Primary school asking parents to not change Nappies in the toilet

Take the nappy with you and dump it in the first bin you find outside school as if it was dog mess. Or take it home.
Or, ask for the key for the special toilets.
You are def being unreasonable.

I don't think the school's email was pedantic. I think it was fair enough. There's a heatwave on. Take it home or use one of the toilets offered.

The email is not shaming - it is factual.

If the child is such a flight risk, then go in the toilet - change them - drop them at school - ask to use the second toilet with the nappy bin to dispose of the waste no carrying it out of the building and no risk of running away. No using an inappropriate bin.

Sanitary waste bins are not suitable for poo.

As for providing an additional bins, school budgets are super tight, if there are two suitable toilets for students to use, that parents can access it is more realistic to use those toilets. They are 'signposting' the facilities

Can you change him and then take the nappy just you to the toilet with a nappy bin?

@Laushe - could you change your son in the accessible loo by reception, then deliver him to his class before going to the loo that has a nappy bin to dispose of the bagged nappy?

Posters are being totally out of order comparing this to not having nappy bins at toddler groups. Changing an older child with disabilities is not like changing a little baby or toddler FFS. OP has to get her school avoidant child in and changed she has already explained that her child is at risk of running away if she took him to another toilet and her son would be punished by school for it (wtf). The accessible loo should have a bin, OP shouldn't have to carry a large bag of incontinence waste around with her with no child with her. I wonder what some of the posters here would do if put in the OP's shoes. The email was shameful, a discreet word to come up with a solution would have been more appropriate.

There is nothing wrong with their email. Nappies shouldn't be disposed of in the sanitary bin. I would have bagged it and taken it home. I wouldn't bother replying you won't have to deal with them in a week.

Then you need to take it with you.

Yes, they could put a nappy bin in, BUT YABU to put the nappy in the san bin.

The sanitary bins in our school are not replaced/removed frequently, especially in toilets that are not often used, so there would potentially he a shitty nappy in the bin for weeks.

Use the appropriate toilet or take it home

Your son can’t but you can, once he’s dropped off take the nappy somewhere appropriate.

No, OP.
What you should do, as a responsible parent, is to take the bagged poo with you, rather than leaving it to fester and smell in a reception class toilet.

As a primary school office worker who organises these things as part of my role- let me break this down for you in simple terms. Sanitary bins are collected separately and say once a month (depending on size of school/numbers etc). Nappy bins have to be collected weekly due to their contents - obviously! I have to schedule 2 SEPARATE services, for 2 SEPARATE functions. Try to use some common sense! Your ignorance and entitlement that the world should bend to you is bewildering. Get a grip.

I work in a SEN school. Nappies are treated as non-hazardous offensive waste. They have to go in a pedal operated bin and then into special bags and then into special bins. It is different to just throwing them into the bin at home. The school has a duty to keep things sanitary and follow procedures.

That's a perfectly polite and reasonable email.

Visitors to the school should not be met with the smell of poo. Imagine if you were a prospective parent or an Ofsted inspector. First impressions count.

Take nappy bags with you, and take the soiled nappy home. Or just hand him over apologetically and explain that he's just pooed. I'm a retired special school teacher and kids frequently arrived in the morning having soiled their nappies. Not remotely a problem.

I don’t think the email is unreasonable. If your son is going to a different setting in September, there must only be a few days left of this term. I’d just accept what they’re asking and find another method of disposal for a short time.

Stink up your own car on the way home! Putting shitty nappies in a sanitary bin is wrong.

They can’t just send it to one person. She might not be the only one who does it.

Our last day is Monday 27th. 😭

Just take the nappy home with you and dispose of it at home,it's really not that difficult! Double bag if need be

Don’t enter them then. Just bag up the poop in a scented nappy bag and place it in your own bin.

I did this often when my children are young, whether it be a posh restaurant, visiting an elderly relative. Loads of places don’t have designated nappy bins and it’s too much to expect them to deal with it. I don’t want people having to clear up my child’s stink. I’m happy to do it.

Can you imagine the smell in this weather?

Oh my God. There’s a special place in digital hell for people who send an email to an entire community rather than talk to one person. So shaming. Such as total waste of everyone else’s headspace.

The school is being reasonable. You just can’t be bothered to take him elsewhere

Email from the school is completely reasonable. If there is no nappy bin, then surely you change him and take the nappy home with you!

It’s a bit of a jobsworth email isn’t it. It’s like no one can be arsed to think “hang on, are the allocated nappy bins in the most useful toilets for the kids that actually need them?”.

Good luck for the school move, hopefully your son will be much better catered for in his new school.