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How can people not care for their animals?

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Sweetdreamsbeautifulnightmare · 15/07/2026 12:56

We have a new neighbour who moved in a few months ago who has a guinea pig. I get on well with the neighbour and we have socialised. However, she doesn’t look after the guinea pig. I can see it from my garden and it’s never fed nor cleaned out. I’ve hinted at it and she says she doesn’t care about it 😔 she’s basically waiting for it to die! I offered to look after it myself and she skirted around it.

I said again how we would love a guinea pig shall we take it for you and she just kind of ignored me!

However, over the last two weeks it hasn’t been cleaned out and I hear it squealing. When I know she’s gone out to work (she works in a care home and leaves the same time every day) I sneak in and feed it! However I only give it greens and veggies etc.

I’ve now noticed its food bowl of pellets is empty and it has no hay at all either and hasn’t for days. I then went and got some hay and food and have been sneaking that in too! I feel so sorry for it as I’d give it a lovely home and let it run on the grass etc.. this one never comes out at all.

I don’t know what else I can do though? I know he has some annual leave soon so won’t be leaving at the same time for me to sneak in the garden! What would you do?! I genuinely feel so upset for the poor baby!

OP posts:
Rubberduck01 · 15/07/2026 14:11

faithfultoGeorgeMichael · 15/07/2026 13:40

DO NOT REPORT TO THE RSPCA!!!

I did exactly this re my neighbours - I was promised anonymity. They TOLD HIM IT WAS ME and he started a hate campaign that lasted until we moved. Worst 2 years of my life, truly awful. The RSPCA are mainly focused on the RSPCA and it's 'campaigns' and not helping animals in the UK ime.

Thank you for reporting the animal. The fact that they followed up your report shows that they do indeed focus on helping animals.

hattie43 · 15/07/2026 14:10

I couldn’t stand by and watch any animal being abused . Id tell the owner straight to either relinquish its care to me or I’ll call the RSPCA and put it all over Facebook to shame them .

Allthegoodhorses · 15/07/2026 14:09

Wordsmithery · 15/07/2026 13:23

Agree. Leave the door open, swear the kids to secrecy and give the piggie the retirement he deserves.

I agree, make it look like a fox got to it. Then just hide it when the son comes round. You don't know how old it is I presume? They don't live that long so you may not have it for years anyhow.

kookieCrumbles · 15/07/2026 14:05

AnonymityAnonymity · 15/07/2026 13:56

I think people like yourself and other posters should stop bad mouthing the RSPCA.

Unless you can suggest other organisations to report animal cruelty too then discouraging people to report to the RSPCA is beyond irresponsible.

And advocating that people resort to stealing is down right wrong.

It’s not stealing; it’s saving an animal’s life.

DreamingOfGeneHunt · 15/07/2026 14:02

AnonymityAnonymity · 15/07/2026 13:56

I think people like yourself and other posters should stop bad mouthing the RSPCA.

Unless you can suggest other organisations to report animal cruelty too then discouraging people to report to the RSPCA is beyond irresponsible.

And advocating that people resort to stealing is down right wrong.

https://www.helpanimals.co.uk/local

This gives loads of animal welfare charities.

Find your Local Animal Welfare Organisation | Help Animals UK

Find and support animal welfare establishments near you.

https://www.helpanimals.co.uk/local

YourAquaLion · 15/07/2026 14:00

Yeh just nick him, if she asks just say you got your own guinea pig, it’s not a lie! He’s yours now! How can she not feed him and walk past? So cruel. I’d be fuming.

DreamingOfGeneHunt · 15/07/2026 13:59

DancingonmyOwn88 · 15/07/2026 13:10

Absolutely not what I’m doing, and it’s worth remembering that the RSPCA aren’t the only animal welfare charity, even though they are the most well known. I doubt I’m the only poster on here that has had experience with them being absolutely useless in helping an animal in distress, though.

In my experience the RSPCA are awful. I'm with you on that.

DancingonmyOwn88 · 15/07/2026 13:58

AnonymityAnonymity · 15/07/2026 13:56

I think people like yourself and other posters should stop bad mouthing the RSPCA.

Unless you can suggest other organisations to report animal cruelty too then discouraging people to report to the RSPCA is beyond irresponsible.

And advocating that people resort to stealing is down right wrong.

Other animal welfare charities that can do actual outreach on the ground work are usually area dependent, so there’s no point randomly suggesting any when we don’t know OP’s location.

AnonymityAnonymity · 15/07/2026 13:56

redboxer321 · 15/07/2026 13:48

People really need to stop banging on about the RSPCA. They are really are no better than a chocolate teapot when it comes to animal cruelty.

I think take the poor GP if you can OP or talk to your neighbour and make it clear you are not taking no for an answer. Good on you btw. Good to hear you care and are taking action in the world where 'not my circus, not my monkeys' seem to be how most people think.

Ignore @Shakeoffyourchains too.

I think people like yourself and other posters should stop bad mouthing the RSPCA.

Unless you can suggest other organisations to report animal cruelty too then discouraging people to report to the RSPCA is beyond irresponsible.

And advocating that people resort to stealing is down right wrong.

FreddysFingers · 15/07/2026 13:49

faithfultoGeorgeMichael · 15/07/2026 13:40

DO NOT REPORT TO THE RSPCA!!!

I did exactly this re my neighbours - I was promised anonymity. They TOLD HIM IT WAS ME and he started a hate campaign that lasted until we moved. Worst 2 years of my life, truly awful. The RSPCA are mainly focused on the RSPCA and it's 'campaigns' and not helping animals in the UK ime.

When I reported an acquaintance, I did it without giving my name and they still visited the property.

redboxer321 · 15/07/2026 13:48

People really need to stop banging on about the RSPCA. They are really are no better than a chocolate teapot when it comes to animal cruelty.

I think take the poor GP if you can OP or talk to your neighbour and make it clear you are not taking no for an answer. Good on you btw. Good to hear you care and are taking action in the world where 'not my circus, not my monkeys' seem to be how most people think.

Ignore @Shakeoffyourchains too.

Eyesopenwideawake · 15/07/2026 13:48

Sweetdreamsbeautifulnightmare · 15/07/2026 13:16

I’m wondering how to word it in order to take the Guinea myself! I don’t want to call RSPCA as she will know and if they then don’t take it away.. that would be worse!

Word it as though she is doing you a favour – you've always wanted a guinea pig and you've fallen in love with her's and could you please buy it off her? She can visit as often as she likes...

FreddysFingers · 15/07/2026 13:47

Shakeoffyourchains · 15/07/2026 13:44

You've just answered your own question. You're 'so upset over the poor baby' but don't care enough to report it for fear of upsetting someone you don't like.

OMG this is horrendous! If you PM me the address, I will report it myself! Poor animal, it's likely starving 😢😢

FreddysFingers · 15/07/2026 13:46

I'd report to the RSPCA, that's beyond cruel! They'll visit, as I reported an acquaintance who had a dog and wasn't looking after it properly. It was anonymous, they visited the property, and the advice needed was given to them which saved the dog from suffering.

Sweetdreamsbeautifulnightmare · 15/07/2026 13:45

Shakeoffyourchains · 15/07/2026 13:44

You've just answered your own question. You're 'so upset over the poor baby' but don't care enough to report it for fear of upsetting someone you don't like.

She’s my neighbour and our sons go to school together. I don’t want to fall out with her but want to help the poor animal.

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DancingonmyOwn88 · 15/07/2026 13:45

Sweetdreamsbeautifulnightmare · 15/07/2026 13:43

It’s sounding like the best option is to steal it and rehome it somewhere. She will be happy as she clearly doesn’t care. I think he was a birthday present for her son who now isn’t bothered. He’s so flighty as he isn’t handled so God knows how I’d catch him!

Scooping him up quickly into a tea towel and into a waiting cat basket might work.

Shakeoffyourchains · 15/07/2026 13:44

Sweetdreamsbeautifulnightmare · 15/07/2026 13:04

I think there was another that died hence it being on its own. I know the RSPCA will do nothing and she will know it could only be me who reported it!

I honestly have guinea pig dreams where I have forgotten we have one and it’s died on hunger or dehydration!

I sometimes see her walk past it to go to her garage at the end of the garden and it squeaks and she just ignores it. It’s made me really dislike her!

You've just answered your own question. You're 'so upset over the poor baby' but don't care enough to report it for fear of upsetting someone you don't like.

Sweetdreamsbeautifulnightmare · 15/07/2026 13:43

It’s sounding like the best option is to steal it and rehome it somewhere. She will be happy as she clearly doesn’t care. I think he was a birthday present for her son who now isn’t bothered. He’s so flighty as he isn’t handled so God knows how I’d catch him!

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StormGazing · 15/07/2026 13:43

… be nice to them neighbour when you tell her, but be clear that it’s really suffering. If she complains then I’d be inclined to let the RSPCA KNOW

kookieCrumbles · 15/07/2026 13:43

We had a similar situation with a neighbour and a tiny kitten. In the end I catnapped it. Cost me a small fortune in kitten formula milk (she was only about 7 weeks old!) and vet bills but she’s now a thriving house cat living a happy life.

StormGazing · 15/07/2026 13:42

I’d take it home!! Take it home, clean it, feed it and tell the neighbour that you hear the poor thing squealing and you can’t bear to see the animal suffering. Guinea pigs need friends too so you’ll need to get another one. It’s illegal in some countries to keep them alone 😞

Magicpaintbrush · 15/07/2026 13:41

It absolutely enrages me when morons treat animals this way - what the fuck did they buy it for in the first place if they couldn't be arsed to look after the poor thing? This has always baffled me, why do people do it?

Regardless of what others have said I would ring the RSPCA anyway and see what they say - they might do something. If not they are better placed to advise you than anyone on here. Ultimately it doesn't matter if the guinea pig goes to you or to another loving family, so long as it is rehomed with people who love it.

MyCrushWithEyeliner · 15/07/2026 13:40

Ohthedaffodils · 15/07/2026 13:35

@Gowlett agree. We rehomed a little terrier dog from dogs trust. He was 3 years old when we got him. He shook all the way to our home when we were driving home.
For 3 years he’d been locked in a room, only allowed out to toilet. He was stick thin.
We had him for 11 fantastic years - we even moved house to give him better dog walks lol.
He passed away on Monday. Very suddenly. I miss his little face.

So sorry about your dog ❤️

Animal cruelty breaks my heart. I hope she changes her mind and lets you have the Guinea Pig. What a shithead she is.

faithfultoGeorgeMichael · 15/07/2026 13:40

DO NOT REPORT TO THE RSPCA!!!

I did exactly this re my neighbours - I was promised anonymity. They TOLD HIM IT WAS ME and he started a hate campaign that lasted until we moved. Worst 2 years of my life, truly awful. The RSPCA are mainly focused on the RSPCA and it's 'campaigns' and not helping animals in the UK ime.

Ohthedaffodils · 15/07/2026 13:35

@Gowlett agree. We rehomed a little terrier dog from dogs trust. He was 3 years old when we got him. He shook all the way to our home when we were driving home.
For 3 years he’d been locked in a room, only allowed out to toilet. He was stick thin.
We had him for 11 fantastic years - we even moved house to give him better dog walks lol.
He passed away on Monday. Very suddenly. I miss his little face.