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To have gone round to neighbours about their dog?

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Chefpig · 15/07/2026 11:09

I've posted before about my neighbours and their very barky dog who barks throughout the day, so frequently and it's now every ten minutes or so.

I went to the council about it and they sent a letter to them and I've been keeping logs.

They can keep it quiet and have done on several occasions but most days it barks and barks and barks.

Its got to the point where wfh, watching tv, eating a meal, reading, anything basically is disturbed and barking has started being late at night. Neighbours also shout at each other most days and dog. Both are ill, heart issues and cancer, but also clearly antisocial and disrespectful to their neighbours.

This morning, the dog was barking an insane amount. Both are home all the time (retired) whilst dog is barking. This has been going on a year since I moved here. I was supposed to be presenting on a work call but dog was coming through on the call. Really shit.

I went round and I asked very nicely and calmly if they can keep dog quiet. He said they're trying. I replied that they have kept dog quiet on a few occasions for long periods of time, why can't they do that all the time. He just told me 'we're trying'. I said its very antisocial to keep letting your dog bark and not once have they come round and said sorry and he said, 'sorry for what?' I said for being antisocial. He then got more dismissive and angry and told me he's very busy, walked past me and got into his car.

There have been times in the past where they invited me in to meet the dog after I got exasperated by the barking and the dog barked at me non stop the whole time I was there and the few times I've seen male neighbour out and about and stopped him to ask what they're doing about the barking (im always very nice and calm), and I was told they're going to start training but each time they also have said they don't have time to do training due to their health concerns which is bollocks as she is sat in that house shouting and arguing with him every day and he is in that house 22 hours a day. Dog never ever gets walked.

Anyway, I left it at that but my mental health is so low.

The council are doing their thing, but I wondered if they'll take their health into consideration and be lenient?

I also thought of taking them to court myself but I wondered if the judge may be lenient too? I can offer pages and pages of written logs and sound recordings but not sure I'll get anywhere anymore.

I can't afford to move.

OP posts:
ScrambledEggs12 · 15/07/2026 12:21

PennyPugwash · 15/07/2026 12:15

I’m sure you’ve posted about this before

OP said in the first line that she'd posted about it before!

OnTheTop · 15/07/2026 12:21

PennyPugwash · 15/07/2026 12:15

I’m sure you’ve posted about this before

Have you read the OP? It says they’ve posted before!

Bonkers1966 · 15/07/2026 12:18

Record the dog, that's a good idea. Then wait until they are asleep and play it back on a really good speaker next to their wall. Maybe you could leave the house while that's happening. Keep doing that.

PennyPugwash · 15/07/2026 12:15

I’m sure you’ve posted about this before

Chefpig · 15/07/2026 12:15

Thanks everyone. The dog is three so I don't think the dog is going to die anytime soon. It's not its fault its neglected also.

It's really bad but I'm to the point I think of walking out into the sea and just drowning (i wouldn't do it), but also I hope the neighbours get so poorly they end up in care so the dog gets adopted out. They're shit owners and shit neighbours and can't see they're so antisocial, which is infuriating. If I were them I'd be mortified my neighbours were impacted by my lack of attempts to be quiet.

I did think of playing their dog barking all day on repeat to them whilst I was out but that could affect my progress with the council and their willingness to help perhaps.

I just think their illnesses might make the council more lenient.

The funny part is, if the male neighbour and I pass in the street he always looks over to say hello. I'm over pleasantries at this point with such antisocial twats!!!

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Viviennemary · 15/07/2026 12:13

This must be unbearable. I'm not at all keen on dogs. Next door to me have two. They do bark occasionally and I think that's ok. A few minutes once or twice a day. I suppose your neighbours just can't stop them barking.

Mingou · 15/07/2026 11:50

Poor dog as well. Untrained, unwalked, neglected.

I know someone in a similar situation and they dogknapped the barker and brought it 200 miles away to a shelter where it was trained and adopted.
Not suggesting anyone does that though

GladStork · 15/07/2026 11:42

I’m a dog owner and this is totally unacceptable for you to suffer this. My in-laws had a dog like this for the same reason, they never walked it. Poor thing was bored rigid and going insane sitting watching telly with two couch potatoes all day. My DH rightly or wrongly said it had ‘Pensioner dog syndrome’ although obviously many older dog owners are very responsible and active. It was a relief (probably for the dog too) when the poor thing sadly headed over the rainbow bridge. We live the other end of the country so couldn’t help get the poor soul out. Nobody has the right to regularly inflict this noise on their neighbours.

HappiestSleeping · 15/07/2026 11:29

It is so frustrating, especially when it is relatively easy to teach the dog not to bark.

I have two who live across the back from me, and they bark if you breathe too loudly. There is an alley between us, so everyone that walks past sets them off.

I look after dogs, and every time I jave a new one to stay, I have to spend the first couple of hours teaching mine not to bark when the ones over the back start. Frustrating, but also gives me good practice and has benefits elsewhere for the dogs staying with me.

Bonkers1966 · 15/07/2026 11:22

There are gadgets you can buy for dogs like this but you shouldn't be asking on MN where entitled pet owners are treated with far more respect than folks whose health is being eroded. Take care.

Booboo463 · 15/07/2026 11:20

Oh I feel for you . I suffered almost 3 years , dog was left alone 8am till 6pm , rarely walked and squealed and barked the whole day . I felt unwell . My asking / polite notes / were Ignored until they moved away . I hope for your sake environmental health help you . It's all so very wrong .

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