US.

Funny old world innit ?

GasPanic · 17/07/2026 11:33

CloudBuster66 · 17/07/2026 10:22

One thing that strikes me is people in the West frequently say there's no point doing anything about climate change whilst China is creating huge amounts of emissions. When actually they are way way ahead of us in renewable energy

Define "way ahead of us in renewable energy".

China could generate 3x as much of its power from renewables as we do, but still be way behind us on % of total power generated from renewables, because it is a huge country of at least 20x the size.

viques · 17/07/2026 11:29

CloudBuster66 · 17/07/2026 10:22

One thing that strikes me is people in the West frequently say there's no point doing anything about climate change whilst China is creating huge amounts of emissions. When actually they are way way ahead of us in renewable energy

I think they are one of the last coal based economies. They have huge reserves which they are not going to leave just because the West has used up all their coal and is getting righteous about carbon.

viques · 17/07/2026 11:26

FeistyFrankie · 17/07/2026 09:21

I have only heard great things about China from people who have lived there.

  • state-owned utilities keeps costs for electricity, gas and water incredibly low
  • food is cheap and plentiful
  • over the past 2 or 3 decades, their economy has grown at an unprecedented rate

Older generations have literally witnessed the country transform thanks to the industrial revolution. Living standards in China now easily surpass what we enjoy in the West. Work pays well (relative to cost of living, although this is ofc dependant on industry, city and province etc)

The fact the Government does not have to worry about democratic elections means it can run far more efficiently. They make long 10-year plans that they KNOW they can implement fully. The power of the CCP also means they don't have a slow, cumbersome and beauracractic process that bleeds money out of building projects and so on. The scandal of HS2 would never happen there (certainly not to the degree it has happened here), thanks to the efficiency of the system. So public money is well spent, and the government wants to invest in the country's infrastructure.

Conversely, there are downsides too. While privately complaining about the government won't get you into trouble as such, you can certainly find yourself in hot water for things you post online, or say in public. Something everyone in China is aware and mindful of.

Fuethermore, their State-owned media simply cannot be trusted to fully report the facts and is often filled with propaganda. Alongside that, mayors of provinces can feel the wrath of Beijing and not have any power to do anything about it.

The one key difference, to me, is the lack of regulation and enforcement of certain rules. You can park pretty much anywhere you want. There are very few construction regulations. Healthy and Safety laws aren't really a thing. What you see on the groud can often feel chaotic, disorganised, and dangerous. But it's also free in a way that we no longer have here in the UK (for better or worse).

Another aspect of Chinese society that is often missed by foreigners who live there is the State's interference in people's lives. There are constant directives issued that curtail freedom of expression, especially for the LGBTQIA+ community.

China is an incredible place. Yes it's far from perfect. But i would argue the UK isn't actually that much different. It's more expensive here, but with arguably just as many laws and regulations that curtail our freedom. It'a just not quite as direct or as obvious as the Chinese system.

HS2 might not happen in China, but to claim that large infrastructural projects are without issues is naive . A quick google ( perfectly possible to do outside , China, not so possible inside!) will show that while there have been huge and very expensive projects which have been successful there have also been huge and very expensive projects which have failed miserably or been the cause of terrible accidents and death, and projects completed so poorly because the fear of whistleblowing and the hierarchical nature of command stopped people expressing worries, leading to collapsed dams, flooding, insecure bridges and other disasters. Often hidden from both internal and outside view because they are seen as shameful failures.

And to the poster who upthread says they would like to live in China I would like to know their opinion on the very efficient mobile death vans that the Chinese government uses so effectively to maintain their high ranking in the Regimes That Kill Their Own Citizens Club.

GasPanic · 17/07/2026 11:26

I've spent some significant time working in countries that have significantly different/non democratic political systems.

By and large my view is that generally if you are a normal person going about your business the state is not that intrusive on your life, although you may on occasion be subject to certain injustices with little opportunity for recourse. Engagement with the authorities is something largely to be avoided where possible.

If you choose to raise your head above the parapet (that may include things like criminal activity, engagement in politics or protest etc) then it is a different issue.

As an aside it is also true to say from my experience that people pretty much want the same things the world over. The ability to provide a stable home and food for their families, the idea that they will be cared for in their old age, the idea that their children will be educated and live better lives than they did.

It's probably not surprising that people who have little experience of living in different countries and political systems form their view on what those countries are like to live in from the media, which nearly always tends to be about the negative headlines rather than positive ones.

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