AIBU to think a two-week trip abroad with dad is too much for a five-year-old?

Also, imagine how amazing it would be for you to have two weeks child and husband free. That would be a fantastic break for you.

I think two weeks might work out better than a few days. It gives the child more time to settle down and enjoy the holiday. I don’t think it’s too long. My kids all did the occasional long trip without me. My husband isn’t particularly hands on either but they always managed and had a great time.

A lot of people don't think younger ones should go on long plane journeys (is this one?) but some people do it and are ok, depends on your kid.

Sorry am I missing something. Dad wants to take his own child on holiday...and some people are saying that's wrong?
In a world full of dads who don't give a shit about their kids here's one who wants to build his relationship with his child and people are saying no?

That’s a really long time. Why can’t you all go together? Perhaps spend some days together and some doing separate things while you’re away so they can bond?

He may a bit if he’s tired, but it’s not life threatening or anything!

I’d prefer him to take him for a week. It is a long time for a small child to be away from their mother and younger sibling. Is there anyway you can join them for the last 3/4 days away.

Well he probably will miss you here and there, but that wont kill him. And he'll be with a parent. I'd personally not want to solo parent a 5 year old for two weeks as I'm too lazy but is your DH is up for it, then great.

Absolute no on many levels. A 2 and a 5 year old are compatible holidsy together ages for a family holiday. Theme parks - even Disney - don't need to be part of a holiday for a 5 year old. An age appr theme park is a day out if you have to do it at all.

I wouldn't want my husband to take my 5 year old son away for 2 weeks. 2 weeks is fine if you are all together but I would say a week max if it's just the 2 of them.

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Surprised at some of these comments, I thought it was common knowledge that one on one time between a parent and child is good for the relationship and child! 2 year old certainly wont remember being left out. Great opportunity for dad and child to bond, for child to learn to be away from mum, its a win win really. And even if they do get upset, or you get upset... well, its not really a big deal is it? So you miss them. Thats fine. They might get upset. Also fine. There will be plenty of times when that will happen in life and you will all survive!
Also if you really think neither will cope then... well, whats the worst that could happen really, they have to come home early? If your DH is happy to shell out for that eventuality then thats not a terrible disaster, lesson learned etc. Honestly, this could be the start of lots of great adventures!

Good god. He sounds like a great dad and your son will have an amazing time. So what if he misses you a bit? That should not override going away with his dad. This is completely a you issue. Don’t let yourself get in the way of their relationship.

So he's not allowed on a nice trip to somewhere new and exciting with his dad who you admit is a hands on parent because you're worried he might miss you? Seriously?

Turn the tables ,if you had the opportunity to take him on a 2 week holiday abroad, would you ?

My dad used to do this every summer (granted we were a couple years older when we first went on holiday without our mum) and it was great for bonding (and also being independent away from our primary caregiver).

Always baffles me when women have partners who can’t look after their own children solo for a few days, let alone take them on holiday for a substantial time on their own - I would be taking advantage of the fact your partner is keen!

You aren’t saying the real reason why you don’t want him and DS to have a 2 week holiday together while you’re home with a 2yr old.

It certainly isn’t the one you’ve given. A two week holiday abroad with a 5 yr old is nothing to worry about. It’s not going to be too much nor is it extreme.

So will you not have a family holiday together? 2 weeks is a lot out of your holiday entitlement

Two week holidays are pretty standard so really don’t see an issue with this?

Particularly if he’s planned theme parks and activities and swimming etc - your 5 year old will love it! I think you knowing you’ll miss your child is clouding your perspective on how much your child will love it

I’m failing to see the problem with a child and parent spending two weeks together.

Why does he want to “bond with” your eldest child on his own for two weeks and at the same time not “bond with” your youngest child for the duration?

I mean, it can be great to divide and conquer and give each child some time with a parent one on one, but two weeks abroad seems like a long time.

I can’t really think of a single issue with taking a five year old abroad for 2 weeks other than you’re not all going together. Why would he be going on his own?We took ours away for 2 weeks from being 4 months old.