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How can people not care for their animals?

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Sweetdreamsbeautifulnightmare · 15/07/2026 12:56

We have a new neighbour who moved in a few months ago who has a guinea pig. I get on well with the neighbour and we have socialised. However, she doesn’t look after the guinea pig. I can see it from my garden and it’s never fed nor cleaned out. I’ve hinted at it and she says she doesn’t care about it 😔 she’s basically waiting for it to die! I offered to look after it myself and she skirted around it.

I said again how we would love a guinea pig shall we take it for you and she just kind of ignored me!

However, over the last two weeks it hasn’t been cleaned out and I hear it squealing. When I know she’s gone out to work (she works in a care home and leaves the same time every day) I sneak in and feed it! However I only give it greens and veggies etc.

I’ve now noticed its food bowl of pellets is empty and it has no hay at all either and hasn’t for days. I then went and got some hay and food and have been sneaking that in too! I feel so sorry for it as I’d give it a lovely home and let it run on the grass etc.. this one never comes out at all.

I don’t know what else I can do though? I know he has some annual leave soon so won’t be leaving at the same time for me to sneak in the garden! What would you do?! I genuinely feel so upset for the poor baby!

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Crojo · 15/07/2026 13:34

Please intervene in some way, it will be suffering. They are grazing animals and need a constant supply of food. Hay is essential to keep their digestion working and stop their teeth from overgrowing. They also need food with vitamin C as their bodies can’t store it. Its potentially already very poorly.

daffodilandtulip · 15/07/2026 13:33

AnonymityAnonymity · 15/07/2026 13:04

Really? I thought the RSPCA were very pro active in dealing with animal cruelty and neglect. And at the very least they woukd visit this woman to give advice and monitor the situation.
OP should at least notify them rather let this poor animal suffer.

The dog next door is left on its own for days on end. It howls and barks in distress. It’s never left the house in its life. They also have birds locked in a cage the size of a small fridge, who screech angrily all day. RSPCA say they can’t do anything.

icouldholditwithacobweb · 15/07/2026 13:31

I'd take it and wouldn't ever apologise for it. If she ever asked about it, I'd tell her I rescued it since she what she was doing was animal cruelty and I won't tolerate it. Then I'd suggest we call the police and see what they have to say about it, if she's that bothered. She'll back down. Vile bitch.

LivingwithHopenowandforever · 15/07/2026 13:28

Gowlett · 15/07/2026 13:21

Do you think it’s non-animal people liking the “idea” of having a pet? I’ve seen a few friends getting a dog (which require hard work as well as a lot of love) & then off-loading them, as they simply haven’t got a connection with the animal. Why do they do it?

I’m not an animal person, I’d never get a pet.

You are spot on it is the whole ‘idea’ of having a pet and how amazing it will be without thinking through the practicalities of it and the impact of that on day to day living and let’s not forget it is not cheap either!

People just do not think through what it involves when taking on a pet.

WhatYouWearing · 15/07/2026 13:28

MidnightMeltdown · 15/07/2026 13:19

Maybe get your own guinea pig and then say that it would be nice for it to have a companion as they usually live in pairs.

Don’t do that. Piggies need matching up. Stealing it and leaving the door open is the best way. Contact a local piggy sanctuary.

I had the same issue and I tried everything. She died before I managed to get her (but I got the other pet finally)

Blueberrybonanza · 15/07/2026 13:28

This would upset me so much I would have to take it, I would then take it to a rescue.
we did this once with a neglected kitten and rehomed it with family where it had a long happy life, the neighbour didn't give a shit just assumed it had run away.
I cant bear animal cruelty and Im with you, I would despise the neighbour

MyDailyCake · 15/07/2026 13:28

I think rescue the guinea pig but find someone on a guinea pig Facebook group who can adopt him/her into an existing group. Then the neighbour won't see her stolen guinea pig at your house! People are so cruel.

WonderingWanda · 15/07/2026 13:27

FionnulaTheCooler · 15/07/2026 13:05

Kidnap it and take it to a local rescue. Poor thing.

This. If she asks where it is say you reported her to the rspca and they took it away.

Sweetdreamsbeautifulnightmare · 15/07/2026 13:26

Gowlett · 15/07/2026 13:23

That’s a good idea, say that the vet recommended it. OP sounds like a good fit for this guinea pig, two would be happy together.

It would be just my luck that they’d hate each other 😂

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Ohthedaffodils · 15/07/2026 13:25

@MyDailyCake synthetic blood then.

Rubberduck01 · 15/07/2026 13:25

Sweetdreamsbeautifulnightmare · 15/07/2026 13:16

I’m wondering how to word it in order to take the Guinea myself! I don’t want to call RSPCA as she will know and if they then don’t take it away.. that would be worse!

I can tell you really care about the animal and understand your reluctance but please report it.

LivingwithHopenowandforever · 15/07/2026 13:24

Some people just do not deserve the privilege of owning an animal!!!! @Sweetdreamsbeautifulnightmare OP @Saddm has made a really good suggestion of offering money & I agree money talks. Your neighbour will probably bite your hand off & if her son would like to still see the guinea pig then at least you are showing him the perfect example in how to look after a pet. Thank you for caring OP ❤️

MyDailyCake · 15/07/2026 13:23

Ohthedaffodils · 15/07/2026 13:09

Buy some offal. Smear blood around the hutch and nick the guinea pig. As someone said previously a fox must have got the poor thing.
All animals deserve care and respect.

Even the animal whose "offal" you suggest buying?

Gowlett · 15/07/2026 13:23

MidnightMeltdown · 15/07/2026 13:19

Maybe get your own guinea pig and then say that it would be nice for it to have a companion as they usually live in pairs.

That’s a good idea, say that the vet recommended it. OP sounds like a good fit for this guinea pig, two would be happy together.

Wordsmithery · 15/07/2026 13:23

DancingonmyOwn88 · 15/07/2026 13:03

I would honestly just take it and make it look like a fox got at it.

Agree. Leave the door open, swear the kids to secrecy and give the piggie the retirement he deserves.

TheBabyFatmoss · 15/07/2026 13:22

The RSPCA are pretty spineless but they will act regarding no food, keep a picture diary and contact them

Gowlett · 15/07/2026 13:21

Do you think it’s non-animal people liking the “idea” of having a pet? I’ve seen a few friends getting a dog (which require hard work as well as a lot of love) & then off-loading them, as they simply haven’t got a connection with the animal. Why do they do it?

I’m not an animal person, I’d never get a pet.

MidnightMeltdown · 15/07/2026 13:19

Sweetdreamsbeautifulnightmare · 15/07/2026 13:16

I’m wondering how to word it in order to take the Guinea myself! I don’t want to call RSPCA as she will know and if they then don’t take it away.. that would be worse!

Maybe get your own guinea pig and then say that it would be nice for it to have a companion as they usually live in pairs.

Saddm · 15/07/2026 13:19

I've recently reported a family for basically being utter crap rabbit owners..
Don't want to say too much but rspca will be attending the house soon.

Yabu not to at least try.
Or offer her £50 for the piggy and cage..
Sometimes money talks.

DancingonmyOwn88 · 15/07/2026 13:18

Like I said, I do have personal experience in dealing with them but a quick google would tell you that it’s not a niche viewpoint to think they’re ineffective in a lot of cases.

How can people not care for their animals?
Sweetdreamsbeautifulnightmare · 15/07/2026 13:16

I’m wondering how to word it in order to take the Guinea myself! I don’t want to call RSPCA as she will know and if they then don’t take it away.. that would be worse!

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8TinyToeBeans · 15/07/2026 13:15

People are evil. I was approached to accept a tarantula that was part of a neglected house of pets. I was warned that it was in very poor condition but nobody had the confidence to try interacting with it cause it’s a notoriously bitey species. I took it and when I opened the enclosure it confirmed that she was dead…she had starved to death. :(
She’s still in my freezer waiting for a dignified burial when the garden is done. Nobody cared about her in life, but I’ll give her a decent burial like I would any of my own. And people say ‘it’s just a spider’ but that’s a horrible thing to say. Her entire life was suffering and she didn’t deserve that. It makes me so angry!

Rubberduck01 · 15/07/2026 13:14

AnonymityAnonymity · 15/07/2026 13:07

I think it's actually shameful that you are trying to discourage OP, and other people, from reporting animal neglect and cruelty

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I agree. I volunteer for the RSPCA and see first hand the amount of work they do, some of which no one should ever see nor any animal be subjected to the awful cruelty. As cases are dealt with on a case by case basis and priority given to the most serious, but be assured all reported incidents will be investigated and action taken.

AnonymityAnonymity · 15/07/2026 13:14

DancingonmyOwn88 · 15/07/2026 13:10

Absolutely not what I’m doing, and it’s worth remembering that the RSPCA aren’t the only animal welfare charity, even though they are the most well known. I doubt I’m the only poster on here that has had experience with them being absolutely useless in helping an animal in distress, though.

I'm sure they don't get things right every time. But it's got to be worth someone reporting neglect and cruelty if it's the animals only chance if survival. And your posts certainly read as though you are discouraging anyone reporting .
Fair enough if you know of another animal charity which would help thei poor guinea pig then of course supply OP with it's name.

DancingonmyOwn88 · 15/07/2026 13:10

AnonymityAnonymity · 15/07/2026 13:07

I think it's actually shameful that you are trying to discourage OP, and other people, from reporting animal neglect and cruelty

Edited

Absolutely not what I’m doing, and it’s worth remembering that the RSPCA aren’t the only animal welfare charity, even though they are the most well known. I doubt I’m the only poster on here that has had experience with them being absolutely useless in helping an animal in distress, though.