AIBU to feel uncomfortable about anti-English vibes from family?

So the people who live there have no choice? They all want to be British. You have a weirdly anti English colonialist view many middle class white Brits have. Learn some history eh?

Why are you worrying that your husband's family will try to influence your son in years to come? I mean, it could happen, but it's so far in the future it doesn't seem worth giving a second thought to it now. And TBH it would be good for your son to be aware of alternative points of view when he is old enough, rather than automatically accepting one perspective.

I always thought that the English took losing well, but the responses to the loss of this match have been quite shocking. That isn't directed at you @Notcominhomenow but the sour grapes, poor sportsmanship, and downright racism I've seen have been quite appalling. I don't really care about football, but these reactions certainly make me want to support Argentina in the final.

The "hand of God" bollocks happened only four years after the Falklands war, to be fair. Not forty.

Why not, if that's what's fuelling some of the sentiment that's bothering you?

Yes, to be completely fair, we kind of do. ‘Two world wars and one World Cup, doo dah, doo dah’. And I definitely remember some of us bringing up the Falklands when that cheating swine did the ‘hand of God’ thing.

I really don’t think any of it is aimed at you personally. I doubt you’ve even entered their thoughts. As a nation, they’re still very touchy about us refusing to hand them back over. And I think that’s something that’s encouraged in Argentina because if everyone is whipping themselves into a frenzy about some islands inhabited by Brits and penguins, they won’t be looking too closely at what else is going on in Argentina. Our government does it to us about other things. Remember that vile comment about it being ‘a good day to bury bad news’? Try and let it go over your head.

But that’s exactly what a lot of the hate is about

country a takes over part of country b and the respects country b to be happy and polite at all times , refusing to acknowledge the fact that they are not happy about it even if it doesn’t bother you - of course it doesn’t !

it’s like person a abusing person b- stealing some jewels- no one would expect person a to forget about it even if b is happy they get to wear the jewels all the time

I sometimes find that with extended family, it's actually fear of real issues that will affect them personally-do you think this could be the case? Or is it not at all in your sitaution?
Eg, some of mine think the west are too quick to abandon family/not care for each other, and they sometimes mask this with "jokes" about how America, and now Britain, is full of vain people who spend their whole lives putting themselves first, and put their prom/social media posts above family duty. Most of them DON'T think this, btw.

I find online is often worse than in person. People feel freer to say horrible stuff and due to the anonymity there are also people there just looking to stir up trouble/distress.

I was already going to post but I can sort of sympathise with how you feel because my family are mixed race and there was a noticeable rise in spicy opinions that unsettled me because they are about, in some instances, my children. Fortunately most of the people I knew weren't like that, but there was one family member that I reduced contact with a little because I don't want my children being made to feel inferior. They were super old though, I think it's harder if it's kids because it feels like people are becoming more radical not less. It's unsettling when it's a general change in temperature within the population but I think worse if it's family members. And much harder when it's a general movement not just one person.

They are factually wrong and you wouldn't be wrong for telling them that (though you won't)

No yanbu, I would keep them at arms length from your son so they can't poison his mind with their inaccurate version of history.

Jesus, I remember the night England beat Germany 5-1 in a QUALIFYING match. The whole bloody country went mad. Celebrated like they had won the bloody thing. Lots of violent behaviour too. Plenty of renditions of the 10 German bombers song from England fans throughout the years. That along with the No surrender to the IRA is their go to.

Farage's tweet and gingoistic behaviour with his reference to 1982 hasn't helped. The media helped hype up the all England had to do was turn up attitude. That along with the arrogance and sense of entitlement has been 🤮. Looking at social media people across the board other than England fans are celebrating.

Should it?

Why don’t you ask the Falkland Islanders if they want to be British or Argentinian?

Some of these responses are beyond ridiculous and clearly written by people who’ve likely never heard of the Falkland Islands before the Argentinian fans started banner waving. Stop trying to be woker than woke and see the situation for how it is.

It would be quite odd for the Argentinians to regret the loss of territory that has never belonged to them.

I recommend reading some basic history of the Falklands. It should take you less than 15 minutes, and will hopefully stop you embarrassing yourself.

I think you've done the right thing muting them. Deleting those family members is another option as you don't have to be linked to them on social media. You could keep the older ones who've been fine with you

The Falklands have never been part of Argentina, so they can't be "given back". They also have nothing to do with British colonialism (they were uninhabited when first settled).

God, the sheer ignorance of some posts are of the scale.

. . . and yet you brought up the Falklands in your thread, and it's a public forum. People can respond to the points you have made.

Incidentally Argentina has huge economic issues as I'm sure you know as you too have been there. Perhaps the continual harping on about the FI is a distraction from the real issues.

You should also see what happens when they turn their frustration onto their own team....their capacity for creative insults is spectacular. 😅

I think you’re jumping on the Argentina bandwagon.

Yesterday’s news is today’s fish and chips paper.

Channel your energies into supporting England against France.

Some fans are bad losers.
Argentinians are bad winners .

Give it a few hours and all of their crap will be directed at us 🇪🇸🇪🇸🇪🇸🇪🇸🇪🇸🇪🇸

😂😂