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Was I unreasonable?

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parkingparking · 15/07/2026 17:42

I came home today to someone parked in my space/drive (it’s a regular occurrence but I’m usually blocked in, not out). Last time I was blocked in, I used my horn and they came out. Today I have pulled up behind them and used my horn again. She snapped at me and said I was rude and I should knock on to ask her to move
rude or not?

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SparklyBrickViper · 17/07/2026 14:29

Keep tooting.

Keep blocking.

maryberryslayers · 17/07/2026 14:23

Then block everyone in by parking outside your house every single time they block your space. And if they block you in call the police. You need to make life difficult for them like they are for you.

VineandIvy · 16/07/2026 22:20

the horn bothered them, it was publicly embarrassing. They didn't like it, therefore use it again and again, use it long, use it ignorantly, use it with a smile.

I guarantee if you torture them with a long horn noise with no let up every day/incident for a month, they will stop.

WildLeader · 15/07/2026 18:20

parkingparking · 15/07/2026 18:18

I have signs that say “house number X, no parking”

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Then like I said carry on tooting. It’s not you, it’s them.

fuck them.

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parkingparking · 15/07/2026 18:19

itsgettingweird · 15/07/2026 18:18

Park where there visitors park.

when they knock just say “you can’t expect people not to block you in”

Then close the door!

seriously though - approach the council about getting double yellows. They shouldn’t be parking there if it’s a dropped kurb anyway but if lines are painted you can take photos. Some councils will even put up signs.

Sell it to the council that they could paint lines, put a sign up with fines stated and make some cash!

No dropped kerb but it’s level with the road so you just drive straight on

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parkingparking · 15/07/2026 18:18

WildLeader · 15/07/2026 18:17

Then carry on tooting.

It’s your only option left.

rude/not rude, it’s irrelevant. You’ve asked nicely, no need for manners now. They need to stop being dicks. Rude is what these people are doing telling people to park in your space.

tell whoever parks in your space this every time they say you’re being rude.

bollards chains and or signage

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I have signs that say “house number X, no parking”

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itsgettingweird · 15/07/2026 18:18

Park where there visitors park.

when they knock just say “you can’t expect people not to block you in”

Then close the door!

seriously though - approach the council about getting double yellows. They shouldn’t be parking there if it’s a dropped kurb anyway but if lines are painted you can take photos. Some councils will even put up signs.

Sell it to the council that they could paint lines, put a sign up with fines stated and make some cash!

WildLeader · 15/07/2026 18:17

parkingparking · 15/07/2026 17:46

Unfortunately it doesn’t help. I have tried pleading, police, solicitors letters, being friendly, and outright screaming like a fish wife last time

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Then carry on tooting.

It’s your only option left.

rude/not rude, it’s irrelevant. You’ve asked nicely, no need for manners now. They need to stop being dicks. Rude is what these people are doing telling people to park in your space.

tell whoever parks in your space this every time they say you’re being rude.

bollards chains and or signage

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parkingparking · 15/07/2026 18:05

WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · 15/07/2026 18:02

Okay well, I wouldn't allow someone to treat me that way and I sure as hell wouldn't be worrying about whether they thought I was rude, but it takes all sorts. * *

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Oh I have gone ballistic to the point my parent walked off and left me to it as “you were handling it perfectly well” and there was a lot of curtain twitching

that worked for the longest because I rang the police after it as well
i am just fed up, tired and struggling with anxiety/panic attacks and they’re really not helping

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WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · 15/07/2026 18:02

parkingparking · 15/07/2026 18:00

I can ring the police if I’m blocked in luckily but I hate doing it as it’s so often
the neighbours just say “well knock and ask (I get attitude when I do this), you can’t expect our visitors not to block you in, you’re being ridiculous”
I think the solicitors letter was maybe 18 years ago now

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Okay well, I wouldn't allow someone to treat me that way and I sure as hell wouldn't be worrying about whether they thought I was rude, but it takes all sorts. * *

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parkingparking · 15/07/2026 18:02

Sorry if I’m not explaining well, I have chronic health conditions and wiped after work

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parkingparking · 15/07/2026 18:01

Theyreeatingthedogs · 15/07/2026 18:00

Why is a bollard not allowed? Is it a rented property and if so is theirs also rented?

I own but it’s a leasehold. They rent
my leasehold people can’t do anything as when I am blocked in they’re not parked on the leasehold land

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parkingparking · 15/07/2026 18:00

WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · 15/07/2026 17:57

You need to make it more inconvenient for them to use your space/block you in than to find somewhere else to park. Block them in your space whenever you can and don't move for as long as possible.

You can also try very sticky notes on the windshield that they have to pick off before they can drive.

It's already escalated to solicitor's letters so you have nothing to lose.

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I can ring the police if I’m blocked in luckily but I hate doing it as it’s so often
the neighbours just say “well knock and ask (I get attitude when I do this), you can’t expect our visitors not to block you in, you’re being ridiculous”
I think the solicitors letter was maybe 18 years ago now

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parietal · 15/07/2026 18:00

Ask the council to paint double yellow lines around the cul de sac so no one can park.

I thought you could call the police if you are blocked in by bad parking?

Theyreeatingthedogs · 15/07/2026 18:00

Why is a bollard not allowed? Is it a rented property and if so is theirs also rented?

SallyD00lally · 15/07/2026 17:58

parkingparking · 15/07/2026 17:54

They have been going to all the new people on the road (3 families have moved in the last 6 months) and telling them that “they don’t get on with me” Confused
I don’t have any issue with them but I just want a peaceful life

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Ok but you're unsure if you were rude to use your horn?

WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · 15/07/2026 17:57

parkingparking · 15/07/2026 17:51

Yes, they’re the issue… they have said to me I can’t expect not to be blocked in

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You need to make it more inconvenient for them to use your space/block you in than to find somewhere else to park. Block them in your space whenever you can and don't move for as long as possible.

You can also try very sticky notes on the windshield that they have to pick off before they can drive.

It's already escalated to solicitor's letters so you have nothing to lose.

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parkingparking · 15/07/2026 17:57

caefe · 15/07/2026 17:56

They are not parked in your space?

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Sorry, diagram showing where they park to block me in. Or they’re in my actual space marked on the diagram

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parkingparking · 15/07/2026 17:57

SunnyRedSnail · 15/07/2026 17:55

So either keep blocking them in or just install a parking bollard?

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It’s the same hassle - if I block them in, I do eventually have to come out to let them out but I don’t trust them not to ram my car TBH. Bollard isn’t allowed but doesn’t solve the blocking in (I would say I am blocked in twice a week, they use my space maybe every other month)

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caefe · 15/07/2026 17:56

parkingparking · 15/07/2026 17:52

Bad diagram, not to scale
the circle bit is road, it’s a cul de sac

They are not parked in your space?

SunnyRedSnail · 15/07/2026 17:55

parkingparking · 15/07/2026 17:53

I did try that previously about 4 years ago, took my doorbell off and went for a bath. It worked for a week and then back to the same

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So either keep blocking them in or just install a parking bollard?

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parkingparking · 15/07/2026 17:54

SallyD00lally · 15/07/2026 17:51

And you're not sure if you were rude to use your horn?

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They have been going to all the new people on the road (3 families have moved in the last 6 months) and telling them that “they don’t get on with me” Confused
I don’t have any issue with them but I just want a peaceful life

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parkingparking · 15/07/2026 17:53

SunnyRedSnail · 15/07/2026 17:52

@parkingparking If they're in your space then just block them in then put your headphones in or go out for the evening.

If they can block you in the surely you can block them in?

Of course YANBU nor rude. They are a CF.

I did try that previously about 4 years ago, took my doorbell off and went for a bath. It worked for a week and then back to the same

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parkingparking · 15/07/2026 17:52

Bad diagram, not to scale
the circle bit is road, it’s a cul de sac

Was I unreasonable?
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