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Neighbour and his england flag!

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incrediblyincredible · 15/07/2026 10:30

Our NDN are both 80, and we don’t have the best relationship with them, we feel they can be a bit inconsiderate in terms of boundary noise. We’ve had to mention a couple of things which have affected the enjoyment of our home. So we don’t really speak anymore and they have clearly taken offence despite us mentioning things in a polite way.

Anyway, the man has put up a large England flag on a pole on the joining fence. It’s right at the front of the house and the pole isn’t particularly high so the flag flaps in our faces or visitors faces when they open our gate to go down our walkway. This morning I got pissed off with it as the wind is always blowing our way so the flag is always over our boundary and it looks like it’s our flag as a result (just to add I love football and have no issues with the flag itself, just the positioning of it).
So this morning I wrapped it round the pole and opened my gate to make a point that it’s a walkway.
Anyway, I was sat in my living room and I heard the man come out and say “someone’s wrapped that up!” In an angry loud voice.
AIBU to think that he should realise it’s a bit inconsiderate and could put the flag in an area that doesn’t hang over our boundary?

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AnonymityAnonymity · 15/07/2026 10:40

If you haven't been on speaking terms lately no doubt he will interpret you doing that with the flag as an act of aggression towards them. Not that I blame you for being annoyed about the flag btw.

I think either you need to break your not speaking to them rule and try and talk to them about it. Or just put up with the flag on the expectation it will come down when the football is over.

On the whole I favour just putting up with the damned thing because in my experience if he k nows it is annoying you he is more likely just to leave it up to spite you instead of taking it down at the end of the tournament

dnadiscoveryquery · 15/07/2026 10:39

Nannyfannybanny · 15/07/2026 10:37

Do you mean the St George Cross?

That’s generally the England Flag isn’t it?

Fluffyholeysocks · 15/07/2026 10:39

incrediblyincredible · 15/07/2026 10:35

I’m just thinking if we win the World Cup it’ll be up for ages. Plus the 3rd place play off. Also we’d be looking at the same issue again in 2 years with the euros etc etc

In that case I'd seriously consider moving.

Slowfaded · 15/07/2026 10:39

Ask him if he has a right of overhang over your property. If he doesn't, he's trespassing and tell him you'll deal with it how you see fit.

MickyMoonshine · 15/07/2026 10:37

incrediblyincredible · 15/07/2026 10:35

I’m just thinking if we win the World Cup it’ll be up for ages. Plus the 3rd place play off. Also we’d be looking at the same issue again in 2 years with the euros etc etc

It finishes on Sunday.

Nannyfannybanny · 15/07/2026 10:37

Do you mean the St George Cross?

MickyMoonshine · 15/07/2026 10:36

If it’s just up for the World Cup then I’d leave it as it ends in a matter of days. That might be less hassle than a longer dispute if they’re a bit awkward.

Malinia · 15/07/2026 10:36

Pop round and ask him to move it because it is flapping in people's faces as they walk along the path.

incrediblyincredible · 15/07/2026 10:35

I’m just thinking if we win the World Cup it’ll be up for ages. Plus the 3rd place play off. Also we’d be looking at the same issue again in 2 years with the euros etc etc

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Fluffyholeysocks · 15/07/2026 10:34

Can you put up a notice so people know the flag isn't yours? You really don't want people thinking you might be supporting your country in the world cup do you?

AmberSpy · 15/07/2026 10:33

YANBU. If it's likely to be just a World Cup thing I'd ignore as it'll go down soon. If you think it's permanent I'd try to have a word (although I appreciate it won't be easy!)

Johnogroats · 15/07/2026 10:32

Completely see where you are coming from. Could they position it elsewhere? Could you politely ask if it could be moved as you’re concerned it might get knocked or damaged?