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Primary school asking parents to not change Nappies in the toilet

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Laushe · 16/07/2026 15:52

My 5 year old is sen in a mainstream until he transitions to specialist in September. He's toilet trained at home but requires nappies at school/outdoors due to anxiety over using the toilet.
He goes into school 5 mins after gates close as he's an escape risk. This past week just as we've entered the gates he's done a poop, so I've taken him into the reception "accessible" toilet, changed him, bagged the waste and placed it into the bin. I obviously don't want to hand him over full of poop!
Just received this pedantic email (attached in comments) which will have gone to all parents. I'm quite annoyed as my their suggestion of staff escorting parents to another toilet. My son cannot access the main school and is in a segregated area with full time 1-1. Plus I'd have to faff around getting a sign in badge. Reception are aware he's sen and only has one week left before moving schools after summer.
I spoke to his 1-1 about it and we're convinced it's aimed at us and one other parent who's baby goes on the school run.

AIBU to feel like emailing them suggesting they place a nappy bin in the toilet, buy some air fresheners and maybe get a better sealed door if the smell travels the much?

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hahabahbag · 16/07/2026 15:59

You cannot put nappies in the sanitary bin because that’s not what it’s for, the company do not accept such waste. It’s polite enough and clear solution offered

sittingonabeach · 16/07/2026 15:58

Don’t see the problem with that. Can’t you just take the nappy with you if you don’t want the extra faff

RedToothBrush · 16/07/2026 15:58

They have not said don't change a nappy in the toilets.

They have said please change a nappy in the appropriate place because it poses a hazard if you dump and run in the place that is convenient for you.

That's reasonable. You need to work out a solution that doesn't create issues with disposal for the school. Just because it's more convenient for you is not acceptable. It's disgusting, especially in this weather to dump nappies in just the bin.

saveforthat · 16/07/2026 15:56

Of course you can't put nappies (including bags) in the sani bin. They contain chemicals to break down period pads and tampons, not plastic bags and nappies for 5 year olds.

Mariets · 16/07/2026 15:54

Nothing wrong with the letter from the school.

BirdLandedonmyHead · 16/07/2026 15:53

Or you could take the nappy and dispose of it properly elsewhere?

The school will have to pay per bin for disposal

Laushe · 16/07/2026 15:52

Email from school to every parent

Primary school asking parents to not change Nappies in the toilet
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