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Employers expecting you to give your life up

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3cats00 · 15/07/2026 11:34

I interviewed for a domiciliary care position, which I have previously done on a 0 hours contract. This one offers guaranteed hours which sounded good, but after interview I've found out they expect you to be available 7am-10pm 5 days a week to meet this.

As I say I've worked in the industry before and know how it works, but I was never expected to work 5 evenings per week. In my old company I agreed certain evenings, certain mornings and afternoons etc. And I could be called to do overtime but it wasn't compulsory.

It'll be split shifts with a gap in the afternoon. They've said care staff need to provide this essentially 75-hour availability window in order to get the guaranteed hours? I think I'm going to have to decline, it's not fair to my relationship and I have pets who need feeding/letting out in the afternoons, it's not fair on them either.

Would any other industry ask this? Maybe I'm being unreasonable but they're essentially asking care staff to give up any sort of flexibility or freedom.

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Bjorkdidit · 15/07/2026 11:49

If they want that sort of availability, they should ask employees to be available for example 3 long days a week and pay them at least NMW for all of those hours whether or not they're actively caring or travelling between clients.

Presumably being available for those hours means you can't travel too far away from your area or do something like go to the cinema because you're on call and could be asked to work at any time? So if they're looking to restrict your life in that way, it should be reflected in your pay.

3cats00 · 15/07/2026 11:48

I am disappointed as I enjoy the actual work of caring for people but if I took this job I wouldn't have much of a life sadly.

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3cats00 · 15/07/2026 11:46

I have no issue with working evenings, but asking staff to do 5 evenings a week is a lot. It's the fact that these 5 days you can't really do anything else, it's bits of work here and there throughout the day, might have a solid hour or so in the afternoon but by the time you've got home probably time to head out again.

I questioned this and they said I could mitigate it by offering a 6th working day of working just mornings and afternoons? No way. And they wonder why they're always hiring.

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januaryjanuarydone · 15/07/2026 11:46

Oh gosh just saw your post where you would be covering earlies and lates everyday. Unless you are absolutely desperate for a job, who would want that?

januaryjanuarydone · 15/07/2026 11:44

No that doesn’t sound fair and would only suit a very specific type of person. I struggle to understand how it would work, too. Surely carers would be given their regular client group with set days and times to fill their regular hours. I can understand that they would want maybe additional availability to cover illness etc, but not blanket full availability covering morning till night everyday, that’s ridiculous.

3cats00 · 15/07/2026 11:42

Stompythedinosaur · 15/07/2026 11:38

Care work is notoriously unreasonable to staff.

Does this mean you'd be working these hours every week or would you have a rota in advance of what early or late finishes you'd have?

I asked and it sounded like I'd be doing a couple of hours in the morning, lunchtime, a break then back out for teas and beds, essentially split shifts 5 days a week, very difficult to plan anything around.

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3cats00 · 15/07/2026 11:41

ofcolitas · 15/07/2026 11:39

YANBU I'm guessing it's Helping Hands. It's fucking cheeky whoever it is. They want the best of both worlds.

It isn't them but similar. I'm disappointed as it's rare for home care companies to offer guaranteed hours.

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ofcolitas · 15/07/2026 11:39

YANBU I'm guessing it's Helping Hands. It's fucking cheeky whoever it is. They want the best of both worlds.

Stompythedinosaur · 15/07/2026 11:38

Care work is notoriously unreasonable to staff.

Does this mean you'd be working these hours every week or would you have a rota in advance of what early or late finishes you'd have?

MrsPinkSky · 15/07/2026 11:38

There are all sorts of jobs in different industries with crazy hours, but they suit some people well.

This doesn't suit you that's all.