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To have gone round to neighbours about their dog?

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Chefpig · 15/07/2026 11:09

I've posted before about my neighbours and their very barky dog who barks throughout the day, so frequently and it's now every ten minutes or so.

I went to the council about it and they sent a letter to them and I've been keeping logs.

They can keep it quiet and have done on several occasions but most days it barks and barks and barks.

Its got to the point where wfh, watching tv, eating a meal, reading, anything basically is disturbed and barking has started being late at night. Neighbours also shout at each other most days and dog. Both are ill, heart issues and cancer, but also clearly antisocial and disrespectful to their neighbours.

This morning, the dog was barking an insane amount. Both are home all the time (retired) whilst dog is barking. This has been going on a year since I moved here. I was supposed to be presenting on a work call but dog was coming through on the call. Really shit.

I went round and I asked very nicely and calmly if they can keep dog quiet. He said they're trying. I replied that they have kept dog quiet on a few occasions for long periods of time, why can't they do that all the time. He just told me 'we're trying'. I said its very antisocial to keep letting your dog bark and not once have they come round and said sorry and he said, 'sorry for what?' I said for being antisocial. He then got more dismissive and angry and told me he's very busy, walked past me and got into his car.

There have been times in the past where they invited me in to meet the dog after I got exasperated by the barking and the dog barked at me non stop the whole time I was there and the few times I've seen male neighbour out and about and stopped him to ask what they're doing about the barking (im always very nice and calm), and I was told they're going to start training but each time they also have said they don't have time to do training due to their health concerns which is bollocks as she is sat in that house shouting and arguing with him every day and he is in that house 22 hours a day. Dog never ever gets walked.

Anyway, I left it at that but my mental health is so low.

The council are doing their thing, but I wondered if they'll take their health into consideration and be lenient?

I also thought of taking them to court myself but I wondered if the judge may be lenient too? I can offer pages and pages of written logs and sound recordings but not sure I'll get anywhere anymore.

I can't afford to move.

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concertinacornflake · 15/07/2026 16:00

Neighbours also shout at each other most days and dog. Both are ill, heart issues and cancer,

The situation you are in is awful, stressful, enraging.

But given what you know about your neighbours, there is absolutely no point going round to discuss. They are not in any state to listen, reflect, change - it isn't going to happen.

You need to minimise the impact rather than waste any more energy on asking why or wishing it would change.

Keep following the council process.

MsAmanda · 15/07/2026 15:59

JJkate · 15/07/2026 15:53

Can I ask the dog people on this thread if it's possible to train a 5 year old cavalier king Charles not to bark? I know one who goes mad about cats and planes and people walking past and the owners say it's just how the breed is?

It absolutely is possible to train this dog but owners who are particularly thick, don’t grasp that training a dog has to be their way of life. It’s not a case of job done. The techniques need to be repeated and repeated.
My neighbours have a horrendous barking dog, they saw a trainer but completely believe the training didn’t work, but that’s because they didn’t do the work. So devastatingly thick, and the impact of living next door is truly awful.

JJkate · 15/07/2026 15:53

Can I ask the dog people on this thread if it's possible to train a 5 year old cavalier king Charles not to bark? I know one who goes mad about cats and planes and people walking past and the owners say it's just how the breed is?

Chefpig · 15/07/2026 15:49

Sidebeforeself · 15/07/2026 15:44

No need to be ageist . How does that help the OP.

OP be careful about using any loud noise as a retaliation. It’s not fair on other neighbours and weakens your position.

Its so difficult not to shout at them to shut the dog up when its barking its head off again. Since I got the council involved I am very careful though.

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Sidebeforeself · 15/07/2026 15:44

Chefpig · 15/07/2026 12:32

Oh it is. The dog rules them. Ive heard it snapping at them and them squealing. Its ridiculous really. He hates the dog. When we spoke all friendly and she invited me in, she gushed how it loved to sit in the window all day (where it barks at everything) and told me laughing how its passed being trained now. Meanwhile when I stop him in the street, he tells me theyre starting training very soon everytime and that its not been done yet because of 'everything going on'. That'll be them sitting in the living room all day, everyday then apart from his one hour visit to the shop and his evening visit to the pub. The same time every single day.

No need to be ageist . How does that help the OP.

OP be careful about using any loud noise as a retaliation. It’s not fair on other neighbours and weakens your position.

MeDadMeDad · 15/07/2026 15:43

Some people should not have dogs! The poor dog needs walking every day, Throughout the day. It's not rocket science.
Can they not pay a dog walker to come in daily and walk him? That will stop the barking.

Chefpig · 15/07/2026 15:38

LivingwithHopenowandforever · 15/07/2026 15:08

@Chefpig Hey OP, I am a dog owner and I am appalled by your neighbours behaviour. My dog only barks late at night

They clearly are not fit enough to be owning a dog & I think that is the real evidence you need to show. Along with the logs include whether the dog has been taken out that day along with pictures of the garden when the dog has 💩

Add to that if you have spoken to them that day about the dogs barking. Your mental health is being affected and you need to find out if any other neighbours are also affected by the barking.

The more evidence you can gather to show they are not fit to own a dog the better.

Thank you. I will definitely include them not walking the dog.

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Chefpig · 15/07/2026 15:36

They can't even look after themselves it seems, let alone an anxious, under-stimulated dog. Their house is filthy.

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LivingwithHopenowandforever · 15/07/2026 15:08

@Chefpig Hey OP, I am a dog owner and I am appalled by your neighbours behaviour. My dog only barks late at night

They clearly are not fit enough to be owning a dog & I think that is the real evidence you need to show. Along with the logs include whether the dog has been taken out that day along with pictures of the garden when the dog has 💩

Add to that if you have spoken to them that day about the dogs barking. Your mental health is being affected and you need to find out if any other neighbours are also affected by the barking.

The more evidence you can gather to show they are not fit to own a dog the better.

BackToLurk · 15/07/2026 14:58

WoodGlue · 15/07/2026 12:48

How do you teach them not to bark?
Mine is calm when I’m out but barks like a demon when I’m home. Training her to not bark has only taught her to bark more - the trainer we’ve worked with has never met a dog like her!
I know not the point of the thread, but I’m always open to learning new techniques!

Everything @HappiestSleeping said. Ignoring demand barking, which is harddddddd.

Also Dogs Trust have a free behaviour line

https://www.dogstrust.org.uk/get-help/behaviour-support-line-0

Our behaviour services | Dogs Trust

Whether you’re facing a tricky behaviour or feeling completely overwhelmed, we’re here to help. Our team of experts can offer advice, training and

https://www.dogstrust.org.uk/get-help/behaviour-support-line-0

GladStork · 15/07/2026 14:58

Might be worth a call to the RSPCA. They do pop into older folk not coping and if the husband wouldn’t mind rehoming it, they might convince the wife its the only way due to noise issues and the fact she’s already admitted to you she’s struggling due to illness.

Passingthrough123 · 15/07/2026 14:53

fantastiq · 15/07/2026 14:45

Far too many dogs. Why does everybody with a pulse have to own a bloody dog! What's wrong with a lovely chilled cat.

Dogs are amazing! Getting ours has changed my life in such a good way. And it's almost never the dog that's the problem, it's ALWAYS crap owners (I'm discounting XLs here). They should bring back dog licences to prove the suitability of owners.

Chefpig · 15/07/2026 14:51

They can't even look after themselves it seems, let alone an anxious, under-stimulated dog. Their house is filthy.

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LivingwithHopenowandforever · 15/07/2026 14:48

fantastiq · 15/07/2026 14:45

Far too many dogs. Why does everybody with a pulse have to own a bloody dog! What's wrong with a lovely chilled cat.

Maybe because they don’t want a cat?!

fantastiq · 15/07/2026 14:45

Chefpig · 15/07/2026 11:09

I've posted before about my neighbours and their very barky dog who barks throughout the day, so frequently and it's now every ten minutes or so.

I went to the council about it and they sent a letter to them and I've been keeping logs.

They can keep it quiet and have done on several occasions but most days it barks and barks and barks.

Its got to the point where wfh, watching tv, eating a meal, reading, anything basically is disturbed and barking has started being late at night. Neighbours also shout at each other most days and dog. Both are ill, heart issues and cancer, but also clearly antisocial and disrespectful to their neighbours.

This morning, the dog was barking an insane amount. Both are home all the time (retired) whilst dog is barking. This has been going on a year since I moved here. I was supposed to be presenting on a work call but dog was coming through on the call. Really shit.

I went round and I asked very nicely and calmly if they can keep dog quiet. He said they're trying. I replied that they have kept dog quiet on a few occasions for long periods of time, why can't they do that all the time. He just told me 'we're trying'. I said its very antisocial to keep letting your dog bark and not once have they come round and said sorry and he said, 'sorry for what?' I said for being antisocial. He then got more dismissive and angry and told me he's very busy, walked past me and got into his car.

There have been times in the past where they invited me in to meet the dog after I got exasperated by the barking and the dog barked at me non stop the whole time I was there and the few times I've seen male neighbour out and about and stopped him to ask what they're doing about the barking (im always very nice and calm), and I was told they're going to start training but each time they also have said they don't have time to do training due to their health concerns which is bollocks as she is sat in that house shouting and arguing with him every day and he is in that house 22 hours a day. Dog never ever gets walked.

Anyway, I left it at that but my mental health is so low.

The council are doing their thing, but I wondered if they'll take their health into consideration and be lenient?

I also thought of taking them to court myself but I wondered if the judge may be lenient too? I can offer pages and pages of written logs and sound recordings but not sure I'll get anywhere anymore.

I can't afford to move.

Far too many dogs. Why does everybody with a pulse have to own a bloody dog! What's wrong with a lovely chilled cat.

FaceIt · 15/07/2026 14:42

I would try the high pitched gadget.

If that didn’t work, load speaker against their bedroom wall and leave it on all night and stay in a hotel.

I just can’t believe how selfish some people are. The poor dog needs to go to good owners.

Passingthrough123 · 15/07/2026 14:37

Have you thought about speaking to the RSPCA or Dogs' Trust for advice @Chefpig? The constant barking could be a sign of distress and coupled with what you recorded about their treatment of their old dog, they don't sound at all like fit owners. The RSPCA may take a view on it being left to bark all day.

1989STAR · 15/07/2026 14:30

My mum jas this gadget think that emits a high pitched noise the dog doesn't like when it barks too much. It quietens the dog instantly. Now she only has to pick ot up not actually press it and the dog is quiet.

Chefpig · 15/07/2026 14:27

Morepositivemum · 15/07/2026 14:23

Op the man sounds quite reasonable, what would he say if you asked would they consider rehoming?

He would in an instant as he hates the dog. She wouldn't entertain it. When he goes out, she let's the dog bark and bark regardless of what time it is. Ive been woken past 10pm many times as that is when shes home alone and he goes to the pub daily.

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WiddlinDiddlin · 15/07/2026 14:27

If you take them to a small claims court, where it is expected that you represent yourself so there shouldn't really be any costs for the defendant, then no, you do not pay any costs if you lose.

However you'd have to prove they have cost you financially and thats not easy in this situation.

They could train the dog that every noise or movement it hears/sees = reward, classical counter conditioning, altering the emotional response, and when the emotional response changes, the barking goes away. (More to it than that but it does work).

This isn't hard but requires consistency in being in the same room/space with the dog at all times - having high value rewards on them at all times - ensuring that they can remove the dog from somewhere without yelling/chasing (ie a long line) at all times. Typically takes a few weeks to see decent results.

The issue with punishing barking is that barking is in itself, inherently rewarding - its enjoyable to bark - if there is a noise whilst the dog is barking (ie a human yelling SHUT THE FUCKING DOG UP) this may reinforce the barking either because the dog was seeking a response (bored, lonely) or because the dog thinks the person is joining in (you shout, i shout, we all shout, hurrah!).

So then you're letting the dog practice an inherently rewarding behaviour - same with the 'wait for the dog to shut up then reward them' - you're letting them practice, and hoping they will guess that they should shut up (they won't) or hoping that your timing in rewarding the second the pause for breath will be spot on (it almost always won't be).

Morepositivemum · 15/07/2026 14:25

And yes if you lists a court case you’d be liable for costs but I wonder if you’d be taking them to small claims or higher- then it may not cost so much. Given the man talks to you though I don’t know that anything heavy handed is the answer

Morepositivemum · 15/07/2026 14:23

Op the man sounds quite reasonable, what would he say if you asked would they consider rehoming?

Chefpig · 15/07/2026 14:19

ScholesPanda · 15/07/2026 12:37

For the sake of your own mental health I think you need to stop dwelling on it OP. It's clearly not doing you much good. Focus on what you can control and do that for now.

They clearly believe they are trying, however ineffectual that might be, if you get the same response every time you ask it's clearly not going to change. They may eventually decide they can't handle the dog due to their health, fingers crossed.

Keep completing your log and hopefully the council will do their thing eventually.

I wouldn't get involved in retribution or it will become a two sided neighbour dispute that goes nowhere.

They can't believe they are trying because they often can keep the dog quiet for hours and hours. This is only when I have the sort of visitors who are vocal about the never ending barking though. They seem to see the car pull up and miraculously shut the dog up.

I'd shout at them to shut the fucking dog up everyday but I could get in trouble for harassment apparently.

If I took them to court myself, I have read I'll have to pay their legal costs if I lose the case. Does anyone know if that's correct?

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Oliwiaa · 15/07/2026 14:00

Every time it barks go and hammer on the door and tell them to stop it!

ChoosingMyOwnRandomUsername · 15/07/2026 13:56

I think we need much stricter laws on dog ownership in this country and that def includes older people who keep pets in captivity for company

Absolutely agree.

My mum is 75 and nearly entirely immobile. She can walk to the end of the drive and that's it and this has been the case for several years. She has a beagle...a beagle ffs. It never leaves the house or garden, ever, and it's heartbreaking. I've also warned her that when this one dies (which will be soon) that if she gets another dog or puppy I will physically remove it and rehome it even if it causes WW3 (and it would, my sisters are as daft as she is).

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