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How can people not care for their animals?

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Sweetdreamsbeautifulnightmare · 15/07/2026 12:56

We have a new neighbour who moved in a few months ago who has a guinea pig. I get on well with the neighbour and we have socialised. However, she doesn’t look after the guinea pig. I can see it from my garden and it’s never fed nor cleaned out. I’ve hinted at it and she says she doesn’t care about it 😔 she’s basically waiting for it to die! I offered to look after it myself and she skirted around it.

I said again how we would love a guinea pig shall we take it for you and she just kind of ignored me!

However, over the last two weeks it hasn’t been cleaned out and I hear it squealing. When I know she’s gone out to work (she works in a care home and leaves the same time every day) I sneak in and feed it! However I only give it greens and veggies etc.

I’ve now noticed its food bowl of pellets is empty and it has no hay at all either and hasn’t for days. I then went and got some hay and food and have been sneaking that in too! I feel so sorry for it as I’d give it a lovely home and let it run on the grass etc.. this one never comes out at all.

I don’t know what else I can do though? I know he has some annual leave soon so won’t be leaving at the same time for me to sneak in the garden! What would you do?! I genuinely feel so upset for the poor baby!

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AllGoodNamesRGone · 17/07/2026 07:34

Does she come in your house at all? I would just take it, leave the doors open like something has taken it and house it inside.
Keep it inside, where she won't know you have it?
Alternatively I would just tell her it's cruel and you are coming through collect it to take care of it, rather than asking.

pearlchoker · 16/07/2026 21:48

FionnulaTheCooler · 15/07/2026 13:05

Kidnap it and take it to a local rescue. Poor thing.

This!!! Just do it

Pearl69 · 16/07/2026 19:53

I’d be fretting about it too OP. Guinea pigs are so sweet but not as easy to care for as people think. This poor soul is suffering - I’d go with the fox plan…. And distance myself from her - she is not a good person to treat an animal so.

iloveanearlynight · 16/07/2026 13:26

Please please take it OP and make it look like it escaped. Then take it to a rescue centre. That is heartbreaking to read and you MUST intervene immediately. How utterly cruel she is.

Marvellousmeadows · 16/07/2026 13:01

Please can you update us , I can’t stand animal cruelty. Please rescue it ❤️

Bikenutz · 16/07/2026 07:36

Ok - the most important thing is the guinea pig’s welfare.

I would report to RSPCA and tell a local rescue organisation as well.

In the meantime, offer to pay her for the cage - you will take it off her hands etc.

If the RSPCA does nothing and she doesn’t want to sell to you, find a way to make it look like it escaped or was got by a fox, and get it to a rescue centre. In those circumstances you probably can’t keep it but it will find a good home.

I would try to keep things civil but I would struggle to be friendly with someone who could do that to an animal. They sound really ignorant and horrible to purposely leave it to starve to death.

Backedoffhackedoff · 16/07/2026 07:21

MidnightMeltdown · 15/07/2026 23:06

I think that people should be required to get a license before being allowed to get a pet.

What sort of test do you think they should take to get a guinea pig license?!

redboxer321 · 16/07/2026 07:20

MidnightMeltdown · 15/07/2026 23:06

I think that people should be required to get a license before being allowed to get a pet.

What do you think that would do?
People need to get a licence before they drive. Or buy a gun.
It's people that are the problem and laws and licences can only do so much.
I think we need to realise that keeping pets is not in their best interests and they should be relegated to the past when we didn't know better.

MidnightMeltdown · 15/07/2026 23:06

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/07/2026 18:50

Or how about just not bother with them at all
and have animal safety funded by the government and an agency who have real
power?

I think that people should be required to get a license before being allowed to get a pet.

Kamek · 15/07/2026 19:13

And if you do rescue it, I would video yourself doing it, and demonstrating the living conditions it is being kept in, just incase she tries to report you for theft or trespassing.

Kamek · 15/07/2026 19:07

Be the better person OP and take the poor thing and dgaf what she says or thinks of you. Hold your head up high whenever you see her, she's vile. But I would also then take him or her to a reputable rescue who specialises in small animals and will be in a position to care for the poor little thing properly and rehome it to a home with some company

Marvellousmeadows · 15/07/2026 19:06

Please take it, it must be suffering terribly. As for her being a carer , what carer doesn’t look after her own pets !! Sorry I report her to her care home as well !!

giddyboo · 15/07/2026 19:05

DancingonmyOwn88 · 15/07/2026 13:03

I would honestly just take it and make it look like a fox got at it.

Agree. Find someone who'll love it preferably a distance away so she cant track it down. Shes lost her rights to be its owner by neglecting the poor thing. Find a new loving home. If you keep it she'll want it back. Horrible woman.

Ileithyia · 15/07/2026 19:04

I think you have to keep on offering to take it. Is she going away during her annual leave? You could offer to take it whilst she’s away and then say you’d like to keep it maybe? I do agree this is cruelty, and in an ideal world reporting it to the RSPCA would be the solution, but it wouldn’t guarantee any action was taken, and it would cause huge conflict between you and your neighbour.

UnimatrixZeroOne · 15/07/2026 19:03

DancingonmyOwn88 · 15/07/2026 13:03

I would honestly just take it and make it look like a fox got at it.

This. 100%.

faithfultoGeorgeMichael · 15/07/2026 19:00

Rubberduck01 · 15/07/2026 14:11

Thank you for reporting the animal. The fact that they followed up your report shows that they do indeed focus on helping animals.

They did NOTHING and the dog remained chained by the neck on concrete 24/7. It was horrific. They did nothing at all to help because it 'had water and food once a day'

Tableforjoan · 15/07/2026 18:51

Rubberduck01 · 15/07/2026 18:17

It’s because they prioritise those animals most at risk. They only have around 300 inspectors to cover all of the UK and receive approx 2500 calls per day.

That might be why but it doesn’t change when people say oh call the rspca they mostly they won’t be coming. It rather proves they won’t be.

It took a lot of arguing with them to get them to come to chickens flooded out with zero dry space and no food as it was well flooded.

We couldn’t do anything as we had no rights to break into the locked chicken runs, the rspca can with police back up. Police wouldn’t be coming out because an allotment manager rings them about some chickens. We needed them and they tried so hard to not come.

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/07/2026 18:50

redboxer321 · 15/07/2026 18:46

Here's an idea: how about the chief exec and all the other execs take a pay cut? They'd be able to employ a fair few more inspectors then.

Or how about just not bother with them at all
and have animal safety funded by the government and an agency who have real
power?

redboxer321 · 15/07/2026 18:46

Rubberduck01 · 15/07/2026 18:17

It’s because they prioritise those animals most at risk. They only have around 300 inspectors to cover all of the UK and receive approx 2500 calls per day.

Here's an idea: how about the chief exec and all the other execs take a pay cut? They'd be able to employ a fair few more inspectors then.

WhatYouWearing · 15/07/2026 18:38

@Sweetdreamsbeautifulnightmare don’t offer to buy it. That’s what I did and she said no.

It’s best to take it secretly and rehome. If it goes wrong and she finds out tell her you’ll happily hand it over to rspca. Take photos of the bare cage with no hay etc. if filthy or no water, even better.

Get your evidence ready. You are rescuing it. Good luck.

Rubberduck01 · 15/07/2026 18:17

Tableforjoan · 15/07/2026 17:09

Because ops feeding it the rspca wouldn’t actually do anything as the owner could claim they have been feeding it also op would have to leave it well alone.

Rspca act the best when there is a tv crew behind them mostly or a known case that will make it into the papers because it’s really really bad. Like the 30 dogs in a shit covered house type stories.

Not normally that fussed about 1 pet especially small furries.

We struggle to get them out for chickens on the allotment and have to exaggerate a lot to get them to attend. Once you can get them out they can be good but getting them out in the first place seems to take a lot.

It’s because they prioritise those animals most at risk. They only have around 300 inspectors to cover all of the UK and receive approx 2500 calls per day.

Enigma54 · 15/07/2026 17:35

I hope you can hatch a plan to rescue the piggie OP. Poor little thing, why are people so ridiculously cruel and thoughtless? Makes my blood boil!

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/07/2026 17:29

AnonymityAnonymity · 15/07/2026 17:23

People do all sorts of things that break the law for all sorts of reasons, some of which are altruistic. But unfortunately the law doesn't recognise nuance.

It doesn’t matter though because in this case the law won’t be enforced, therefore no impact of breaking it. The law will be ignorant of this, not asked to recognise nuance

AnonymityAnonymity · 15/07/2026 17:23

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/07/2026 16:54

Does anyone care though? We could get into a philosophical conversation about stealing 😂 but does it matter purely because you can apply the word stealing? Because there is always nuance to such things

People do all sorts of things that break the law for all sorts of reasons, some of which are altruistic. But unfortunately the law doesn't recognise nuance.

Mrstawnyowl · 15/07/2026 17:22

I agree with other posters about offering the woman some money. It should show her you’re serious about wanting to look after it.